AIBU for getting annoyed when people ask “are you in the q”

[Manchestermanchester]

I’m in the chip shop and I’ve ordered. I’m on my phone and literally in the corner, away from the cashier and my eyes are on my phone.

Why do people continue to ask “are you being served love”. I have made it as obvious as possible I’m not waiting to be served.

Normally the person at the till says “what can I get you”. At that point it the person on their phone doesn’t respond I would jump in.

The q?

I was in spain in a bakery on a public holiday and there were about 5 people near the countre waiting to be served - buying tons of cakes - and there were about 5 people sitting down on chairs by the door or standing at the back - no line of any kind.
more people kept arriving and I had no idea who was next - but eventually I thought it must be my turn and stepped up and tried to order. Needlesstosay the peope sat on the chairs were next! not me!
Obviously everyone in there must have know each other by name but they also had some system - I just could not work out what it was? Does anyone know?

Yes, YABU for being annoyed at people being polite

YABVU

Is it half term do you think? There seems no matter too microscopically small for an MNer to take offence at.

It irritates me when I am very clearly in the queue but not squished up against the person in front and the person behind will say, passive aggressively “Are you in the queue?”

It’s bloody obvious I’m in the queue!

It's being conscientious/community spirited/neighbourly/nice/polite/friendly - it's what makes the world a better place to live in. Try it sometime

@ChikiTIKI Wed 19-Feb-20 19:36:09
I secretly love it when people can see a clear obvious queue and still ask "are you all waiting to be served?" and when everyone says yes, the person is quite bothered about it and spends time looking around, trying to think of a way to get around waiting their turn, before eventually joining the back of the queue, looking annoyed 😁

^ ha ha this made me laugh, it was me when I realised the queue for the microwaves at work at peak time yesterday! Was I really willing to go back down several floors and try my luck later or should I waste 10mins of my 30min break queuing! Hunger got the better of me.

@BlimeyCalmDown can you not see if someone is waiting in a queue or is in their own space on their phone?

No, some people are weird and stand out of the queue on their phone oblivious to the world and then if you go in front of them they suddenly are in the queue. Best to check.

Its not obvious at all at times. In our chippy people wait while they are having something fried, impossible to not be in the queue area so people ask. Can't believe you are getting annoyed at people being nice. You either have an otherwise worry free life or are super stressed. 😁

Your post is ....yawn !!

What are scraps? @FourTeaFallOut

Asking are they in the queue is basic manners I think.

If you think you've made it obvious but multiple other people are asking you then you either aren't as obvious as you think you are or you don't understand British people's anxiety to get queueing right first time

It costs you naff all to glance up and with a smile say "I've been served thanks". If what you're doing on your phone can't handle a brief break in attention span for that then it's not suitable to be doing in a chippy while waiting for your order.

@ruthieness they're Spanish- they have a system that works for Spanish people but we Brits will never ever be able to fathom! Don't even try

@Downunderduchess scraps are the little bits of batter that fall off a fish as it's dunked to be fried. Crunchy, greasy nuggets of empty calories, and quite delicious on your chips! We used to get them in town when I was a school kid as a way of livening up a portion of chips without additional expense (they were either free or a nominal 10p or so). If you're reeaaalllyyy lucky you might get a little bit of fish in your scraps, that was the best! 🤣

Thank you @Avocadohips

Damn these polite and considerate people. How very dare they?!!

Orf with their heads.

I think you should order takeaways from now on as normal human communication seems a bit complicated for you.

What an odd response to other people's perfectly reasonable behaviour. Are you always so petty and egocentric?

Yabu. You playing on your phone so not aware its your turn. Everyone being polite but you.

Why dont you have them delivered then you wont have to interact with anyone.

This is a classic British affliction and I'm British so I think I can say this.

The "can't you see what I'm doing?!" huffy nonsense from someone who never learned to communicate.

Well no - if enough people are asking you.. then you can't be that obvious.

More to the point, you're in a public place where most people's sole purpose is to order, pay, wait and then leave.

It's not a fucking phone booth or your living room.

So expect interaction. Expect people to ask you "would you like salt and vinegar". Expect people to want to ask if you're in the queue.

YABVU.

Sorry, op, I've got my own shit to take care of. If I see someone who looks like they might be ahead of me, even if they are on their phone and slightly to one side, I will have the temerity to check they aren't next in the queue. If you pulled a cat's bum face at me, I'm glad that you, like me, are not a mind reader. Otherwise you would hear me thinking, go fuck yourself, then.
British queuing is great.

It's not a fucking phone booth

That's my quote of the day, right there.

YABVU, OP. No, it is not obvious if someone isn’t in the queue because they’re on their phone.

We often have people where I work on their phones oblivious to the world, not making it clear they’re in the queue/waiting to order because they’re stepped back from the till, but apparently clearly are and then are annoyed they don’t get served.