To keep dating him if I'm not sure?

[waytheleaveswork]

I've been dating someone I met online about 3 months ago.

He is interesting, funny and thoughtful, and I feel relaxed and at ease around him. I find him attractive, but not in a 'omg' kind of way, and the sex is pretty good but he is a bit lazy in bed (but responds to feedback!). Both early 30s. No kids.

I'm just not sure and I don't know if it's ok to keep seeing him if I'm feeling so lukewarm. I don't want to lead him on, but equally think I'm just used to being on my own and this is all a bit new, and maybe he's a grower.

Help please!

Lazy in bed... ditch 🌺

I'd say leave it. If you aren't feeling anything 3 months in, how long is it going to take ? That's not your fault, we can't help these things. There will be other men who are also the above things but who you will have a stronger connection with :)

I wouldn't keep dating someone who was lazy in bed.

YABU. Try different men until you find the right one.

I'd do him a favour and free him up to meet someone who loves him. You're obviously not 'the one' for him either or you'd know by now.

If you’re not feeling it now, it’s not going to happen. I think if by date 3 you need to be excited to see someone, if not end things. You are well past that point. It’s not fair to waste any more of his time.

3 months in and it should still be excitement and butterflies. If you want kids you have no time to waste. Next!