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AIBU to put my DC in matching clothes?

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Chocoholic26 · 10/03/2020 20:26

Just out of curiosity really. I put my pair in matching clothes the majority of the time. 19 months between them. Mainly because it’s just easier when buying clothes to buy two of each. Just wondered how many people think it looks a bit naff and how many people do/would do the same as me?

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TillyTheTiger · 10/03/2020 21:37

I don't like it at all on a day-to-day basis, the only exception I'd make is if you're taking them to a very busy attraction like a huge park or adventure play place where they'll be running about and you need to keep an eye on them both. Matching outfits makes that easier, especially if they're distinctive colours.

Vulpine · 10/03/2020 21:37

I don't even like it on twins

DropYourSword · 10/03/2020 21:38

Thinking something looks ridiculous is different from being offended by it!

Oysterbabe · 10/03/2020 21:42

Mine are 2 and 4 and sometimes match because they think it's fun. Definitely not all the time. The older one has strong opinions about what she wants to wear now so she decides.

Theorangeorange · 10/03/2020 21:45

I do it with my girls (as they love it) and I loved it doing it with my Sister. Will stop doing it when either of them stops enjoying it.

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Chocoholic26 · 10/03/2020 21:58

DC are 3&4 and on occasions notice that they are matching and love it too! Most of the time they’ve absolutely no idea, and appear to not give two hoots! I’d never of course force them to match if they didn’t want to and I’m sure that will come in time. I’m already noticing in some shops my eldest has grown out of the small age range so need to buy different things anyway. This could probably be my last year....I better make the most of it ahaha!

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Sometimeswinning · 10/03/2020 22:04

My youngest loves to copy her older sister. Dd will sometimes try and match with me! I love colour coordinating with them for special occasions.

If they didnt want to I guess I'd have to accept that. Yours are still young so go with what you like. People on here saying its naff etc. might dress their children horrendously in rl!

user1494182820 · 10/03/2020 22:06

We do it very occasionally. They do have items in the same print, but don't often wear at the same time, and if they do it's not usually planned 🤷‍♂️😂

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 10/03/2020 22:06

No, hate it with a passion. Children are individuals and that should be respected I feel. My mum did it and we hated it, all the photos look tacky I feel.

At that age mine picked their own clothes and continued to do so. I pick up basics but they choose the bulk so that it’s to their tastes.u

BarbedBloom · 10/03/2020 22:08

If they are really little it is sweet, but past that they are individuals and I cringe a bit when I see it. Just my feelings though.

SandyFire · 10/03/2020 22:12

I think it’s cute when they’re little. If it makes them happy then do it

Thesearmsofmine · 10/03/2020 22:16

I hate it, I have 3 sons all fairly close in age but they are all individuals and suit different things.

APurpleSquirrel · 10/03/2020 22:22

I hate it, even with twins. They're individuals & deserve to be treated as such.

Frankola · 10/03/2020 22:27

I'm not offended by it but I do feel you aren't allowing your kids to explore their personality as an individual.

My friend does this and she does it purely for attention and compliments about how "cute" her kids look. Which she actually admits to.

The boys are now in a situation similar to something mentioned above where they are always seen as a pair and not as separate people with different opinions.

scrivette · 10/03/2020 22:28

Mine are old enough to express an opinion and they would let me know if they didn't like it, it doesn't bother them but if it did I wouldn't make them do it.

megletthesecond · 10/03/2020 22:28

No, don't. It looks naff.

Only acceptable for bridesmaids and page boys.

DPotter · 10/03/2020 22:31

I used to hate being dressed the same as my sister - 5 yrs age difference. Would cause soooo many arguments with my DM - she kept trying to dress us in the same clothes when my Dsis was 8 - 'do the Math' for how old I was..... My Dsis was a cute kid - I wasn't and my DM dressed to suit my Dsis - so it was awful

KarmaStar · 10/03/2020 22:31

Think it's pretty lazy really..
Let them be individuals.

Isadora2007 · 10/03/2020 22:32

Those that do, don't you hand clothes down from one child to the next? Won't the kids get fed up of wearing the same thing for many many years?

Speaking as the younger sibling- yes! It was bloody annoying to be dressed the same but even more annoying to have the same fecking outfit for what felt like forever!

OhCaptain · 10/03/2020 22:35

This is weird! We were going through photos of us as kids with about six of us dressed the same! Grin

My mam loved it. It was pretty naff though!

My dad (who’s 70 odd) called her a chav the other day! 😂😂😂

Womencanlift · 10/03/2020 22:35

Agree with others, completely naff and I do roll my eyes when I see pictures on Facebook of identically dressed siblings. They are individual people and although parents think it’s cute I think it’s just laziness

Chocolateandchats · 10/03/2020 22:36

My DM did this to me and my sister and I loved it! Although usually it was the same outfit in different colours. I think it’s really cute and would have done it with my own children if there wasn’t an age gap.

MasterBruceBalloon · 10/03/2020 22:41

I only have one so for me its not an issue. I'm more of a fan of complementary outfits for special occasions rather than twinning. I think I'd actually be annoyed buying 2 of the same outfit - buy different ones and have a bit of variety for your money.

olivehater · 10/03/2020 22:42

Ahh it’s cute. The people saying they are “individuals” are being ridiculous. They are in kids clothes. They haven’t chosen them anyway. It is an expensive way to live though. My younger boy tends to largely wear the older ones hand me downs and there are 4 years between them so it doesn’t happen much! I wonder if the “individual” police also have an issue with hand me downs as well. Probably not as that fits in with the middle class aesthetic better.

florababy84 · 10/03/2020 22:43

I really like it!

I would never do it if the children protested but if they liked it then I would. My boys couldn't care less what they're wearing anyway, whether it matches or not. I usually choose their clothes each day so they're hardly missing out in 'self-expression' by wearing the same as someone else.

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