As an example, here’s how my own conversation with a midwife at an antenatal appointment for DC2 went. I actually wrote it down at the time as it was so shocking:
“Me: I will want an epidural.
Midwife: Oh, but they lead to more c-sections you know?
Me: No they don't, the Cochrane review is very clear on this.
Midwife: well, they do cause a cascade of complications.
Me: actually no, there is no causal link established, merely a correlation which is not at all the same.
Midwife: well, it will slow down your labour.
Me: that's fine by me, I'd rather have a longer but less painful labour than be in excruciating pain. I would actually prefer to have the epi early on, because my first labour was not very long and I'm concerned otherwise there won't be time.
Midwife: okay, but the NICE guidelines say you cannot get one until you are at least 4 cm dilated.
Me: not true, the NICE guidelines say the exact opposite - that a woman should not be denied an epidural in the latent first stage if her pain is severe.
Midwife: okay then, anyway your baby has no rights until it's born, you can do whatever you want, your body your choice, if you want an epidural then get one.
Me: speechless at the innuendo that having an epidural will actually harm my baby
Midwife: but I should warn you we will not let you in a delivery room until you are at least 4 cm dilated, therefore there is no way you can have an epidural before then.
Me: so when you say it's my choice, it's not much of a choice is it?
Midwife: well you can always go to a different hospital if you're not happy.
Me: funny you should say that, I asked to be transferred to another hospital last time when I was told I couldn't get an epidural as all the delivery bays were full. I was told it is against hospital policy to transfer patients.
Midwife: that's correct, we never transfer anyone out on the basis that we are unable to give them pain relief. But you could have walked out on your own.
(So basically I should have started traipsing around London looking for a hospital while contracting every two minutes.)”
So much guilt tripping and misinformation.