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I've just been told to be quiet.... in wetherspoons!

160 replies

Coldemort · 11/03/2020 18:29

Called off for quick drink with friend/colleague in spoons (dont judge me, it's cheap and it has an app). Very shitty day, letting off a bit of steam, quite 'passionately' discussing a certain management discussion.
The table next to us are eating, and have a wee baby with them. I would guess around 6 months? After a particularly robust rant, we've just been told off for waking the baby.
They were there first, we are prob a bit annoying, but taking your baby to a pub then complaining it gets woken up!!
I'm very Shock

OP posts:
Mydogatemypurse · 11/03/2020 20:02

No they have no right to expect people to be quiet for a baby in the pub. Plenty of cafes etc to eat out in a quieter way with a baby.

HeresMe · 11/03/2020 20:03

People seem to forget that a lot of pubs are adult spaces that children are allowed in.

The OP was probably being slightly annoying, but I've been more annoyed by people(not the couple with baby) letting there kids run round the pub whilst not taking any notice.

AngelicaKauffman · 11/03/2020 20:04

It's funny cos when my young children let off steam and have a passionate, robust rant in a restaurant at the end of a long, tiring day, everyone on mumsnet says I'm being highly unreasonable!

idontlike789 · 11/03/2020 20:05

so I'd probably just move tables if I were you
It bothers them they move tables .

Ozziewozzie · 11/03/2020 20:12

I once went into a Weatherspiins and a group of young adults were there, possibly students chatting. The manager went over to them and asked them to be quiet. No families around, we were the only people close to them yet they really hadn’t been loud in the slightest. I felt really sorry for them. Maybe they have a no talking policy Grin in then hope they make more money as more eating and drinking would get done.

ThunderboltandLightning · 11/03/2020 20:15

You were all being U for being in a Wetherspoons.

They were being more unreasonable for thinking any sort of pub is a place for a baby to have an undisturbed nap.

MyDcAreMarvel · 11/03/2020 20:17

When I say ranty... have you ever had something happen, then you discuss it with a friend and find out you were both on the same page? So lots of 'oh my god yes' (not said in a Meg Ryan way)
No am assuming you are 19/20 you sound very immature. Just talk in a normal voice a d if you are older then my estimate grow up a bit!

JustInCaseCakeHappens · 11/03/2020 20:18

Precious and ridiculous about the baby

but you were rude to be so loud. Wetherspoon or not.

Kaykay066 · 11/03/2020 20:19

You sound like you were enjoying yourselves, I wouldn’t have had a problem with it, And just what you needed after a stressful day.
If it was bothering me that much I would’ve moved. It’s a pub it’s not a library and I wouldn’t take my kids as they wouldn’t enjoy it, but I wouldn’t expect others to tiptoe around us or change their behaviour. If I want somewhere family friendly there are plenty places aimed at that which aren’t pubs. I hope you enjoyed your wine despite the complaint and feel better having had a chat with a friend.

Applejaxx · 11/03/2020 20:34

Christ, if I wanted a quiet meal then Spoons is the last place I'd go! In fact I'd be more concerned if my local one was quiet!

Newjez · 11/03/2020 20:41

I always get told to move in wetherspoons because I'm always standing in the way of a fire exit. I always answer, do you really think I'm going to be standing here mate if there's a fire?

Nanny0gg · 11/03/2020 20:47

Half six is a perfectly reasonable time to be out for a family meal.
Our Westherspoons is pretty quiet at that time and the food is ok.

How busy was it in there, OP?

category12 · 11/03/2020 20:50

"so I'd probably just move tables if I were you"
It bothers them they move tables .

I'd move tables, because although OP is not in the wrong imo, it's not worth being the asshole, sitting on your rights, being petty and stubborn. It's easier for OP and friend to move, as people with a baby likely have a pushchair etc. Their company is not bringing joy to the table-neighbours and it puts a dampener on things sitting there knowing they are pissed off with you. I'd rather do the nice, more gallant thing of moving away and being able to go on enjoying my evening conscious I'd made the choice not to be a dick.

StoneofDestiny · 11/03/2020 20:51

obviously can't comment on your specific situation as I wasn't there. But the other day I was sitting in a pub and a girl next to me was talking so loud, basically shouting to the point where I couldn't hear what my partner was saying. Other people kept glancing over at her as well. I've encountered this in other places as well, coffee shops, trains etc. I've no idea why people have such little self awareness and why they can't talk at a volume so as to not disturb others!

Exactly - why talk so loud if those you are talking to are right next to you?.Not everybody will be interested in your work situation. It's like you've conscripted the whole pub into being your audience. Just knock the volume down.

(No sympathy for the parent trying to turn the pub into a nursery)

Aderyn19 · 11/03/2020 20:52

I voted yabu, not because I think their behaviour was acceptable (I think they are batshit taking a baby to a pub and expecting it to stay asleep) but because talking loudly in public, so that other people can hear your conversation, is annoying.

Beesisabuzzin · 11/03/2020 20:52

What's all the negativity about 'spoons? Some of us try and get through the month on a low income and can't afford the local bistro.

Mydogatemypurse · 11/03/2020 20:55

I love a weatherspoons. Branded good quality drinks. Cheap. Great after work place. X

idontlike789 · 11/03/2020 20:58

No am assuming you are 19/20 you sound very immature. Just talk in a normal voice a d if you are older then my estimate grow up a bit!
No need for that!
What's she done ? speak louder and was told to be quite as the baby was sleeping and you and others make judgments.
You grow up !!

AngelsOnHigh · 11/03/2020 21:12

Pretty sure if the baby had been screaming you would have asked them to shut the baby up.

category12 · 11/03/2020 21:17

If the baby was screaming, the parents should try to quiet them, after all babies aren't doing it for fun, are they?

ddl1 · 11/03/2020 21:24

I don't think it's a big deal. It is somewhat hurtful to tell an individual that their voice is too loud (unless they're actually shouting) but telling two or more people that their conversation is loud enough to be disturbing you is fairly normal. Maybe they'd just got the baby settled. Of course, Wetherspoons isn't an ideal environment for a young baby in the first place; but they may not have had much choice.

TheStuffedPenguin · 11/03/2020 21:29

They shouldn't have a baby in there if they want it to sleep . Last place I would have taken a baby !

FrankieManca · 11/03/2020 21:31

letting off a bit of steam, quite 'passionately' ... a particularly robust rant

It is quite intrusive and overbearing to be ranting and letting off steam loudly nest to someone eating a meal.

So what if it is 'Spoons? Just because people can eat there at their budget doesn't mean it is a manners and consideration-free space, surely?

Rosebel · 11/03/2020 21:54

It's a pub, actually designed for over 18s anyway.
My children used to sleep through noise, we weren't incredibly loud but certainly didn't tip for round them.
If parents didn't like if they shouldn't have taken their baby to the pub.

HeresMe · 11/03/2020 21:59

I always get told to move in wetherspoons because I'm always standing in the way of a fire exit. I always answer, do you really think I'm going to be standing here mate if there's a fire?

Why do you keep standing there? Stand somewhere else.