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'Hope it's a Girl comments' need some witty replys

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AnxietyForever · 26/02/2020 16:47

I'm pregnant with my 3rd, already have 2 wonderful boys, I'm really really not bothered if we have another boy, after losses etc I'm hoping it's just healthy.
ANYWAY other people must just be assuming we want or are hoping for a girl, constantly getting girl comments and I've just been letting it slip. Not long received a text from a dousing saying 'Congratulations, hopefully it's a girl, we need one in the family'
Need some witty replies because the 'as long as it's healthy' doesn't seem to be cutting it??

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doolally1 · 26/02/2020 19:16

I found it weird that it seems to be accepted thinking that every mother wants a girl & is disappointed by boys but fathers don't care about not having boys.

Friend A (who has only girls) said to Friend B (only boys) "are you disappointed you didn't have a girl"?, Friend B replied "nope is Dave (friends A's DH) sad he doesn't have a son. Friend A got huffy & thought it was rude 🤦🏼‍♀️

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Happyandglorious · 26/02/2020 19:17

@MyHairNeedsASnip -wins for me. I rec that would shut anyone up

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glitterstarsshower · 26/02/2020 19:17

I’d say ‘Oh to be honest I’d really love another boy and I’ve always pictured us with 3 little boys, but of course if it’s a little girl then that will also be amazing. The main thing is a healthy baby.’

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Stripeyshirts2450 · 26/02/2020 19:18

"Really, why's that?"
Cue awkward tumbleweed silence

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Stripeyshirts2450 · 26/02/2020 19:19

Also once they're born, I'd be tempted to show everyone a picture saying "here's our baby!" and not say the sex for a while.

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Stripeyshirts2450 · 26/02/2020 19:20

@doolally1 I feel like it's more the other way round where each man needs a son to carry on the family name Hmm

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Ejmorgan · 26/02/2020 19:27

@AnxietyForever I used to reply with I'm hoping for a baby as they told me I couldn't have a kitten or puppy . It ends the conversation as they wonder about your sanity

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SabineUndine · 26/02/2020 19:30

Tell them you're putting together a jazz quartet like Mrs Beetle in Cold Comfort Farm.

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Bluetrews25 · 26/02/2020 19:31

But SIL, it's a bit late to be praying for a girl NOW! Did you not pay any attention in biology? Besides, what makes you think I want one? If it's a girl, you can have it if you're that desperate!

FGS, rude, hurtful, AND stupid!

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Ohtherewearethen · 26/02/2020 19:32

This really got to my SIL, some people were almost apologetic when she announced a third boy. A sort of deflated, "Ah, well at least you knows where you are with boys". I couldn't actually believe how invested and downright rude some people were! Whether they mean to be is no excuse. Every baby should get the same response which is variations of, "How wonderful, congratulations".

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Rosebel · 26/02/2020 19:34

Just give them a really hard stare. I do this when people say I bet you're glad you're having a boy.
It really pisses me off.

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myself2020 · 26/02/2020 19:41

God, i hated these comments!
“and there i thought men and women are equal” did shut most up

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Parttimewasteoftime · 26/02/2020 19:42

I had a late miscarriage in between my DSs it was a DD still got comments hope DS2 a girl some people are shit. So I started saying a live baby I get to keep soon shut them up people should really never comment who knows what people have been through.

Or yeah the puppy line good luck OP

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strawberry2017 · 26/02/2020 19:43

I think I've seen t-shirts that actually say
We are hoping for a unicorn
😂

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WhataMissMap · 26/02/2020 19:58

My friend,who has 3 boys, says “We specialise in boys”.

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Devlesko · 26/02/2020 20:02

why? That's what I'd said.
I had two boys and didn't care what the sex was as long as healthy, like most people.
In the end was glad I had a girl but wouldn't have been disappointed with a boy.
Teenage years have proved much more challenging with a girl Grin

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Verbena87 · 26/02/2020 20:15

Believe it or not I actually got a message from SIL yesterday saying 'we're praying for a girl this time'

Correct reply is “cool. We’re praying for some relatives who are more interested in our baby’s personality and less obsessed with the shape of their genitals”

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Bellad19 · 26/02/2020 21:50

I would just call them out on their comment in a subtle way and make it awkward, when I was pregnant with my second and I already had a son, people used to say about ‘Hope it’s a girl’ etc and I used to reply with ‘why? Why do you hope it’s a girl’ and watch them try and awkwardly explain ‘aw it’d just be nice wouldn’t it seeing as you already have a boy’
Well no to be honest, what would be nice is a sibling for my son regardless of the gender 😂😂

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GingerGingerGingerGinger · 26/02/2020 21:55

"A boy would be cheaper "

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