To expect other peoples children to tidy away toys when they visit?

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It's just that my playroom always looks like a bombsite afterwards! Often my friends will just leave with their children with no attempt to even put away just one of the toys.

I always make a point when I visit friends houses that before I leave I make sure my children all help to tidy away the toys - however this never seems to be reciprocated at my house.

So what is the norm? I am interested to know AIBU and should I grin and bear this as being all part of the host?

I would always offer to do the washing up, yes.

I assumed it was what people did - they offer to tidy up/wash up/put cup in kitchen etc but then you always refuse and say 'oh no, it's fine', don't you?

Encouraging children to attempt to tidy up is part of their learning to be responsible I would have thought.

God I want people to come round here and enjoy themselves, adult or child. Sure, people offer to tidy/wash up but I would never take them up on it. Just seems a bit to make them do it.

I always tidy up after myself even if I've been at my parents with my children - it teaches them to be responsible and considerate. Not at all like expecting people to put the bins out after visiting. We are talking about teaching children respect, consideration etc etc etc aren't we? Is it Ok to allow them to trash the place and walk away? What's that teaching them? If my children have their friends round I'd like them to at least try and tidy a few bits and bobs - it doesn't need to be perfect but you don't want broken toys and mashed food into carpets either!