To ban family from visiting (coronavirus)

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SIL and BIL are planning to visit end March when they have returned from a cruise around Malaysia, Thailand, Vietnam. My OH is currently having chemo for cancer. I have asked them.to wait at least 14 days between returning to the UK from their cruise and coming to visit.

Yeah I’d suggest they wait before seeing him.

Completely sensible, not worth the risk. I hope your OH is better soon.

Absolutely OP. They should understand why a delay to their visit is de rigueur.

109%?!

Conclusive! Yadnbu

I do think some people are behaving hysterically about coronavirus but in your case YANBU.

Did they get cross about being told to stay away for 14 days?

But there are cases of Coronavirus in the U.K. they are no more likely to pick it up on a cruise ship than they are here.

Malaysia has 25 cases. 25. Out of a population if 32 million.

Malaysia is one of the countries on the list where there is specific advice for returning travellers @potteringalong. OP YANBU.

I think that in their case I would not need to be told to stay away.

And yet only 0.00007% of the Malay population has it. Realistically, you have got a far greater chance contracting a virus in sainsburys this afternoon than getting Coronavirus from a short cruise stop off in Malaysia.

Cruise ships are breeding grounds for things like this. To be honest OP I’d ask them to wait a bit longer, I’ve read it can take longer than two weeks to emerge in some cases.

Personally I wouldn't necessarily trust the figures we are being given by many countries.
Yanbu

I think there is a lot of hysteria about coronovirus but given how chemo impacts on the immune system, l agree it’s a practical approach.

@PotteringAlong - The issue is not how many people don’t have it in Malaysia or UK. The difficulty caused on cruise ships is the large number of people in a confined space for a comparatively lengthy period of time. This is why infections caused by everyday bugs are common on board. This has worsened as the size of these vessels have dramatically increased.

To add, l would think the chances of catching it while in Malaysia are small. The chances of catching it on board a little higher, but you don’t even want to mix a common cold with chemo.

@potteringalong I'm not clear on why you appear to think you know better than the UK Government on this matter but I think it's best to avoid giving advice that is contrary to what the authorities say. It's one thing to take additional precautions, but to advise people to be less cautious about particular countries on the basis of your calculations is irresponsible.

Ignoring Corona I'd want a decent gap post cruise/airport if someone is having chemo...

DH had 1 slight (37.7) temperature during chemo - straight into a private room (with a door) in A&E until they'd checked his white count was ok!

I’m not saying be less cautious, I’m saying don’t scare yourself silly with a risk that isn’t as big as your head has made it.

Are they likely to be tested for the virus on arrival?

I wouldn't worry about something 4 weeks away. The whole situation could change alot in that time. Affected countries may change, quarantined periods may change. I would say to them that you look forward to seeing them when they come back but obviously we'll need to check and follow the latest advice before you pop round.

I wouldn't risk it in your circumstances, and in fact would be asking them to stay away for longer than that, given that it seems the incubation/contagious period could be up to a month after exposure to the virus.

YANBU but why make it an issue with them now? Just wait for them to come back from holiday and if they ask to see you then bring it up.

Telling them now will just get their backs up.

YANBU- I think it would be sensible anyway if they'd been travelling, regardless of corona.

I would ask them to stay away for at least a month considering someone contracted the virus after 27 days.

Never mind ask, TELL them not to visit.

Your OH is having chemo.
Visitors who are potential carriers of whatever infection from wherever are not welcome.

If they were on a regular holiday I'd say maybe you are being a bit over the top, but cruise ships are germ factories. The incubation period according to sone reports might actually be more like 4 weeks though, so I'd put the off visiting for longer than 14 days. Best wishes to your DH for the rest of his treatment.