AIBU not to see my DP because of Coronavirus?

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My DP have just got back from a tour of South Korea and Japan. They have asked if they can come round next weekend to see me and DS, aged nearly 1.

I've said no! I want to wait two weeks to make sure they don't have coronavirus. I tried to say it tactfully but I think they might be a bit offended.

AIBU?

I wasnt going to answer as I didnt want to get the gender neutral pronouns wrong but I think from another comment that you are talking about your parents rather than your partner

Personally I probably wouldnt worry too much, from all I've read otherwise healthy adults and children aren't particularly at risk but if you are uncomfortable with the risk you shouldn't see them for the next month.

How do they feel about it?

YANBU. I would be waiting longer than two weeks as well.

Yanbu. If I had a 1yo theres no way I would knowingly let them have contact with somebody who'd just careered all over Asia.

I think anyone coming back from areas like that should self quarantine upon return. Common sense to try to prevent any spread as much as possible

Sorry, yes, parents not partner!

They have asked if they can come round next weekend to see me and DS, aged nearly 1.

Not meaning to be rude about your DPs, but they must be living under a rock if they aren't aware of all the NHS publicity on precautions relating to Corona virus, and proactively offer to stay away to protect their DGS.

Your DS1 is in the high risk category as his immune system is very immature, so if he were to catch the virus it would affect him much more than a mature healthy adult.

Just because they aren't showing symptoms, doesn't mean they aren't a carrier, and it can take up to 2 weeks for symptoms to occur, which is why they are recommending a 2 week quarantine.

No way would I let them come over, can't they FaceTime or something?

You’re more likely, far more likely, to get killed in a car accident on your way to see them than get the Coronavirus. Are you this paranoid about getting into a car as you are about a virus?

Definitely NBU! Better to be safe than sorry!

BritWifeinUSA This virus has the potential to become a serious problem. OP's parents have returned from a high risk area, and a period of quarantine to reduce the possibility of spreading the virus is sensible.

YANBU.

Well, I don't have a car either, but that's more for financial reasons!

I know what you're saying but the mortality rate and contagiousness of coronavirus are very high. With getting into a car you are usually somewhat in control and able to take precautions. I feel I am just taking a sensible precaution here. I know there is an element of risk to almost anything but surely that doesn't mean you shouldn't try and avoid it if you can.

My parents are very tactile with DS too so there is always lots of cuddling and closeness (which I encourage!) but if either of them did have it, which I know is a slim chance (and I obviously hope they don't), DS would definitely catch it!

YANBU. Friends of mine have just come back from Italy (one of the affected areas) and are avoiding contact until they get advice.

YANBU when a 1 year old is involved. I would rather be called precious than have my 1 year old on the news for being the first child diagnosed in UK.

YANBU we have a self-isolation policy at work. Anyone returning from certain countries (including China, Singapore, HK, Thailand etc) has to remain at home for 2 weeks and not come to the office. So I think you're perfectly reasonable to do this.

Yanbu seems sensible under the circumstances.

YANBU

Yanbu. All that hugging and cuddling and kissing sounds like the best possible way to share any bugs they've brought home.

YANBU.

What does the foreign office travel advice have to say on the subject? I'd follow that

Unfortunately so many posters think they know better than the UK government / FCO / World Health Organisation / CDC

A bit like the anti vaxxers

It looks like the incubation period is up to a month so I wouldn't bother. The risk is tiny right now from your parents but it's probably going to become a pandemic anyway if the incubation period is that long.

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable- it’s not an unreasonable request in the circumstances

YANBU at all.

They have just returned from countries with serious problems with containing the virus, presumably on a plane full of people also coming back from the same areas.

Your parents should want to protect you and their grandchildren from any possible exposure, even if it's a small chance. 2 weeks isn't too much to ask. They were happy to travel and not see you all for longer than 2 weeks, presumably, so they can wait another couple of weeks to make sure everyone is healthy.

I wouldn't worry what they think, tbh. Let them think you're being overprotective, if they will. Rather that than take a risk you're uncomfortable taking. It's your primary job to protect your children, no matter what anyone else thinks about it.

I'd do a video call instead.

YANBU and the what ifs just don't bear thinking about. Get face time or something?

Oh, and the news today reported that 4 British passengers from the cruise ship that were brought home have now tested positive ... incubation period is longer than 2 weeks by the sounds of it.