To go off someone who doesn't flush after themselves

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Finding myself grossed out by this.

Spent the weekend with a new guy at his place , Saturday morning I went into his bathroom to find fresh pebbledashing so I tipped a load of bleach down there, Sunday morning a turd and toilet paper.

Aibu to be totally grossed out and gone right off him

That's vile YANBU at all. I imagine he doesn't wash his hands either 🤢

Yeah he’s not a hand washer, wouldn’t want his fingers going anywhere......

Dump the dirty sod, my toddlers all manage to flush the loo so a grown man should have no trouble

Ew! I have caught the ick on your behalf. No way I would want to see this person again.

I hadn't thought about the hand washing, yes I find it vile.
Interestingly at mine he peed in the morning in my ensuite and didn't flush but I assumed he didn't want to wake me, now I just think gross disgusting pig

Ewwwwww. Nasty.

I suppose he leaves his laundry next to the basket, his rubbish next to the bin, and his dirty pots in the sink too, because all of those things are not great but this is 10x worse.

not envy!

I wouldn’t be able to get past this. It’s so gross.

It would put me off, but depending on how you feel about him generally, it might be worth having a conversation about it to give him an opportunity to change.

that’s gross

Urgh. I mean the wee thing.. Some people want to save water. But who the fuck is he expecting to flush his shits for him? So gross. I'd be instantly unattracted to him.

My FIL never flushes during the night. Stays over occasionally. He’s up about 3 times a night and it’s gross to be faced with a bowl of stale wee when I get up in the morning. Habit learned over the years of noisy flushes and being told off for waking the household multiple times a night so he views it as being the polite thing to do! He’s a nice man so I do believe it is not out of laziness or malice but urgh...it’s grim.

Only wee though...never been faced with anything grimmer!

Dirty ticket

Another murky no none of the others but this turns my stomach, who doesnt flush and make sure toilet clean especially when they have a guest
I couldn't eat the breakfast he made after that and have the ick

Oh gosh, this happened to me. Someone I was considering seeing, many years ago, left an inch turd sitting in the base of the pan, no loo roll and it wasn't floating so it could have easily flushed. I got the ick but flushed it away, on his behalf.

Later that evening a mutual friend went into the loo after him and I heard friend say "urgh" so I imagine he had left a gift for him to find also.

So twice - why?

This was 26 years ago, I still get the ick.

Not flushing after a pee is fine imo, I don’t flush during the night for fear of waking the toddler . Poo is a different story though, who would want to leave that for someone else to find?! And the stench, eww...

Yes agree!, gross and lazy and so disrespectful
I didn't like the per the first time but thought he was worried about noise flushing now I just think lazy gross man who is now single

Ugh. That would be a deal-breaker for me. Yes, I know everyone shits, but it's utterly gross to leave it in the pan for the next person to deal with. Pebble-dashing the bowl and not doing anything about it is also disgusting.

Has he always lived alone? Or has he recently left a student flat-share or something?

No his wife left him a few years ago and been single and lived alone since

An ex of mine used to say "If it's yellow let it mellow, if it's brown flush it down" 🤢🤮

It's somehow worse that in other ways he's house trained but not when it comes to toilets.

I definitely would have had to say something. 'Is everything ok? Why is there fresh shit down your toilet? Gross'

Absolutely vile when he has guests to not mop up after himself

If this one s how he behaves in the early days, just think what he will be like in two years.
This would be a deal breaker for me.