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AIBU to not accept this job offer

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jamjarlife · 09/03/2020 11:55

We are a low income family with 1 DS, he is 2. He goes to nursery 1 day a week and his grandparents look after him 1 day a week. I currently work 2 days (Mon/Tues) and my husband works 4.

I've been made redundant. Its my last day tomorrow, however I've just been offered a job* working Thurs/Fri for the same money I'm on at the moment.

My issue now is that we will need to find childcare for Thurs/Fri as my DS's grandparents can only have him on a Monday. Obviously childcare is very expensive but we do claim universal credit and we get 85% of our childcare costs back.

I calculated that at the moment we live on £23k combined household income (thats 2 sets of wages and then UC)

If I took my redundancy and became unemployed then we'd get £24k combined household income

If I took the new job we'd get £25k combined household income (though you have to consider the fuel costs would probably equal £1k a year at least)

AIBU to consider not taking the job and just caring for my son at home for a year, then once he is 3 I can put him into nursery with the free hours and start working again.

Another option would be to look for another job for Mon/Tues.

(*The job is a basic admin role)

OP posts:
Bbang · 11/03/2020 08:09

I’d stay home for the year, you are under no obligation to take a job that’s not suitable or feasible for you.

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 11/03/2020 08:19

There's an underlying sneering tone on this thread , let's face it because op is working 2 days and claiming UC. I don't like it. You do what is best for you op.

Iamthewombat · 11/03/2020 08:34
  1. The OP has asked for opinions on what is best.
  1. ‘Do what’s best for you’ isn’t great advice. It ignores the effects on other people. What if you’re the parents of four children and you can’t buy loo roll because selfish people have cleared the shelves? Would the actions of those people be ok in your eyes because they were ‘doing what was best for them’?
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