Ohhh f***!!!

[F1111]

I always wondered why my DH had a snap chat account he claims never to use,so I decided to hack into it. Password was relatively easy to guess...

Nothing suspicious, in fact nothing at all. So I logged out and went back in on my phone and I got an alert sent to my email saying login at x time from location from handset!!!! WTF he will know I am on to him now 🤦‍♀️ what do I say?
I think he's cheating but I don't want him to know that until I have more evidence!

You’d got think he’s cheating

If the husband had hacked into your account he would have been called a controlling an abusive husband by now, the other way around, and people are advising to lie and say that you never did it.

Have this moved to relationships, you'll get better advice.

Shit. How about generating one for yourself by using an ingognito browser to try and hack your own and saying 'Oh yeah, I had one of those too! Don't open it, it must be a scam'.

@F1111 again, why isn't he allowed an account even if he doesn't use it, without you feeling entitled to go on it and check? He might use it to go on the discover page for example. He can have as many dormant accounts as he likes.

He may or may not be a cheater but you're proven to be dishonest too now, oops.🤷‍♀️ best of luck for tonight.

Without my commenting on the rights snd wrongs, would he buy it if you said your Snapchat account was down/not working and that you were just trying to see if it was a general problem or a problem specific to your account?

Just because he has 0 on his Snapchat doesn’t mean anything. He might or might not be using it in an inappropriate way for a married man. I agreed that once you start snooping, there are fundamental issues with your relationship.

Look if you’ve sunk to this level just end it. Really this is a low point. Your marriage is over when you’re at rhe level of trying to hack is snap chat account and then panicking.

I still don't get why it sent you an email about his account

If he asks tell him his behaviours made you suspicious

Be honest with him.

“Something feels off and I suspected you might be cheating, so in a moment of madness I logged into your snapchat. There was nothing there and I realise I’ve massively overstepped the line. I’m sorry, but I didn’t trust that you’d give me an honest answer if I asked you. If there is a problem I’d rather know so we can work on it”

I’d aim for kind but confident, rather than angry or accusatory.

What would you want to happen if he was having an affair? Best case scenario I mean. Counselling? An amicable split?

I know absolutely nothing about Snapchat, but if you got an email after you logged in, then surely you would have received a similar email whenever (if ever) DP logged in.

I also am confused as to why you got an email about his account....

She didn’t get an email about his account.

OP logged into her DP’s Snapchat to check it. When she logged back into her Snapchat account an email was sent to her saying ‘you’ve logged into Snapchat using this device’. She is worried that when she logged into her DP account, he would have received the same email about someone logging into his account with her device details and location on it. Effectively, giving away that she has checked his account.

And if that’s not right then I have no clue what’s going on

she didn't get an email about his account it was when the op signed back into her own Snapchat she received an email saying she had logged in so thinks he would've received the same email alerting him to someone logging in if that makes sense ?
Either way you clearly don't trust him so this might be a Good time to talk

Even with the explanation I don't understand the email thing. Mine never does that.

I hope he doesn't find out OP

Oops cross post with relaxing sorry

Just say you have no idea what he's talking about and snapchat must have had a malfunction.

I always think if you've got to the point that you're snooping to find evidence of cheating the relationship is doomed anyway.
Yup

If the husband had hacked into your account he would have been called a controlling an abusive husband by now, the other way around, and people are advising to lie and say that you never did it.
Absolutely.

Look if you’ve sunk to this level just end it. Really this is a low point. Your marriage is over when you’re at rhe level of trying to hack is snap chat account and then panicking.
Completely right

For others. OP has her own Snapchat and when she logged into it it send her email so she realised that when she logged into his, it sent him an email.

Just say you have no idea what he's talking about and snapchat must have had a malfunction.

Yeah the best way to deal with lack of openness, honesty and trust is to lie and deceive.

Beat him to the conversation and make like you snooped on all his apps/sm platforms - ask him if he’d like to tell you anything. Anything he’d like to ‘get off his chest’ so to speak.

Look him in the eyes and you’ll get your answer.

YAVVVVU to snoop on his phone. That's awful behaviour. If you're suspicious and snooping, the relationship is already dead in the water.

This goes against what others are advising but I would pretend that there is kind of hacking problem going on-if he asks. I would say you got some similar type of message, but you ignored it.
That way you have time to figure out if he is cheating and have time to get all your ducks in a row.

Lolz at all the posters advising you gaslight your DP.

Also surely you wouldn't see anything in Snapchat as it self deletes? Apart from contacts. I totally get the wanting evidence before confronting though! Or he will deny and make you look paranoid. Sounds like you want out and want a reason. Been there. Horrible situation!