AIBU to put my DC in matching clothes?

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Just out of curiosity really. I put my pair in matching clothes the majority of the time. 19 months between them. Mainly because it’s just easier when buying clothes to buy two of each. Just wondered how many people think it looks a bit naff and how many people do/would do the same as me?

@terrorwig Great. I probably did too in the newborn stage, although it had nothing to do with making them look cute and everything to do with having no fucks to give. Bit different to the point I was making though....

Yanbu OP. I bet they look adorable

I do on days out when one could get lost (big softplay, zoo, that sort of stuff). easier to describe the child

I do it occasionally but my oldest daughter 4 would do it all the time as she lives being the same as her toddler sister.

I don’t see why people have an issue with it.

In my husband's country, it's soooo normal but they're not as obsessed with individualism here.

I think it's cute.

My sisters and I loved it as children, my older sister, by 18 months I don't remember as often but my younger, by 11 months I remember really liking it. We grew out of it naturally and are all complete individuals.

I often dress my (non ID) twins in the same clothes. Mainly because it’s easier to spot them both in a busy place if they are wearing the same. They are only 3 though, and very delayed so no preferences at this point, plus they both have sensory issues around clothes so whatever I can find that works is what they wear basically!

At what point do ‘cute’ and ‘sweet’ become twee and childish?

Personally I think it depends on the actual clothes, mine sometimes wear the same or some part the same through choice but look different. Not sure I get the cries of individualism as many people dress their kids the same as other kids particularly if your shopping on the high street. I bought a lovely dress from h&m recently & we always see other kids in it. Besides at drop off there are lots of school mums dressed identikit, same with dads watching the football teams. That's weirder imo.

My sister and I loved wearing the same clothes (in different colours) and pretending to be twins. Think it's OK if they don't mind and it's not all the time.

Mum dressed us the same because the eldest like it. Me and younger DS did not.

I have B/G twins and they knew which clothes belonged to them at 9 months - as I attempted to put DS in one of DD sleepsuits as he had none dry - she knew it was hers.

So the ‘oh they don’t notice argument is rubbish’

They do notice, the reside the expectation to dress the same so learn to dress the same when old enough to decide what to wear. The arguments I had with DSis when she wanted to wear x or buy Y, and I didn’t was unreal. We had matching coats for years.

She always got her way. Makes me angry even thinking about it.

Hated it as a child!

Might dress my children in similar clothes but never identical

Why are you buying two sets of everything rather than handing down from the oldest to the youngest? Seems quite wasteful.

I do find dressing them the same on a day to day basis a bit odd and treating them like dolls, but I must admit I think matching siblings on special occasions such as weddings or Christmas look super cute :)

I don’t get how it’s easier? You’re buying two lots of everything, twice the cost...

What do you do with the oldests outgrown clothes?

Unless they’re such a similar size handing down isn’t possible, i wouldn’t do it purely for cost and ecological reasons. You’d get twice the use out of everything if you weren’t buying new all the time for the youngest so they’d match....

Adorable! I do it all the time.

We have twins (now grown up) but I never put them in matching outfits. They are their own people and individuals, matching outfits are naff.

So the ‘oh they don’t notice argument is rubbish’

You mean it was rubbish for your kids, not necessarily true for them all. I guarantee you my twins have absolutely no concept of what they are wearing, aside from whether it’s comfortable. Other kids might do.

A bit naff yep, but there are worse parenting fails out there!! My two are so different I would never had got away with it even if I wanted to, my eldest DS loves plain clothes - no logos, mostly black, white & grey whereas my youngest DS will choose the brightest most outrageous color combinations, crazy t-shirts etc he can (often with a hat!) which makes the older one walk ten paces behind him in public.. Both of them started choosing their own clothes very young, no danger of getting them mixed up!

I quite like it. My friend does it quite often with matching patterns but not matching outfits. E.g. toddler in a patterned dress, baby in a sleepsuit of the same pattern. That way it doesnt look like the toddler is wearing baby clothes or vice versa. I do draw the line at parents matching their children though!

I dress my boys the same now and again. They look so cute together. I mainly tend to do it in the summer as they look so handsome in matching little shirts or cool t shirts. People always comment how gorgeous they are when I do this

I personally don't like matching outfits on anyone including twins unless its like a wedding of course but also I know what other people wear is none of my business dress your children how you want

Mine sometimes do - when they choose to and when they’re at a point of loving their sister rather than loathing them that second. Quite often grandparents will buy the same outfit in a different colour way for both of them so they can be similar but not identical and it’s naturally happening less these days as they get older - one lives in jeans and hoodies and the other one doesn’t like the feeling of jeans at all and if it doesn’t have a dinosaur or superhero on she’s not interested.

The big drawback is when it comes to passing stuff down - you end up with the same outfit for bloody years and years as the larger one gets passed down to the younger kid and I found even I got sick of the sight of them in it! Mine grow so fast now it’s pretty much whatever is on reduced in the sale aisle they get bought for in their wardrobes!

The one time I did it intentionally was if I was going anywhere majorly busy like a theme park - handy to spot the pair of ‘em!

My two, girl/boy with 13 months between them loved matching. Once they hated it I did a colour when we were travelling. Much easier to recognise them. I really don't mind kids being dressed alike. MN snobbishness at it's finest.

YANBU and I can't believe it offends people so much. My sister and I definitely had some matching outfits growing up. My DS' are 4 and 1 and I match them sometimes, not often at all as they don't have many clothes the same (DS2's wardrobe consists almost entirely of hand me downs and clothes he's had as presents!) but they look so cute when they do!

My DC get matching pjs for Christmas Eve every year which is cute, my eldest is now ten but I still do it . Aside from that though, no I don’t generally put them in matching outfits.