I've just been told to be quiet.... in wetherspoons!

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Called off for quick drink with friend/colleague in spoons (dont judge me, it's cheap and it has an app). Very shitty day, letting off a bit of steam, quite 'passionately' discussing a certain management discussion.
The table next to us are eating, and have a wee baby with them. I would guess around 6 months? After a particularly robust rant, we've just been told off for waking the baby.
They were there first, we are prob a bit annoying, but taking your baby to a pub then complaining it gets woken up!!
I'm very

Who goes into spoons expecting it to be quiet? It's a pub for christ's sake, I'd tell them to piss off.

What did you post for op? You’re very sure you wer right and they were wrong. Do you really need the validation of folks agreeing with you?

It takes a bit of nerve to tell others that they’re being too loud. Maybe you were too loud.
‘Spoons is usually family friendly. It sounds like you two weren’t being family friendly.

I always get told to move in wetherspoons because I'm always standing in the way of a fire exit

Why? Are you scared of fire? So stand at rhe exit just in case.? [comfused]

It’s not just for over 18s is it though? They seem to pride themselves on being family friendly. I have a mate I meet up with once in a while and I try not to meet up with them too much as their voice booms and the swear every third word no matter who is sat next to them. You see everyone getting wound up and some move. It’s embarrassing. So yeah sometimes there is ‘too loud’.
However I think it’s the parents problem that their child woke up. Not yours.

I bet you were ranting non-stop and at top volume. If I’d been in your vicinity I’d probably have been wishing you’d shut the fuck up.

Mind you, I have absolutely zero sympathy for anyone who takes their child into a pub and expects everyone to alter their behaviour.

It is a family friendly pub often with kids running about and making lots of noise. So hard luck that for a change it was an adult making the noise.

@Bluntness100 it is a joke about standing in front of the fire exit. An old one at that. I'm with the thought that you can only complain of someone disturbing your sleep if you are in bed or some other designated sleeping facility. I love Spoons especially the one in Rochdale where you see all sorts and can have a right laugh even if you are a stranger.

It's wetherspoons, of course there will be loudness... Does nobody here ever go to a pub/spoons? They can be deafeningly loud but it's to be expected!

I don’t think YABU.

It’s a pub, they could have expected that there might be people talking loudly/ loud music etc.
They could have gone somewhere else more quiet, the entitlement of some parents is ridiculous (I have a baby myself and wouldn’t dream of complaining about this).

I want to reiterate again that we weren't drunk, weren't swearing, weren't including anyone else.

You can be as loud, drunk and sweary as you like. It's an adult environment. If you were having the conversation in a baby group or a library rhyme time session, maybe they'd have a point, but in a pub? Crack on!

I love listening to a good work rant, even someone else's

I am of the opinion that if you take your child to a pub you cant complain about anyone swearing, being drunk or smoking in the pub garden but you were acting like the annoy muppet in the quiet carriage of the train.Why do you think everyone within the place has to listen to you ? As i would say to my Grandchildren, use your indoor voice please.

It does annoy me when someone thinks the whole place wants to hear their conversation. Your sat next to the person your talking to so no need to shout!

Pubs ain't how they used to be are they?!

Op, yanbu, I don't think I've read anything so blatantly pfb on here for a while.

Nowt to do with baby, baby is neither here nor there - the fact that you felt the need to say "passionate and robust" just sounds like a euphemism for gobby, ranty, loud and fucking annoying!

In a busy Thai restaurant with DH other night. Being busy it was a bit noisy but we didn't expect everyone to eat in silence obviously.
But there was one woman whose voice rang out above everyone else's, really booming she was and the other woman in their party wasn't much quieter. (obviously they were all very drunk and oblivious).
The couple on the next table to us started eye rolling and what have you and we had a little mutual agreement exchange with them. Another male diner in a group started loudly mimicking whatever booming woman had boomed last but still she/they were oblivious. I suggested to our waitress sending her an apple with our complments, which got a laugh but nobody said anything directly to her or noisy friend. My reason for not doing so was they were very drunk and her partner looked a right bruiser and l was with dh. I'm usually quite outspoken on my own or with another woman l would definitely have said something to her. But what happened in past similar circumstances where someone was talking loudly about disgusting subject and putting people off their food and l asked them 'Do you mind changing the subject whilst people eating' was DH being challenged by one of the men and it nearly ended in a wild west brawl amongst the men. So my 'excuse' was shout woman's dh/dp might have felt need to start chest beating and my DH getting dragged into it again. The other diners were maybe just being 'British' about it and some had young dc with them, l dunno. But they/mainly she were disturbing most of the other diners that was obvious but nobody said anything.
So good on the couple for saying something to you and l wish they'd been in our restaurant other night. I can't abide shouty selfish people. I think a manager should go and speak to anyone spoiling it for the majority if they are made aware of it but they seem unwilling to do so in most cases.

But you expect it to be loud in a pub, more than a restaurant. If you want silence stay at home or leave. I don't care how loud someone is in a pub, that's the nature of pubs.
If their baby woke up tough luck. Some parents think the whole world resolve around their baby, about time they realise it doesn't. IME spoons aren't very family friendly anyway.

You expect loud but only because of the amount of people not because of people shouting and having heated debates.

You only need to talk loud enough for the people your talking to to hear not the whole place!

I love listening to people in Spoons especially if they are arguing (or is that just my local Spoons?) I always want to ask people if they want me to hold their coat It's almost as good as going to IKEA for listening to arguments

That said, by god you sound annoying with the volume and enthusiastically agreeing with each other

I once saw a man brushing his teeth at the table in our local Spoons

Ranting loudly about work / co-workers in a public place is a really unwise thing to do.

I have had numerous unprofessional conversations overheard in public places about people or companies I know passed in to me.

But you expect it to be loud in a pub, more than a restaurant

Not next to a table of people enjoying a meal.

I wonder how OP would have reacted if the people next to her had set down their cutlery, rested their chins on their hands and listened intently to her ranting. Shushing their baby so they could concentrate properly.

I wouldn't dream of taking a baby into Weatherspoons specially the ones near me too rough and ready for my liking never mind a baby.
Just wondering if this meal out was all they could afford and maybe the first time they have eaten out since baby arrived,we have all been there some time or another.