I've just been told to be quiet.... in wetherspoons!

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Called off for quick drink with friend/colleague in spoons (dont judge me, it's cheap and it has an app). Very shitty day, letting off a bit of steam, quite 'passionately' discussing a certain management discussion.
The table next to us are eating, and have a wee baby with them. I would guess around 6 months? After a particularly robust rant, we've just been told off for waking the baby.
They were there first, we are prob a bit annoying, but taking your baby to a pub then complaining it gets woken up!!
I'm very

YABU. Not because of the waking the baby bit but because it sounds like you were being annoying! Use your inside voice (even if it is Spoons!).

I'm one of those miserable old gimmers that doesn't think kids should be in pubs, so I would have told them to jog on 😂😊

my local spoons is full of kids, it isn’t really a pub just for drinkers a lot of people also eat their meal there. I’d say u were being loud and they blamed the baby because it was easier than saying they were annoyed

In a pub? Yes it goes @Carrie7469**

No, actually, being in a pub doesn’t give you any rights to be loud and annoy other people. Why on earth would you think that?

Someone did this to DP once we were dating. they didn't have any kids with them.

His voice really does carry, though, I'm always having to tell him he doesn't need to speak so fucking loud.

Anyone who says sleep is being disturbed and they are not in bed, needs to move themselves not quieten anyone else. Goes for DH asleep on the sofa too!

Not annoy but discuss enthusiastically in a pub is ok . You can’t expect it to be quiet enough for a baby to sleep in a bar ffs!

Nah YANBU. Don’t take a sleeping baby to a pub if you’re concerned about noise. Actually, I don’t think your sleeping baby has a right to quiet in public generally (cafes, restaurants etc). Yes bring them if appropriate (Costa yes, Le Gavroche no) but people will talk/laugh/rant in social venues and so if the baby can’t sleep through that then that’s your problem.

i'd have told them to jog on too

pub should be at home if they want quiet. pratts

Went out for my birthday a few weeks ago and got stuck next to 3 shrieking 20 somethings - absolutely ruined it for us but I didn’t say anything just sat quietly seething - YABU

A lot of pubs are family friendly now including Wetherspoons until 7:30 or so .
It’s not as if it’s full of fag smoke or anything.
A table of loud people next to me while I’m trying to eat would piss me off ,baby or not .
The funny thing is , I bet most on this thread take their kids to pubs but just like a bit of a rant about other people doing it . Lots of hypocrites on here

A group of friends and I once got asked to leave a ‘Spoons because we were being too entertaining and they didn’t have an entertainment licence

Times I’ve had a meal ruined by a screaming baby! Cheeky to ask you to be quiet, can’t believe they had the audacity!

Just sit there quietly next time op .
A pub is no place for chatting it's a place to let a baby sleep .

I rarely took my babies to a pub/restaurant but would not have expected others to be quiet for my sleeping child, that’s nonsense and totally unacceptable in an adult space.

Marmite27 the mind boggles 😂😂😂

Ok, take baby out of it.
If you were in a pub and 2 women on the next table where having a conversation that didn't include you but was loud enthusiastic. Would you tell them to be quiet?
I would have thought the pub is the perfect place to let off a bit of steam after a shitty day.
I want to reiterate again that we weren't drunk, weren't swearing, weren't including anyone else. It wasnt a restaurant or wine bar type establishment. There were plenty of men around having equally robust conversations, but they weren't singled out.
And for the third time it was a specific comment about us waking the baby.

I'd have said the baby disturbed your conversation, in a nice loud voice over the baby crying. Silly cow.

I expect robust conversation in pubs and noise.

If I’m in a pub wanting a quiet convo with a friend and there’s a loud chat/ laugh disturbing us, WE move.

Should you actually be discussing work loudly in the pub in terms of confidentiality breach?

Oh ffs as if that’s the issue!!!

You were clearly being v loud and the baby was a perfect excuse to tell you to shut up.

If they want silence they should have stayed at home or gone to a library, FFS.
The world doesn’t stop because they’re had a baby.

They should have moved . Pubs are not crèches .