'Hope it's a Girl comments' need some witty replys

[AnxietyForever]

I'm pregnant with my 3rd, already have 2 wonderful boys, I'm really really not bothered if we have another boy, after losses etc I'm hoping it's just healthy.
ANYWAY other people must just be assuming we want or are hoping for a girl, constantly getting girl comments and I've just been letting it slip. Not long received a text from a dousing saying 'Congratulations, hopefully it's a girl, we need one in the family'
Need some witty replies because the 'as long as it's healthy' doesn't seem to be cutting it??

I'm sure people aren't trying to upset you?

Of course not, but that's hardly the point. Other people are assuming the OP has signed up to their desire for a girl at all costs, and while that would be perfectly fine if it were just the occasional person, the fact that endless people keep saying it gets old pretty fast.

My mother three girls and a boy in that order who is a gentle, meek, devoutly Christian woman, said she felt like putting an axe through people's heads when someone said, for the twentieth or fiftieth time that week 'Bet your husband is in the horrors in case it's another girl!'

As a mum of two boys, this drives me mad. I've posted about it before, but I was actually asked if I was disappointed when I found out my second was another boy.
You've just got to look at all the "gender disappointment" threads to realise there's lots of people who claim they are happy for a healthy baby but are devestated not to have a girl.
It's all very much "of course we love our son/would be happy if it was a boy... But there's just something magical about being the mum of a girl" complete with denials that gender stereotypes have anything to do with it and lots of claims that mother/daughter relationships are just so much more special (whilst conveniently ignoring the fact that parent-child relationships can be positive, negative or anything in between regardless of the child's genitals).

When I was pregnant with my third daughter one woman at our mother and toddler group said "Oh what a shame" to me. I just stared hard at her and asked pointedly "Why is it a shame?"

She stuttered, went bright red, went "Well, ummmm ..... well, errr, I thought, ummm..." and then disappeared without ever saying whatever it was that she thought. She looked as though she would have liked the floor to open up and swallow her.

So, I'd go for being direct and blunt rather than witty. It worked.

@GordonBennett20 😂😂😂 Perfect! ! I vote for this royally-excellent response too...

“We have our fingers crossed for a velociraptor”

I had this when I was pregnant with my 4th after 3 boys. I didn't mind what I had and didn't find out. People are rude!!!!

A simple "Why?" Should have them tying themselves in knots trying to justify their stupid comments.

People just open their mouths and let their bellies rummle. Stop them in thier tracks.

@AnxietyForever I usually go with "Oh we aren't planning on breeding from them so a boy is fine"

I have 3 boys so used to the comments.

For the first few years the only difference between a girl and a boy is about 2cm!
There, your witty reply.

"I'll just be happy if it's DH's"

That'll get the tongues wagging, they won't care about its chromosomes anymore.

at Bluetrews25 Oh, it will be gender neutral, we've already decided.

People are just mad sometimes and assume, congrats OP

Put What @MyHairNeedsASnip said

Maybe be a bit more brutally honest about what you are actually hoping for. Saying 'as long as it's healthy' is a nice way of saying it, and Im not going to be so insensitive as to spell it out on here, but people will get more than they bargained for if you're a bit more brutal.

"Really? I'm hoping it's a puppy"

'I doubt anybody cares what your baby is. They are just thinking of something to say, trying to appear interested.'

This.

“Oh, we aren’t planning on breeding from them, so a boy is fine.”

Brilliant!

We have 2 boys and a girl and we always planned on 3 regardless of what they were (4 actually but 3 was enough!) and I got really angry about this. Right from the moment we had ds2 the comments started - even from the midwife who monitored me after my section, she said sadly ‘never mind, you’ll have to try again for a girl’. That was the very first ‘congratulations’ comment and many more were on a similar vein.

When I was pregnant with dd I was convinced it would be a boy as that’s all I knew and I was very happy with that but people continued the girl comments so I asked what the sex was at the 20 wk scan thinking at least when I tell them it’s a boy now they’ve got 20 weeks to get over it and stfu when he arrives. But it turned out to be a girl. Which of course meant everyone being so happy for us as we’d got what we wanted...

People were happy about ds1. Everyone was happy about dd. Lots of people were twats about ds2.

You could say you would prefer a boy as you would like them all to get on, but we'll all just have to get used to it if it's a girl.

'I doubt anybody cares what your baby is. They are just thinking of something to say, trying to appear interested.'

another vote for this take.

Awk just leave it. They are probably just saying it for takings sake. They likely don't care what you are having.

''If its a boy, can we get a refund?''

@myhairneedsasnip wins Mumsnet today in my opinion!

The comments actually started when I was pregnant with DC2 but obviously this time they've upped the anti!

@Wowwe Bore off!!

Believe it or not I actually got a message from SIL yesterday saying 'we're praying for a girl this time'