Child in a jumpsuit for wedding

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So my DP's Sister is getting married in May. My DD will be 11 months old. I cannot find a dress I like anywhere!
The only thing I've found that I really like is a jumpsuit, however, my DB thinks that I am insane not putting her in a pretty dress!
My dp is giving her away and acting as 'father of the bride' so he obviously wants his little girl to look pretty.
What does everyone think? Aibu not putting her in a dress?

I really don’t think that’s a nice outfit for an 11month old. It’s quite grown up.

There are hundreds of simple dresses out there which would look lovely..

Ah only just saw your comment about something green. If it’s a summer day time wedding then this could work.. if you like this kind of style

And yes, your monsoon choice is nice! Will look better in the pictures years later than the jumpsuit!

My girls struggled to crawl in a dress. The jumpsuit is fine, pretty and practical. An 11 month baby looks gorgeous and cute in absolutely anything!!!! I wouldn't dream of changing a kid's clothes at a wedding for anything other than poo, sick, gross amounts of food down the front, so certainly wouldn't bother with two outfits, one for the photos, one for later. Far too much faff. As for not looking like you've 'made an effort', well, getting out the house on time with any member of the family looking half way decent is an effort with a baby. I can't think of a single friend or relative who would feel any different. So many people have criticised the OP's taste; the jumpsuit is great. So many people have money to spare and delicate feelings and too much time to overthink things.

By the way, why do girls have to wear dresses? What would be a suitable/effort looking/expensive range of clothes for an 11 month boy? Would they have to get changed for the photoshoot too?

That flowery dress is gorgeous! I'd go with that. You can take a comfy outfit as a spare in case you need it.

What would be a suitable/effort looking/expensive range of clothes for an 11 month boy?

Probably a smart shirt / trousers / or smart shorts maybe a waistcoat / tie.

I wouldn't take a boy to a wedding in jeans / joggers or a t-shirt.

Wedding = smart regardless of age!

Wouldn't put her in the dress over the jumpsuit unless she's already walking. If she is then either would be fine, if not then the dress is likely to get in her way. And at all times remember, if someone is thick enough to be upset at a baby wearing a jumpsuit at a wedding, they fully deserve their sadness.

if someone is thick enough to be upset at a baby wearing a jumpsuit at a wedding, they fully deserve their sadness

This. And the parallel universe comment someone made upthread.

I'm SO pleased my wedding was small, people really did wear what they wanted. One of my OH's friends wore cargo shorts.

@mudinthelane1 would you really let an 11-month old crawl around a wedding?
All these comments about crawling mystify me. Because I can't imagine ever letting an 11-month old crawl about any wedding I have ever been to. When? At the church down the aisles? In the sit down formal meal while waiters are carrying hot food about? On the dancefloor during the disco?

@mudinthelane1 And yes if a boy I would have dressed him up too for a wedding of a close relative.

What you’d force an 11 month old to be in arms for about 10 hours? I can’t imagine the baby would like that.

In a high chair, on the floor in the pew, sitting on the floor fine.
I have never seen a baby crawl all over the church or a wedding. Sit on the floor in a quiet area and move about a bit yes. But yes, mainly in arms and high chairs. And who is talking about 10 hours? Normal would be wedding say at 2 pm, home with baby by 8pm.

And if anyone asked me to take an 11 month old to a wedding for 10 hours without a room they could sleep in, or without knowing they would sleep in a buggy, I would say no.

Second outfit (dress) is perfect OP.
Re boys.
I would also dress up a 11 month old boy for a wedding. Poss in little suit. Or silk shirt and nice boy cardigan and nice baby trousers.
He wouldn't wear jeans or joggers or a babygrow. I wouldn't wear jeans or joggers either and it's the same. All are guests.

The wedding is at 10:30 am and we will be staying at SIL's house the night of the wedding
DD is currently 8 months old and will not sit still for more than 5mins. She's loves to be active and doing stuff

Most DCs do. But you can't crawl about a wedding.

I've probably been putting too much thought into this and trying to figure out in my own head why I'm so anti the jumpsuit. I think it's partly the colours quite dark which is probably why i think it looks like play clothes.

But something else crossed my mind is people pull wedding photos out for years. Make sure you love the outfit you choose. Don't have your DD ask "Mum what were you thinking?" At least be able to reply "I loved it at the time".

There are few opportunities to really dress yourself and kids up. Make use of the chance.

You can crawl about at a wedding. Not in the ceremony of course, but I've seen it lots of times. It's very possible. Preventing a crawling baby from doing any crawling for a lengthy period is the unusual way of doing things.

Put her in something like this and watch him squirm - hopefully. I ant stand how females have to be curtailed by clothing from age 5 seconds. Dress her for comfort and ease OP.

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That is pyjamas

It's too casual. When you underdress that much for an event, you disrespect your host.
You couldn't find a dress "pretty enough"? Come on, it's a kids dress ffs.

@janemaster so what do you suggest an 11month old does for 8 hours then?

I like this one, and I would buy some green satin ribbon if wanting to to co-ordinate it with the wedding party. It has the matching bloomers so practical for crawling around. uk.monsoon.co.uk/view/product/uk_catalog/mon_3,mon_3.1,mon_3.1.1/8121045806

Actually by 11 months many babies are at the backbreaking stage of wanting to walk around holding your fingers.

But I imagine most people would put them in their outfit just before the ceremony. Hold them in their arms until the ceremony/photos are over and then breathe a sigh of relief, baby in outfit has been captured, they can now crawl around to their hearts content!

It's too casual. When you underdress that much for an event, you disrespect your host.
The BRIDE has said it's fine. Or do you struggle with comprehension?

Makes me laugh that people are frothing that a baby needs to be formal. She will literally shit and piss herself under the outfit, probably get vomit / snot / drool / food on it at some point. A baby isn't a doll you dress up in unpractical clothing to look good, you dress them to meet their needs, not to appease a sick up the arse bride who only gives a shit about keeping up appearances at their wedding (a wedding that most people will forget about in a fortnight).