Child in a jumpsuit for wedding

[GAW19]

So my DP's Sister is getting married in May. My DD will be 11 months old. I cannot find a dress I like anywhere!
The only thing I've found that I really like is a jumpsuit, however, my DB thinks that I am insane not putting her in a pretty dress!
My dp is giving her away and acting as 'father of the bride' so he obviously wants his little girl to look pretty.
What does everyone think? Aibu not putting her in a dress?

I would think it’s more important what the 11 month old is feeling, rather than what she looks like or whose standards she meets.
The baby might only feel uncomfortable / hot/ crotchety /distressed
and not know why.
As a bride looking back at wedding photographs I’d rather see a smiling baby in a baby grow / vest and nappy , than a screaming baby trussed up in a beautiful gown.

I'd put her in a pretty dress for the ceremony and have the other outfit for the reception! That way they can get photos of her with family'done up' and then change into something practical for the rest of the day!

This is the worst of the narcissism that seems to go along with weddings these days - the guests as props in a show/photos, to the extent that a right is assumed for brides and grooms to dictate that babies get all trussed up in ridiculous and quite posibly uncomfortable clothes to 'look pretty', and if someone's reluctant to go along with that they are accused of making 'zero effort'. A guest at a wedding is honouring the couple with their presence. Making demands as to what they wear is just presumptuous.

(I do see, OP, that your SIL is not the one doing the dictating in this case, but it's the general principle. I always find 'a new outfit' being counted as one of the inevitable expenses of attending a wedding pretty shocking (and wasteful) too, if I'm honest. In times gone by even the bride and groom just wore their Sunday clothes!)

I’ve never dressed my kids in frilly plastic clothes. But I can always find a nice outfit for my kids to wear that’s suitable for a wedding. They will then wear them out if we go for a meal or anywhere fancy or even just to the shops. My kids love to dress up so clothes never stay hidden away.

Put a bit of effort in

I think it's lovely and she's only a baby so I wouldn't worry she's not in a dress. The jumpsuit would probably feel more comfortable for her and a wedding is such a long day her comfort should be important

Don’t most babies struggle to crawl as well in dresses? At least, mine does. She can do it but not as easily. It seems mean to make a baby struggle.
I think dresses are best for when they’re walking well which would generally be a good few months after they start walking.

Just don't put her in one of those loo roll cover polyester monstrosities.
There's some cute cotton dresses in Frugi
www.welovefrugi.com/baby-toddler-clothes/dresses

And look at this lovely broderie Anglaise set in La Redoute for £10.80...
www.laredoute.co.uk/ppdp/prod-350130232.aspx#shoppingtool=treestructureflyout

In fact, I'm quite taken with the La Redoute stuff generally. Think I must be broody.

I wouldn’t have thought twice about putting her in that for a wedding. Older children and adults wear jumpsuits to weddings so I think a baby can too. Next are usually pretty good at putting in poppers to baby items.

Surprised about the fuss over this.

I love a jumpsuit for babies but I’d go for one in more wedding colours tbh

One of the main reasons I like the thought of a jumpsuit is that the wedding is at 10:30am
So it's going to be a long day!

Jumpsuit absolutely fine. It do agree the floral ones are more formal/ cute for a wedding.

I'm flabbergasted at those who say they would think the guest hated them if they brought their cruising/crawling 11mo dd to a wedding dressed appropriately for their stage of development 😂🤷‍♀️

A pretty kit cream, light green or pink cardigan over the floral suit with some matching soft shoes/ cruisers or dolly shoes (dependent on her movement then) would look lovely.

She also needs to feel happy and comfortable. If she's dressed up in layers of thrills and hot and bothered she's more likely to draw attention to herself through fussing than she is by wearing something a baby wears!

Frills on thrills

It's very wrong and resultantly rude on your part. There are etiquette rules around weddings

I'd think you were trying to make a point / hated me, if you came to my wedding with your DC in that jumpsuit

😂😂😂😂👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Okay Hyacinth.

I think it looks like pyjamas, sorry!

Can you not find a pretty dress and matching bloomers just for the day, then donate them to charity?

Also how will you manage nappy changes with a jumpsuit?

Cute and trendy, as someone who rarely wears dresses I think it’s ridiculous that girls and women are expected to wear dresses for formal events/occasions.

Looks fine. Anyway, babies surely gets a pass from the “dress code”! A comfy baby is less likely to grizzle.

I'm flabbergasted at those who say they would think the guest hated them if they brought their cruising/crawling 11mo dd to a wedding dressed appropriately for their stage of development

We’re going to a wedding early summer with two young children and honestly I wasn’t going to buy anything new just mix and match some outfits that will look not too shabby ... but now I’m worried the B&G will think we hate them

I would wear a jumpsuit (that jumpsuit actually, if it came in my size) to a wedding, so I think it’s definitely fine for a child or a baby!

I agree with those saying it isn't an outfit for a formal Wedding, so i guess it depends on the style of wedding.

But id also absolutely agree it is your partners responsibility to get her outfit. And her spare outfit. And her second spare...

I had a four month old at my wedding and, as her sister was a bridesmaid we actually got her the same dress she just wasn’t officially part of the wedding party. Those dresses came from monsoon so maybe worth a look? Personally I think the jumpsuit looks fine, I wouldn’t expect a baby to be all dolled up just in case they get sick or have a leaky nappy.

Why would a baby be expected to dress “formally”?

Jeez.

I wouldn't mind at all what someone's baby/toddler wore to my wedding.

However, the pattern on that jumpsuit is awful - the white bits look like bird poo - so I'd look for one with a nicer pattern.

I would go for a jumpsuit or dress with leggings for an 11month if they're likely to be crawling. A long frilly dress will just be uncomfortable. What are the other children wearing?