Hen do tees and leotards

[GonnaNeedANameChange]

I'm going on a hen do to Ibiza and the sister of the bride is organising it (yet not going as she will have just had a baby).

She arranging tee shirts and leotards for a pool party.

Now I'm plus size, every one else is a size8/10.

Aibu to just say sorry but I'll be so uncomfortable and self conscious that I just don't want to wear them?

I'm aware I'm then going to be the odd one out and draw more attention to myself.

I'm quite happy in a sucky ineryou cozzi etc but these will not be.

BLOODY HEN DO'S

I’d be sacking that hen do off.

I hate organised shite like this

MN is a bit judgey about a group of women wanting to do more than have a packet of pork scratchings in a barn somewhere for a hens

And rightly so, given that all the hen party posts are always about going abroad/spending £££££/wearing ridiculous outfits etc.

Posters don't post about sensible hen dos where there are no unrealistic expectations because there is no AIBU.

"Sorry InconsiderateOrganiser, it looks as if RubbishOutfit doesn't come in my size so this isn't going to work for me."

Instead of swimming costumes? So this is a pool party where you don't actually swim? What a waste of a pool.

You could wear your suckyon costume underneath and cut up the Tshirt and wear like a jacket over it?

Wow super tacky! Leotards? Do people over the age of 8 still wear them? 🤣 Agree with pp saying the tees from China will not be the size shes expecting! Find a gorgeous kafftan and poolside shoes. I would suggest a sash, at a push because I hate these kind of things. It's a massive cliche and very chavvy. Sorry if offend anyone 😆

No I agree, it's awful chavvy and not like the bride at all.

I've had a few read on the group but no1s yet replied. I'll keep you updated!

I'm a size 10 and I wouldn't wear the get up to a pool party in ibiza. I'm 32, have two kids and I'd just feel ridiculous. I know people who do it and seem to love it though but I'd rather leave them to it!

Don't feel forced into it.

It’s not “rightly so” it’s just a difference in opinion and taste.

And this is from someone who went to dinner for her “hens” without a sash or plastic willy in sight!

It’s just more bloody landfill. I wish people would think about the environmental impact of their funny crap. OP I would take the moral high ground and say you won’t wear it because of the issues re carbon footprint and land fill.

A size 14 from China will probably fit a 6 year old girl at best. So its unlikely any of them will end up wearing them
quite like made by said child's 10 year old sibling

I'd be asking 'Do we actually think (bride) will be comfortable with this?' & 'can we just stick to a decent long Tshirt such as (find a nice one in big enough size)'

So so tacky, all of it is my idea of literal Hell including the venue...

Just be honest and say you don’t feel comfortable wearing that, I bet you’re not alone even if the other women are a size 8.

Leotard? What The Actual Heck!

you wouldn't be allowed in the pool with T shirt where I live, unless lycra,
I would go on the group WhatsApp, & say, "You are having a laugh ! seriously won't do this"

@cooldarkroom the T-shirt’s will be for travelling I imagine. That’s normally how it goes so you are all as a recognisable unit in the airport.

Hen party outfits and hen parties in general just make me roll my eyes. Sorry to those who find them hilarious and all jolly good fun and all that but I think it is all just silly but then up until now I have only been an observer of the rollicking and raucous groups of squealing females invading my city centre every weekend.

However! I am now cordially invited to a hen party next year and it will be in Ibiza! I love Ibiza but this bride to be is 30 years younger than me and so are several more of the invited ladies. I have not accepted formally yet as it is not fixed and official but it will happen. No outfit mentioned but I have a feeling I will politely decline the whole trip.

In my city I have memories of walking along during a Saturday afternoon carrying my bags of shopping, only to be confronted with half a dozen or more women dressed in Madonna outfits complete with conical bra contraptions, all the while screeching at the tops of their voices LIKE A VIRGIN and thinking they were fantastic to see and hear.

Leotards? er no thank you

@daffodil55 I darent even tell you the actual "theme" (it's actually way too outing)!

Aw please do!!! 😂

@GonnaNeedANameChange no one wants to be the first to reply to agree with you 😂
They are all high-fiving you in their minds right now

Like @BlackWhitePurple...I'm in the Fake My Own Death category for this type of event.

I'm a size 8 and wouldn't wear that kind of shit. I don't even wear a bikini!

@GonnaNeedANameChange you can't drop that bombshell and say no more, come onnnnnnnnnnn

The MOH (who's not attending) has just replied saying fair dos, we will have a final vote on fave outfits by next week and go from there.

Someone has messaged me separate from the group and are in agreement! Shame she's not 100% coming though.

Sounds like a tacky nightmare, well done for speaking up.

In fairness, doesn’t sound like she’s pushing anything!

I think it will be fine, I'm quite good at making things lighthearted and being able to laugh at myself so if I'm the odd one out so be it. I'd rather that then feel self conscious!

I'm a size 8 and I would never wear a leotard!
I desperately need to know the theme now....