I have an old schoolfriend who I've known for about 25 years.
We usually see each other a couple of times a year, plus maybe one extra time as part of a big group of school friends who all get together every so often.
We were close when we were younger, but have grown apart in terms of values and lifestyle as we have got older. I find her children absolute little shits (not that I would ever tell her this) and so when we're meeting "just us", I try to make sure it is "just us" - e.g. not with our respective children.
She is DREADFUL (and always has been) at replying to texts/emails etc. I messaged her in December to see if she'd like to meet up. I never heard back from her. I followed up in January with a breezy, "Hi - hope you're OK - how are things?", and got a reply, with a suggestion of two dates in March that worked for her.
I replied straight away saying both dates were fine.
I heard nothing for 3 weeks. At that point she texted me and chose a date, so long as it was still free for me (it was). I said great, what time works for you?
I have heard nothing.
This was two weeks ago. We are supposed to be meeting on Saturday. I am reluctant to chase again, as very honestly I'm not all that bothered about seeing her. But equally I don't want to fall out with her because we are part of a wider group of friends - and life's easier without unnecessary drama.
I am cross that she takes her sweet time replying to my messages, with the expectation I'll keep everything free for her.
Would I be unreasonable to text her saying that as we hadn't put any firm time in diary, I'm no longer free?