Child in a jumpsuit for wedding

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So my DP's Sister is getting married in May. My DD will be 11 months old. I cannot find a dress I like anywhere!
The only thing I've found that I really like is a jumpsuit, however, my DB thinks that I am insane not putting her in a pretty dress!
My dp is giving her away and acting as 'father of the bride' so he obviously wants his little girl to look pretty.
What does everyone think? Aibu not putting her in a dress?

@hazeyjane thank goodness there are other people in the world who don’t lose their minds over weddings! We had guests in everything from morning suits to shalwar kameez to short suits (probably: I wouldn’t be surprised but I actually have no idea because I kind of had OTHER THINGS ON MY MIND that day than worrying about what someone else was wearing 🤷‍♀️). OP if you’d turned up with a child wearing that at my wedding, I doubt I would have noticed. If I was getting married today (now that I have experienced parenthood), I’d just be impressed you made it out of the house without you or the child having visible poo on your clothes. As far as I’m concerned the only reason for dressing small children up is if you the parent enjoy the result, because frankly you should take the perks of this job where you can get them

However, since this wedding is probably more important to your DP than to you, if he feels strongly about it why not let him choose the outfit? Embrace this opportunity to palm off a tiny fraction of the enormously unbalanced emotional labour of parenting that is expected to fall to you rather than the child’s father

I suppose if you got something like this you could use it to hide the toilet roll afterwards.

Some of these 'more appropriate' baby wedding outfit suggestions remind me of Pubert Addams

@ThatFriendsReunion most people would put their child in that as a everyday play outfit, therefore it isn't wedding appropriate for a close family formal wedding. Wedding appropriate doesn't have to mean netting and bows, however it doesn't mean casual cut play clothes.

John Lewis Heirloom Collection also has some nice rompers and pretty smock dresses. Jojo Maman Bebe has some too if you like ditsy prints or more traditional looks, with a simple, non fussy style.

Thanks everyone!
Yes DP is DD's father!

Money isn't really a problem tbh, I'm more the type of 'if I like it, I get it'. But she will only be 11 months so don't really want something too expensive, I know full well she probably isn't going to be in one outfit all day! She is currently also crawling and climbing up things so I'm dreading in a few months time haha
DP isn't really one to go shopping for her clothes, and if I told him to go find one he would probably come home with a £5 one from primark lol
This one wasn't a 100%, just asking what people's thoughts were on putting her in a jumpsuit. Very mixed responses.
I have a while to keep looking!

Today's WTF lesson being that there are people in the world who care what babies wear to weddings .

We might have had guests in jeans. I honestly have no idea. We certainly made it clear people should wear what they’d enjoy the day in. My (then) nonagenarian grandfather was probably wearing a jumper bought second hand in another century

We got DD a beautiful dress from cath kidston for my DBs wedding. She was prem and ended up being far too small to fit into it so my mum made her an dress 😊

Lots of nice alternatives here OP

I think it looks lovely! She’s a baby, she won’t care about dresses!

I agree that you should only get it if it has poppers though.

*therefore it isn't wedding appropriate for a close family formal wedding.

@tiredsleepysleep* in your opinion. I know in my group of friends no one would care if a baby wore that to their wedding whether it's a close family member or not. They'd be happy their loved ones are there and just glad the parents of small children have made it in one piece.

I think she'll be very cute, and since little ones spend a lot of time on the floor, more sensible than a dress, frankly.

And no one should be telling you how to spend your money ... or telling you £16 isn't enough to spend on a child's outfit. Bonkers and rude.

This thread is really making me laugh, people get so worked up about wedding outfits. It’s also making me a bit worried that I have been offending people without realising it because my children have always been in comfy kids clothes at weddings while I hobble around in my uncomfortable heels!
I love the jumpsuit, and would have preferred it over a dress for a girl of any age at my wedding.

We took 3 year old DD to a wedding dressed in her Liverpool FC kit once as she refused to put an "itchy" lacy dress on. She has eczema.
It raised a lot of eyebrows and We couldn't believe how petty some people were.

@NerrSnerr I also have friends that wouldn't care, I also have friends that would care. My point is I would be putting the bride at the forefront of my mind, if it's a formal wedding and I new the bride would want/expect/assume her niece would be wearing something more typically wedding appropriate, and also the child's own father wanted the same, I would do that.

What the hell happened to just thinking of other people?!!

I think a jumpsuit is fine, that particular one isn't my favourite, I'm not sure I'd even buy it for day to day, it's a bit meh.. Athough better than some of the toilet roll cover dresses people are posting!

Whatever your baby will be happiest in surely. I’d rather a happy comfortable baby at my wedding that a grumpy one wearing a scratchy formal dress.

When I took ds to a wedding as baby he wore dungaree things (not denim, but summer cotton ones) with a body/ vest thing underneath that had a little polo shirt type collar.

Should I have put him in a suit and tie, judging by some of these suggestions?

There are so really nice suggestions on here - the teal next dress is pretty, as is that blouse dress and leggings combo. I think if she’s crawling / cruising something like your jumpsuit would be good as it covers her knees (for a bit of protection) but won’t be hot. A big full skirt is a definite no no.

DP isn't really one to go shopping for her clothes, and if I told him to go find one he would probably come home with a £5 one from primark lol

But, it’s ok if she goes in a £5 outfit from Primark if that’s what your DP has chosen and he’s the one playing a big role in the wedding. Maybe not if it’s 100% polyester because the poor kid might be very uncomfortable if it’s warm. But you can always tell him he needs to check the labels and get natural fibres. You’ve got another decade at least of shopping for this kid: training him up now will surely be worth it in the future

Is this really everyday wear for babies now?

That previous pic isn't a 'blouse', it's a dress!

A dress isn't practical at all for a crawling baby, at that age mine had just started to walk and would've been even less practical, she'd have gone arse over tit and at 13 months she still would! Im getting married in autumn and have a range of ages of children coming, and I frankly can't imagine giving the slightest of shits what they've dressed their kid in, it's enough that they've made the effort to come along and wrangle a small child at a wedding which isn't easy! A wedding should be a happy, comparable occasion where people enjoy themselves, in my opinion. If you notice what an infant is wearing and are hurt by it I think some perspective is needed.

Look in monsoon, they have gorgeous dresses usually

Nothing wrong with a playsuit for a wedding but that one, as cute as it is, actually looks like you haven't even bothered.

I cannot believe for a moment you can't find a dress you like though!

(Incidentally I can remember what loads of our guests wore at our wedding which was 21 years ago. Is that weird?)

Notso not for mine! Everyday clothing was babygros, and then shorts and t shirt or short babygro in summer (ds and dd).

I just came back to say how nice the Zara dress pictured is if you want a dress though!

My baby's everyday wear is leggings/joggers, a bodysuit and t shirt, if we're being fancy then dungarees- she is a right pain in the arse to get clothes on though