Child in a jumpsuit for wedding

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So my DP's Sister is getting married in May. My DD will be 11 months old. I cannot find a dress I like anywhere!
The only thing I've found that I really like is a jumpsuit, however, my DB thinks that I am insane not putting her in a pretty dress!
My dp is giving her away and acting as 'father of the bride' so he obviously wants his little girl to look pretty.
What does everyone think? Aibu not putting her in a dress?

@99problemsandthecatis1 I would not take a baby to a wedding for 8 hours unless they could reliably sleep in a buggy or we had a room in the venue. It is a long time to entertain a baby at a formal event.

@HaddawayAndShite I would dress them up for ceremony and photos.
And that is an awful way to talk about the baby and the wedding.

Eight hours being a long time to entertain a mobile baby is precisely why allowing them to spend some time crawling is normal and to be expected. If the baby is already walking unassisted perhaps not, but otherwise yes.

And it's true the bride has okayed the jumpsuit, so that does make the posts about host disrespect look a tad tittish.

The bride might have oked it to be polite. She also suggested her colours are emerald green and to feel free to dress baby in it.

Op seems to have moved on from the jumpsuit and looking at more traditional dresses for her.

If we're inventing things about the bride's views now with absolutely nothing to back them up, perhaps she prefers jumpsuits to dresses.

And yes, OP has moved on, I posted to her on the dress point. Scroll back a page. Other parts of the discussion still continue though.

Babies do crawl in church; the priest at my church once announced in the middle of the service that no one should ever consider it was inappropriate, or wrong, or that people shouldn't bring babies to church with them. I wouldn't let them do it in the middle of the wedding ceremony; to be honest, at that point I would probably be outside because my baby would be screaming at being held for so long. But there is so much hanging around at weddings; a quick high speed belt on all fours down the aisle while interminable photos are taken, a crawl under the tables at the evening-do while aunties play peek a boo with them, a crawl in the foyer during the speeches. Babies should be crawling. It's what they do. And I would be chasing after them, making sure they don't get in the way or spoil anything for the important people of the day. I am a bit upset that a baby would be expected to be tethered to a high chair, in someone's arms, or in a pushchair all day. It is a pain for me, of course, but it is for such a finite part of life; part of the baby deal, I think.

I think it’s an odd fabric for a baby, a bit grey & dull

This one linked to earlier is much nicer IMO

My logic for keeping baby in arms during the service is more to do with keeping baby clean for the photos, church floors are possibly not the cleanest of places.

After the photos who cares if she gets a bit dirty?

But babies are different, not all babies crawl, some are walking independently at 11 mths, some are cruising, some bumshuffle.

Interestingly one of mine was happier cruising the other crawled but never cruised.

I have never seen babies crawl up the aisle during a wedding service. You obviously go to different types of weddings than I do if you think this is acceptable.

I think it's a sweet outfit. Also, practical enough to get plenty of wear after the wedding. Why would you buy something that probably won't be worn a second time?

I think it is much too casual for a wedding. It looks like cheap jersey-type material but I suppose it depends on how formal or casual the wedding is.

Are you deliberately being obtuse, OP?

Clearly your dp and his dsis want to include his dd in the photos as if she has played a part in the proceedings - a few months older and she would no doubt have played a role as a tiny flower girl, toddling down the aisle into your proud waiting arms.

There are half a dozen white/ecru dresses on the Monsoon site, any of which could be embellished with an emerald green ribbon sash or flower and all of which would fit the bill admirably.

However, unless you have other occasions that require 'dressing up' t I see no reason to spend £40-£50 on a dress that's unlikely to be worn for more than a few hours and suggest you consider this dress from Next www.next.co.uk/g69262s1/511094#511094
and accessorise it with a white headband to which you have added an emerald ribbon bow.

Whatever dress you buy will be quickly outgrown, but I would keep it as a treasured memory of the first time dd was a 'bridesmaid' and present it to her on her 18th along with one or more of the photos that are taken on the happy day.

That original jumpsuit option is hideous but I haven't rtft. Hope your sorted 👍🏼

It occurs to me that your dd may be the only guest who can wear white to the wedding without attracting unfavourable comment, OP.

In my opinion it’s pretty for a day out but it’s be nice for your DP and his sister to have her quite matching and nice for the pictures. Or even a different jumpsuit! I do think babies should be comfortable but wouldn’t dream of taking one to a wedding in fancy dress or a football strip!

I'd wait to closer to the date to make my final decision.
3 months is a long time for babies and she could easily be walking everywhere at 11 months or still crawling.
My DS put on a lot of weight at that time between being weaned and starting to walk.

So, I'd wait until a couple of weeks before to make sure I got the right size.

You're looking at dresses now but I don't think a jump suit is inappropriate.
However, I think you'd need a more formal looking jumpsuit. In a more solid colour with just a bit of added detail, maybe.

At that age I didn’t dress mine up for weddings. Wasn’t practical for a baby either crawling around or asleep in a buggy.

HIBU if he wants to define his little girl with 6 letters. Why do girls need to be "pretty"?

Why not individual, comfortable (jumpsuit more practical than fancy dress, which will only get one use)

Why can she only be "pretty" in a dress?

@howwillthispanout No one will give a flying fuck what your DD is wearing

charming! And didn't you notice, her dp DOES give a "flying fuck" what is being worn...

Sounds like you want to deliberately upset them but act innocent about it. You cant dress your child in this for a wedding. This is for soft play. It's a close family wedding. There are hundreds of much more appropriate outfits and I'm not even talking about dresses.

Nothing wrong with jumpsuit but not that one

Looks like a pair of curtains or crap bed linen

The pattern and colour is too old for a baby

She's a baby, who cares what she wears. At my baby's Christening in April, she wore her white frock until she was out of the church, then it was into leggings and top and we went to lunch to celebrate. She was 10 months old. Comfort is paramount at this age.

@Donkeyshot I really like your choice of Next dress. Super price and not ott. They have it in light pink, also.

@SVRT19674 So you did care what she wore. You put her in something different for the actual christening.

she wore her white frock until she was out of the church, then it was into leggings and top and we went to lunch to celebrate.

Why did you change her?
Why not keep the dress on and get some wear out of it?