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Kissing your kids on the lips

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greenflower279 · 11/03/2020 21:31

Have seen a couple posts about this on other SM sites.

Is it unreasonable to think it is absolutely ludicrous to think there is anything wrong with kissing your kids on the lips??

Curious on other people's thoughts.

OP posts:
Oysterbabe · 12/03/2020 06:34

I sometimes get cold sores so avoid if possible, and definitely if I have one. My 2 year old loves planting a big slobbery kiss ony lips though. My 4 year old is happy with cheek kisses. Of course there's nothing wrong with it.

RasberryRoyale · 12/03/2020 06:37

I don’t like it. To me it’s weird!

CarlottaValdez · 12/03/2020 06:37

DS used to do this thing where he would grip me by both ears and come in with his mouth wide open for a kiss. It was pretty full on.

Fishcakey · 12/03/2020 06:40

My family always kissed me on the lips and now I kiss my DS on the lips. What's wrong with it? He can say Ugh Get Off Mum if he objects. He doesn't though.

Hellodotdotdot · 12/03/2020 06:50

Nothing wrong with it.

DP and I are the only ones allowed to kiss DD on the lips.

TeachesOfPeaches · 12/03/2020 06:51

I've seen this a few times and don't understand the issue? My 4 year old grabs my face and gives me big full on the lips kisses. It makes him happy.

Why do some people think it's wrong?

Monstermummymum · 12/03/2020 06:56

What is the world coming to? Of course it isn't strange to kiss your children on the lips. I always kissed my parents on the lips as a child and now my DH and I kiss out toddlers on the lips. As someone else said- at about 6 months both of them were open mouth kissing like a fish. I loved those kisses and miss them. I am sure when my boys are older they won't kiss us on the lips anymore but for now, I see nothing wrong with it.

JoshArcherStoleMyTractor · 12/03/2020 06:56

I don't kiss DS on the lips, but he occasionally does if I go in for a cheek kiss. Mainly because if I kiss him on the lips he opens his mouth or licks me and he's like a tiny listen snotty germ and slobber dispenser, I love him very much but he can be a bit gross

JoshArcherStoleMyTractor · 12/03/2020 06:57

*often snotty

pilates · 12/03/2020 06:58

No I do not like it. Herpes is a good reason not to.

Ponoka7 · 12/03/2020 07:01

It's the risk of cold sores and children passing on infection why i don't like it.

If both parents are together, or one is celibate then it the risk of cold sores etc is, less.

TeachesOfPeaches · 12/03/2020 07:04

But people kiss their husband/wives etc on the lips but not their kids?

millymaud · 12/03/2020 07:07

To be honest fish that’s sort of why I dislike it.

What you grow up with becomes normal for you. Kissing on the lips is generally considered to be a sexual or at the least highly intimate action. It blurs the boundaries and creates confusion.

Lifeisgenerallyfun · 12/03/2020 07:18

There is nothing wrong with it, I kiss my DS and my dad on the lips. Fine if other people don’t want to do it themselves, but passing comment on others doing something they themselves are comfortable with indicates some weird hang ups

PurpleSproutingSomething · 12/03/2020 07:36

My son is 11 and I've always kissed him on the lips, if he ever didn't want to, that's fine.
I'm mid 30s and still kiss my parents on the lips sometimes, and my brothers.
I love them. It's only a peck.

Oysterbabe · 12/03/2020 08:41

Kissing on the lips is generally considered to be a sexual or at the least highly intimate action. It blurs the boundaries and creates confusion.

That is some properly fucked up thinking right there. When my 2 year old son kisses me on the lips I can assure you there is no confusion or blurred boundaries.

millymaud · 12/03/2020 08:43

Of course not, he’s 2. If he grabs your breasts or bottom the same. As he grows though he will gently be taught about boundaries, won’t he?

Strugglingtodomybest · 12/03/2020 08:47

I kiss my two on the lips, and anyone who thinks that's weird is, imo, weird.

St0pTryingT0MakeFetchHappen · 12/03/2020 08:49

ew. No. YABU. Feels wrong.

QuizzlyBear · 12/03/2020 08:53

My boys are 13 & 15 and still pucker up for a kiss. If I say good night and don't end it with 'love you!' they harass me until I do!

But then, I still kiss my 70+ parents on the lips...

Cruciferous · 12/03/2020 08:53

It probably depends what you've grown up with. My parents never did it with me so I find it really odd as I associate kissing on the lips with purely romantic/sexual relationships. I just don't really see the need for it but I get that if you were raised with it, you wouldn't have the same reservations.

Cruciferous · 12/03/2020 08:54

Sorry X post

Hobbesmanc · 12/03/2020 08:55

I kissed my mum on the lips until the day she died. As an child then an adult. Never even thought that it wasnt perfectly natural- and certainly not sexual- some weird thinking here.

millymaud · 12/03/2020 08:55

That proves my point perfectly quizzly

daisypond · 12/03/2020 08:57

I think it’s very odd. And unhygienic. No wonder kids pick up diseases left, right and centre, and then spread them around.

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