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Millie Radfird pregnant?

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pushymeas · 25/02/2020 18:36

Congratulations to her but can imagine her getting some stick now poor girl. Gosh it's going to be a huge family once this generation have all their kids!!

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Sirzy · 25/02/2020 20:07

Some people just look for reasons to judge don’t they.

Just because it wouldn’t be your choice doesn’t make it wrong. I don’t know much about the family but it would appear the children are loved and cared for - something which sadly isn’t the case for many children in the world

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pushymeas · 25/02/2020 20:08

I'd put money on at least one of the children writing a tell-all book in adulthood.
My money is on Katie. She seems different from the rest. ( I'm overly invested maybe)

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Sirzy · 25/02/2020 20:10

It’s sad how she’s 18 and her parents are congratulating her on being pregnant so you.

Would you rather they publically disowned her? Is a parent supporting their child really sad?

We don’t know what conversations have occurred in private, nor do we need to but I can’t judge parents for supporting their child even if circumstances are possibly less than ideal

Namechange8471 · 25/02/2020 20:10

DodgeRainClouds It’s an AIBU forum... there will be various opinions.
I had my own child at 18 (my only one). I do wonder if they have life outside of the family?
In my opinion there is so much more to life than having babies, it would be nice to see the kids make something for themselves, travel etc.

PortiaCastis · 25/02/2020 20:13

I had my dd at 18 and now she's 21 and I'm 39 I'm very glad I did

lynsey91 · 25/02/2020 20:16

@Sirzy sorry but I think having so many children is wrong.

Quite apart from the fact the planet is overpopulated just think how much they have cost the NHS and the education system alone.

I only just found out that a NHS birth costs around £10,000. It's disgusting that they have cost that much.

Add to that child benefit for the last 24 years or so plus tax credits (even if they don't claim them now, which I don't believe they certainly did at one time).

ProgrammableMagneticStorm · 25/02/2020 20:17

Just because it wouldn’t be your choice doesn’t make it wrong.

A general principle which does not hold in this case.

It is wrong to have 25 kids.

Patroclus · 25/02/2020 20:18

That 'bakery' sure must be offering some banging pies

SudokuQueen · 25/02/2020 20:19

'Play nicely'...how condescending

Not really. Some adults still need to be treated like children and reminded on how to behave. Grin It sucks, but that's why we have bullies and trolls on the Internet. Because some adults are just assholes.

DrSheldonCooperPHD · 25/02/2020 20:19

I feel really really sorry for all of the kids

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 25/02/2020 20:23

I don't think it's trolling to point out the age at which Sue became pregnant in comparison to the man who became a father to so many.

It's a fact often overlooked.

feelingverylazytoday · 25/02/2020 20:25

What exactly is the point of this thread? Woman is pregnant, and ...???

Orangecake123 · 25/02/2020 20:25

@seekingwaxwings

Yes!

Their explanation was very good!

Toria70 · 25/02/2020 20:30

Is the magical bakery also supporting the offspring and their broods?

Or is the tax payer doing the honours?

SleepyNightOwl · 25/02/2020 20:30

Wouldn't you think that grandchildren would be when they decided to stop having babies themselves?

You would think that but no, attention seekers (at least in my own mothers case) will keep trying if they can.

Aussiegirl123456 · 25/02/2020 20:33

Good luck to her.
I had my twins at 18 and was faced with the same negative comments I often see on here about young parents. The people who told me and my husband that we were too young and having children would guarantee we would split up, have ironically divorced whereas our marriage is sixteen years strong. The people who were concerned about us not being financially stable (even though we had already purchased our first home) are the same ones that now look at our life with envy instead of appreciating that all we have is all we have worked hard for.

Nethertheless, my husband and I planned to have our children together while young so we could grow with them. During their upbringing, I had a chance to be a stay at home parent to watch them grow. I completed my bachelor degree and my masters. I did a training contract at a well respected law firm. We've lived in four different countries and my beautiful children have done it all with us. They've travelled the world and have been spoilt with our love and attention (and probably a few too many material objects here and there). They're now amazing teenagers who are confident, secure, well loved and excelling in every area of their lives. My husband and I are always so thankful we had our children young and I always pinch myself that I have these amazing children who I have not only managed to keep alive, but they have thrived. It's a huge achievement, especially as not one single person congratulated us when we finally got pregnant, instead they were determined to pull us down, constantly telling us we'd ruined our lives, we were going to ruin the children's lives blah blah blah.

I've just had another baby five weeks ago (in the later half of my 30's) and I'm even more relieved now I had the twins when I was young as I'm exhausted. So for those few of you on here being judgemental about this woman being so young, please don't. She may well end up being a far better parent than some of you...

easythere · 25/02/2020 20:34

They are certainly going to have A LOT of grandchildren eventually, and perhaps be young enough to have great grandchildren.

They can't all get that much personal attention each. I have 2. A 3 year old and a 10 month old and i feel guilty for my eldest sometimes when I have to comfort the baby a little more.

JuanSheetIsPlenty · 25/02/2020 20:36

I wonder what they put in those pies.

HavenDilemma · 25/02/2020 20:40

If they all take after their parents, (along with the children of other extra large families), it's going to get to the stage one day, where everyone has to take DNA tests before sleeping with new partners!! Some may end up with hundreds of cousins and nieces & nephews.
I know families of up to 12\13 were quite common in 1800s & 1900s. However back then, not only did a fair amount of children not make it to adulthood, but also it's very possible there actually was a lot of accidental inbreeding. Without DNA tests back then, who knows 🤷

It's a thought that really scares me. I'm guessing it will be my grandchildren's era, possibly the generation after, where it will become a really necessity.

Sux2buthen · 25/02/2020 20:42

A fact often overlooked? Haha good one

CtrlU · 25/02/2020 20:43

Ok, she’s pregnant...and ?? Confused

HavenDilemma · 25/02/2020 20:44

@Aussiegirl123456 Was there any point to your post, other than to self-congratulate & brag?

CD14 · 25/02/2020 20:44

You’d think having so many siblings would put you off having children or having them at a young age 🤣

They’ve announced it on the Redford family Facebook page now!

robin04031402 · 25/02/2020 20:47

Yes congratuations to Millie!
I hope no hate gets to her - I'm sure she will be an amazing Mum.
Can't imagine any of my auntie/uncle being younger than me though!

HavenDilemma · 25/02/2020 20:47

@Aussiegirl123456 Also, please don't need imply you need to 'travel the world and have material things' to be a good parent (or be a stay at home parentHmm)
I travelled round the world as a child and had material things. However I was violently abused & emotionally neglected. Just a fyi for anyone feeling inadequate from your one-up-Mum post