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Original poster

Ohhh f***!!!

82 replies

F1111 · 09/03/2020 17:02

I always wondered why my DH had a snap chat account he claims never to use,so I decided to hack into it. Password was relatively easy to guess...

Nothing suspicious, in fact nothing at all. So I logged out and went back in on my phone and I got an alert sent to my email saying login at x time from location from handset!!!! WTF he will know I am on to him now 🤦‍♀️ what do I say?
I think he's cheating but I don't want him to know that until I have more evidence!

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HollowTalk · 09/03/2020 17:03

Surely they wouldn't send two emails. Why did you get one to your email address?

caulkheaded · 09/03/2020 17:05

Do you share an email account?

Ponoka7 · 09/03/2020 17:05

Delete your Email, the device history and delete it from your bin and deny it was you.

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F1111 · 09/03/2020 17:10

No I went into his from my phone and then logged back into mine and that's when i got the alert to my email....so he would have got the same to his email (which i don't have access to!).

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F1111 · 09/03/2020 17:11

He never uses my phone so I can't even use the old gem" accidentally signed in as you" and his password isn't even something easy but if you knew him, it's an easy guess if that makes sense.

Fuck!!!

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RedHelenB · 09/03/2020 17:13

Stop snooping and being paranoid then! You've just said theres nothing suspicious. Totally out of order hacking into his account.

greyspottedgoose · 09/03/2020 17:14

"How weird I had something like that for netflix/prime/any account you actually have" and shrug it off

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F1111 · 09/03/2020 17:14

So I've got the convo down in my head...

He will come in and say "did you log into my account"
Me "yes"
Him "why?"
Me "I think you're fucking about and I just wanted to see if you were telling the truth about never using your account"

...

I know it's going to go down tonight now!!!!

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Ruby8719 · 09/03/2020 17:15

I’m confused - was the email from snapchat? You wouldn’t get an email from Snapchat unless your email address was registered with them

Shoxfordian · 09/03/2020 17:15

If you really think he's cheating then you may need to have that conversation anyway

Original poster
F1111 · 09/03/2020 17:16

@greyspottedgoose it highlighted my phone (make and model) and location Shock

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F1111 · 09/03/2020 17:17

@Ruby8719 yes we are both registered, he has an account he said he never used (true to his word, literally had 0 on the number thing under his name) and I have an account on my email address...so we are both registered, and I got the notification email directed to my login on my own account so I am thinking he got the same on his personal email...

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Wigglewaggle01 · 09/03/2020 17:19

If you really think he is cheating then what does it matter?
He wasn't going to make it easy for you to find out if he really had cheated so it's not really any different now.

LuluJakey1 · 09/03/2020 17:21

Just tell the truth and learn the lesson.

PawPawNoodle · 09/03/2020 17:21

Wait I'm confused, why are you allowed a snapchat account and he isn't?

GinDaddy · 09/03/2020 17:22

Bloody hell, the double standards on this site are frightening.

People rushing to tell OP "delete your email, the device history" etc - you're just as bad as if the OP was cheating.

It's all unhealthy. No one is winning here.

If you think your DP is cheating, ask him.

CaptainCabinets · 09/03/2020 17:23

Why do you think he’s cheating?

Josette77 · 09/03/2020 17:26

So he told you the truth, you hacked his account, and now you plan to go off on him. I'd be livid if I was him.

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F1111 · 09/03/2020 17:26

@PolPotNoodle i didnt say anything about me not allowed an account, we both have accounts. I use mine every so often and he claimed he never used his. I was curious as I think he's cheating.

I'm just gonna ask him tonight, done now and no choice I guess.

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F1111 · 09/03/2020 17:27

@Josette77 not that I need to justify it on here, but I do have other suspicions aside snapchat use...i don't need to give the full list!

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Nomel · 09/03/2020 17:29

Why do you think he’s cheating?

RedskyAtnight · 09/03/2020 17:37

I always think if you've got to the point that you're snooping to find evidence of cheating the relationship is doomed anyway.

So you've snooped, found nothing, but you still think he's cheating. I suspect there's nothing he can do to make you change your mind.

Mseddy · 09/03/2020 17:42

I wouldn't bring it up unless he does. Loads of things like this go to my junk and I wouldn't even notice it. If I was scrolling through my junk id just assume it was click bait. Hang in there and get your evidence

GinDrinker00 · 09/03/2020 17:44

Just admit it to him. He might surprise you and come clean.

partofthepeanutgallery · 09/03/2020 17:44

Sorry you can't trust your other half, OP. Awful situation to be in if the trust is gone regardless. Good luck tonight.