Play date behaviour - advice

[Sassenach85]

Not really AIBU I know, but I am looking for a wide range of advice tbh

I have a DD who has just started having play dates and one thing I find tricky to manoeuvre is how to deal with bad behaviour of the other child?

So far 2 mums have dropped their kids off at my door and have left me in charge, this is fine and not an issue but if the child is cheeky, domineering, rude or badly behaved I feel like there must be a way of dealing with it without putting the kids off from wanting to return!

I am a primary school teacher lol I don’t know if I am setting my standards too high but I’m just looking for more experienced mums to share any useful tips on this?

Thanks

Ok to be clear to some posters I didn’t let things go lol I acted on my instincts with a smile plastered on my face BUT my question was for others experiences and tips on how to go about dealing with these things without scaring the kids off.

From this thread it would seem people feel kids are quite hard to put off and being strict hasn’t lead to any issues. Good to hear from other mums with older kids.

Social and emotional issues are a bit of a mine field in this house for reasons I don’t need to go into and I find mumsnet a good place to suss some things out. So thanks to all the people who responded.

Ahhh I know you’re right I just didn’t want to embarrass dd I guess ... what a lot of palaver over nothing

Not at all 😊

What would you do if a child:Walks away while you’re talking to them - deliberately. In work that would be easy for me to handle with my stern voice but to a visitor in my home... a 5 year old? Trickier lol

Same as I do with my DGC, and did with my DC and at work.

Very firm voice and the expectation that they would obey. If they carry on they would be informed that I'd be calling their mum. Which I would.

I think for your examples I would do what others have said:
Tell them the rules in your house, and if they don't choose to follow them then you'll have to call their parent to pick them up
Tell them that they must be tired and therefore you'll have to call their parent to pick them up

Basically tell them that you won't put up with their bad/poor behaviour in your own home and that the playdate will be over if they choose to continue!

I know this thread was from a few days ago but I just wanted to say that I feelabsolutely no guilt telling off other children in my house and would be horrified if when my DC were at friends' houses their parents didn't feel the same. I'm not talking screaming and punishments, but firm boundaries are essential.

DS had a friend over last week and when I left to go to work both of them ignored me. I was pretty sharp with both of them that ignoring an adult who says hello or goodbye isn't okay. I felt zero guilt.

I'm a parent of young children in the 21st century, I get that we're all focused on making sure our children are happy and not traumatised. But it really does take a village and if we don't all step up, these children will will never learn. And different rules for different places absolutely applies.