AIBU not to see my DP because of Coronavirus?

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My DP have just got back from a tour of South Korea and Japan. They have asked if they can come round next weekend to see me and DS, aged nearly 1.

I've said no! I want to wait two weeks to make sure they don't have coronavirus. I tried to say it tactfully but I think they might be a bit offended.

AIBU?

Should we be stopping flights from these areas? Where should my husband go when he returns from his business trip to Japan? Surely by the logic on this thread he can’t come home as there are vulnerable people in the house. Should the government be providing areas for people to self isolate?

Like the above poster, my company requires staff who have been in or in contact with anyone who has been China, HK, South Korea, Japan, Malaysia, Singapore or Thailand (even in transit) with the last 2 weeks to self isolate for 14 days.

My husband is on his way back home via a short stop in HK airport & I have to wfh for 2 weeks as a result. Irritating, but I can see their point.

@jcurve my husband has now moved on to the States. No chance of 14 days isolation. If he comes back here are me and my family supposed to all go into isolation? No school? No work for any of us?

It's a risk/benefit trade-off, surely?

Sure, the risk to the OP from contact with her parents is very low. But the cost of sticking to phone contact for a couple of weeks is also very low. So why wouldn't you?

In contrast, the cost of putting everyone flying into the country into Diamond Princess-style quarantine is high, both personally and financially, so it only makes sense to do it if the risk is also high.

Definitely not unreasonable

@Windyone it boils down to whether your schools and employer are happy to have you in & take the risk.

YANBU. I wouldn't be seeing them for three weeks.

Very sensible to keep them away for 2 weeks.

@jcurve my son goes to school with many children from China with family travelling back and forwards regularly. Should the school be shut?

@windyone As I said, it’s up to the school and your employer as to what risk level they are comfortable taking on.

@jcurve The school and employer are following government advice so no need for isolation.

Windyone...so do my DCs. Their school banned all borders from going home to China or HK at half term. In addition, if they come into contact with a family member or friend who has been to either of those two countries in the previous two weeks, they are not allowed back into the school for 14 days. There are also strict rules which apply if a child visits another SE Asian country and then becomes ill.

BunsyGirl DS's school have similar restrictions

If they do expose you all to it, at least you’d have it NOW when the NHS would cope with it rather than if there’s a larger outbreak and the NHS can’t cope.

I’ve totally over thought it all haven’t it 🤷‍♀️

Yanbu

My work (nothing at all health related) is telling everyone who has been to affected areas to self quarantine for 2 weeks and also not allowing visitors who have been to any affected areas even if important customers etc.

With a one year old I wouldnt take the risk. I know it is meant to hit children less hard than adults but when you see how a bug hits a very young child much more than an adult or an older child its hard not to worry (eg my 2 year old will get a fever and be off nursery while for the rest of us it's just a cold....though could just be her).

It's only a couple of weeks, what's the harm in waiting vs the potential harm if you dont

Please don’t scaremongering unnecessarily.

Don't be ridiculous. Since when has suggesting taking reasonable, proportionate precautions been scare mongering. It makes sense to keep a 1 yo baby away from the risk of contracting an infectious virus. 2-3 weeks is proportionate. If I'd said 6 months, now that would be scaremongering!

The OP has asked on here for opinions, so let her decide which advice to take.

The OP has asked on here for opinions, so let her decide which advice to take.

Or, you know. Follow the government and WHO advice rather than internet fandoms!

I think you are completely right. Why not be cautious? My closest family live in the high risk area of the world and cannot visit us at the moment because that’s the advice given by our school. It’s just to be on the safe side. This may not come to a pandemic but we don’t know.

I'm not usually one for wittering too much about these things, but I'd do the same as you OP. If I were your DM I'd be self-isolating anyway. I'd rather safe than sorry in this respect.

Thanks again everyone. It has been really useful to hear others' perspectives. I have checked out the WHO, FCO and NHS advice but the situation seems to be evolving rapidly and of course I'd rather be over cautious in this case where there is nothing to lose by waiting a week or two.

DP live a few hours away so we always have to plan trips ahead anyway, so I don't think it makes much difference to wait a while.

If i was your dps I'd be staying away for a few weeks through my own choice.

I have 2 grandchildren 2 years and 10 months old and wouldn't risk it. So I think yanbu

No you're not. At least you can refuse. Stay safe. Stick to your guns.