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AIBU?

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To give up my high flying career for a menial job?

78 replies

WalterWx · 25/02/2020 14:16

I’m relatively young (30), single and work in a very senior role for an international company in the city. The field I work in is specialist and complex. Nothing is black and white, an awful amount of thought and research is required before being able to make decisions and the implications of a wrong decision on my part would be catastrophic for both the company and my career. I have achieved a lot and trained hard for years to get to where I am, but the buck stops with me and I’m in a role where the learning never ends. I leave work most days feeling stressed and mentally exhausted from the responsibility of it all. I used to dream of having the responsibility and salary that I have now, but now I’m living the life I dreamed of I find it absolutely draining and it’s sucking the life out of me. Sometimes I wish I could just leave, take on a role with much less responsibility and accept the massive pay cut which would come with it. Friends and family don’t seem to understand and all appear shocked that anyone would want to give up such a high flying career at my age when I’ve got such a bright future ahead of me. Comments such as “you’ll be bored in a menial job!”, “why would you throw away your career?”, “but we thought you were so ambitious!” Etc.

AIBU? Surely other people have done this and I’d love to know if you regretted it.

OP posts:
SwearyMcSwearySwear · 26/02/2020 08:58

Can you afford a sabbatical? Go travelling for 6 months? If you’re that valued and the alternative is they lose you entirely then most companies would allow you the time out.
It’ll give you some perspective and time to think about what you want.
There’s a lot in between ‘menial’ and ‘highflying’ but if you aren’t enjoying it then you aren’t.
Could you teach or train in your field instead? Something with lighter more regular hours?

SwearyMcSwearySwear · 26/02/2020 09:00

I second paying for a coach- not the type work give you, your own personal one.
I work with a lot of people who gave up big jobs to become independent consultants, trainers and the like and while it’s a different kind of stress, being self employed, they chose their own hours and who they work with and seem to have no regrets whatsoever.

ApplePie86 · 26/02/2020 09:06

I 100% get where you are coming from OP.

I own my own business and make six figures. I started from nothing and grew it over the last 5/6 years to what it is now. The way I did it has made it difficult for me to not be "working" or at least available 24/7 and I have a lot of responsibility. It's a small business but I'm the only one running it.

I'm planning to milk it as much as possible for around 5 years then give it up. I will then work part or full time for a company doing the same role but will earn about £20k.

Do what will make you happy...but make sure you can afford what you're used to if you do decide to give it up.

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