To not find ‘useless men’ funny?

[usuredo]

Keep seeing stuff on Facebook about useless husbands/dads and how hilarious it all is.

A few friends shared the same post on FB which was one of those parenting story things by a blogger about a fictional ‘mummy’ and ‘daddy’ about how mummy just gets on with things without being told anything but daddy needs to be asked to ‘watch the kids’ and given lists about basic things like washing and feeding and bedtime, that daddy gets home from work to a clean house and kids in bed whilst mummy always comes in from her part-time job to chaos and has to run round tidying up and re-sorting out the kids. It was all laughter reaction emojis and thousands of comments along the lines of ‘Hahaa this is so true!’ crying laughing emojis.

I’m also on a few cleaning groups on FB (‘hinching’ and similar) and it’s a regular fixture to see the ‘Lol men are so useless!’ posts where women talk about coming in from work and having to do 100% of all the housework along with eye roll and laughing crying emojis. I see it constantly in relation to different things, even ‘oh I’ve been bed-ridden with flu for a few days and now I’m better the house is completely upside down because my partner was off work and taking care of the kids/running everything hahaha! Any tips on how to do a massive deep tidy and clean in one day?’

It may be a massive sense of humour failure because it’s all lighthearted I suppose but I’ve been through that kind of set-up and it’s actually completely shit and depressing, and I feel like these kinds of posts just normalise it and make it humour and acceptable?

I was out at a soft play the other day and a dad had to ask me for nappies and wipes as he forgot.

Now I know we all forget stuff but if your going out for a day with a 2 yr old you shouldn't forget their bag of bits.

I think they make it harder for themselves by being so relaxed.

Also I just got my ex to have the dc's overnight. 15 & 12.
He hasn't had them overnight in 4 years.
The struggles is so real, he told me he would get his mother or gf to pick them up as he was working, then said he couldn't do the over night and I told him you bloody will.
So he said he will have to get his gf to drop them off.

I don't care who does it as it's an emergency appointment. I have given him a weeks notice and he has made so much of it, finding it so hard to organise one day of childcare.

And the worse thing about it all is him having to get women to do it.
He didn't even ask them first just said
He will have to get them
To do it.

I don't think actually gets that I work too and have a 2 yrs old.
I don't think it's funny at all and I think mothers need to teach their ds to be men because in my case their father isn't

Agreed OP. The bar is set incredibly low for men / dads. Ridiculous really. I do the majority of all the parenting plus hold down a day job.

After four months of asking him to clean the bathroom, my DH 'mopped' the bathroom floor with a baby wipe. I cried from the frustration. He then asked me for a step by step guide to cleaning the bathroom. I cried again and then cleaned it myself. Yanbu.

Shortly before DD was born, a friend (younger than me; I'm now early 40's) asked who would be cooking when she arrived as I knew I would need a C-section, and our families live elsewhere. I said DH would (he was taking 2 weeks holiday and 2 weeks paternity leave, so he was able to give plenty of support) and she looked at me like I'd grown an extra head. He did half the cooking before DD came along anyway. I'll admit we didn't eat haute quisine that month, but he ensured there was adequate, tasty, nutritious food. Surely that's within the capability of most adults?