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AIBU?

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Original poster

AIBU for getting annoyed when people ask “are you in the q”

116 replies

Manchestermanchester · 19/02/2020 18:15

I’m in the chip shop and I’ve ordered. I’m on my phone and literally in the corner, away from the cashier and my eyes are on my phone.

Why do people continue to ask “are you being served love”. I have made it as obvious as possible I’m not waiting to be served.

Normally the person at the till says “what can I get you”. At that point it the person on their phone doesn’t respond I would jump in.

OP posts:
FourTeaFallOut · 20/02/2020 07:48

What are scraps? FourTeaFallOut

@Downunderduchess Grin They're bits of the batter that didn't fullfil their first job of sticking to the fish and instead just lolled about in the fat frying to crispy loveliness with practically no nutritional value.

Amatteroftime · 20/02/2020 07:54

Just make yourself an A-frame sign that says 'not in the queue'. Much clearer.

bellinisurge · 20/02/2020 07:56

Scraps are awesome. Their presence in a chippy might take my mind off some annoying fellow customer who thinks I am aware of or interested in their every move.

overnightangel · 20/02/2020 08:25

OP: “AIBU?”
Everyone: “Yes”
OP: “No I’m not”
OP continues being a juvenile nob with a chip on her shoulder. Twas ever this

clockworklime · 20/02/2020 08:34

A chip shop isn't a bloody phone box. If you want to take advantage of their shelter while you chat it up in your bubble, you'll have to put up with people politely asking you if you are also waiting for food.

Christ, of all the things to complain about.

OnePotato2Potato · 20/02/2020 08:37

God, that’s a miserable attitude OP. Someone being polite/considerate is so ch a pain Hmm

KarmaStar · 20/02/2020 09:00

@overnightangel that's exactly what I was going to say,Except the last sentence I hadn't thought of!😀
Op,Yabu .

Original poster
Manchestermanchester · 20/02/2020 09:06

@clockworklime I ordered, I moved away from the counter to wait for my food in the furthest possible corner from the till. Anyone would know I didn’t need to order, the shop staff knew I didn’t need to order, I can do whatever I like in my spare time.

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bellinisurge · 20/02/2020 09:09

You can do what you like in your spare time. You can also expect that I don't pay any attention to you in a chippy queue and focus on my own shit.
I suspect that whoever it was was, in your view, making some pointed remark about you being on the phone. I get how that's a bit annoying of them but, meh.

MysteriesOfTheOrganism · 20/02/2020 09:13

The trouble is that a lot of people faff about on their phones or just lurk about looking vacant - and they are queueing. So just to make sure, I tend to ask. It is called "being polite". You may want to try it sometime. Grin Oh, and YABVU!

Spudlet · 20/02/2020 09:17

Bit hangry, were you?

Maybe order a delivery next time, to minimise the amount of wretched interaction you have to suffer. Thoughts and prayers for your ordeal, obvs 🙏

SueEllenMishke · 20/02/2020 09:26

Wow we're now criticising people for being polite.
Ffs

eenymeenyminyme · 20/02/2020 09:35

Maybe don't be on your phone, make eye contact with people who come in so you can make it obvious with smile / small gesture that you're not queuing?

It's called communication and if more people did it then there would be a lot less misunderstanding in the world!

Original poster
Manchestermanchester · 20/02/2020 09:50

@eenymeenyminyme I did make eye contact. The shop assistant made eye contact with the guy and said “what can I get you” to the man. At what point would you then look around and disturb someone?

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WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 20/02/2020 09:53

Oh ffs

Get a grip

SueEllenMishke · 20/02/2020 09:55

The shop assistant made eye contact with the guy and said “what can I get you” to the man. At what point would you then look around and disturb someone?
Out of politeness I would check I hadn't pushed in. I'd do it without thinking because that's what people do. You were in public where 'disturbances' happen all the time. If you can't cope with societal norms and engaging with people then maybe public places aren't for you?

FredWinnie · 20/02/2020 09:56

OP: “AIBU?”
Everyone: “Yes”
OP: “No I’m not”
OP continues being a juvenile nob with a chip on her shoulder.

This multiplied by 100

YABVU OP

eenymeenyminyme · 20/02/2020 09:58

OP continues being a juvenile nob with a chip on her shoulder

Did they throw them at her then?! Shock Grin

AhoyMrBeaver · 20/02/2020 09:59

Why the fuck would you still be stewing about something as innocuous as a stranger being polite? They were being human, you could join in...

annamie · 20/02/2020 10:02

YANBU. In the situation you describe I would use my common sense and go up to the till. I’m sure the server would tell me if the other person tucked away in a corner looking at their phone was next.

There are rude as fuck people everywhere, I’m always deploring the people who expect doors to be opened for them without a thank you, people who walk two abreast so I have no space on the footpath etc etc. But in this instance, the query was unnecessary. Whilst I would not have got annoyed, I can see why other people could.

Ziggyb · 20/02/2020 10:10

Interrupting you on your phone? Terrible behaviour. Biscuit

HoppingPavlova · 20/02/2020 10:14

can you not see if someone is waiting in a queue or is in their own space on their phone?

Well, you would think so. However I assume most have been in the situation where you have done this and then some numpty screams up to the counter rom out of the way and in no way in the queue claiming they were next. So most people are over cautious.

annamie · 20/02/2020 10:38

Well then you tell the numpty they should have been in the queue.

justgivemewine · 20/02/2020 10:47

Of course YABU to get so annoyed over something so trivial that you post on mumsnet about it.
Conversation should go
“are you in the queue?”

“No”
End conversation, get on with life

FelicityFebruary · 20/02/2020 10:50

This reminds me of when I asked someone in front of me if they wished to go to a newly available till, and no they were staying at the combined till / returns queue. The bloke behind me decided this was far too much for him to have to take and stormed ahead of me to the new lane.

Some people just haven't the headspace for the established etiquette.