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My neighbours awkward parking

149 replies

Thelonewolf · 17/02/2020 18:46

New neighbours moved in second half of last year.
I don’t know if they’re being CF or entitled millennials.
They have 2 cars and a drive, I also have 2 cars and a drive. However they don’t use their drive and park on the street which they’re perfectly entitled to do, I don’t own the street in front of my house however they park in such away that I am unable to park in front of my house without blocking my drive and then I can’t get the other car out. We also pay for residents parking permits so I would at least like to be able to park in front of my house lols.
I’ve mentioned it to them but it’s fallen on deaf ears. Jokingly asked if I could use their drive seeing as they don’t use it.
I’ve got 2 small children and have to park opposite as that’s the only space left on the street. The road is very busy at rush hour and cars fly down the street as it’s used as a cut through.
First world problems eh 🤪

OP posts:
dwum · 17/02/2020 22:20

YABVU for saying entitled millennials

You sound entitled.

And... YABU.

IndecentFeminist · 17/02/2020 22:20

Why don't you get a permit for the car you rarely drive and leave it on the road? Then use the drive for your everyday vehicle.

Knitwit99 · 17/02/2020 22:28

Why do you use a different car at weekends? Sorry, I know this is not the point of your thread, but I really don't understand (and am slightly fascinated by)
the 2-car situation.

SomethingPhishy · 17/02/2020 22:51

Sorry about your Mum.

From an outsider looking in & from what you have said, it does slightly sound like a problem of your own making. Could the 2nd car be kept at your Dads & if you need to drive it at the weekend, drive your car there to pick it up? It is annoying but not illegal what your neighbours are doing, not sure there is anything you can do to stop them unless they dont have permits

copperoliver · 17/02/2020 23:04

Maybe just knock and ask them politely, if you don't want to park on your drive I understand but could you please at least park outside your own house, so I can park outside mine, so I don't have to cross the road with small children please. X

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 17/02/2020 23:12

Those who say that I am being unreasonable for wanting to park in front of my house please explain your reasoning.

You're not unreasonable in wanting to, any more than people are unreasonable in wanting to be able to retire at 40; but you are unreasonable in thinking that you have a legal or moral right to what you want.

All of the legal parking spaces on the public road which runs alongside your house are available for any people who qualify to use them (i.e. all people with a legal road vehicle or all with a parking permit if it's restricted to residents).

Just because you have a favourite space on the road next to where your house is located, it's no different from having a favourite parking space when you go to Tesco. If you get there and it's empty, it's yours; if somebody else has taken it, tough.

We don't have a back garden, so we often use the park around the corner, but our lack of back garden doesn't entitle us to declare or expect a particular section of the public park to be left for our exclusive use, even though it's very close to our house. Why is the public road any different for folk who don't have a drive (or a big enough one for all their vehicles)?

Fairenuff · 17/02/2020 23:15

I would at least like to be able to park in front of my house lols

Well you can't because you don't own the road. Get over it.

Original poster
Thelonewolf · 17/02/2020 23:27

I’ve not at any point said that I have a legal or moral right to park in front of my house.
As I stated in my original post they can park where want, however they park in such a way which means I can’t park without partially obstructing my driveway. I had asked them if they could pull their cars forward a little bit so that I could also park in front of my house, and not park on the dropped kerb, they looked at me as if I’d asked for them to rob a bank..
Up until they changed cars they used their own drive.

OP posts:
Fairenuff · 17/02/2020 23:48

they park in such a way which means I can’t park without partially obstructing my driveway

From what you've said that's not true. You can park anywhere in the road as you have a permit. If you can't park outside your house that's just tough. You don't have any more right to park there than they do.

SmellyBeard · 17/02/2020 23:49

Why can't you drive your mum's car to work?

heartsonacake · 18/02/2020 00:02

YABU. You having two cars for one person is your problem that you need to solve. They aren’t doing anything wrong.

And at the very least, know the name of the entire generation of people you’re insulting before you do so.

dwum · 18/02/2020 00:03

Not pointing fingers, but in situations such as this, I always try to remember that you catch more wasps with honey than vinegar.

Original poster
Thelonewolf · 18/02/2020 00:07

My apology was missed then

OP posts:
Whatsnewpussyhat · 18/02/2020 00:16

Come on OP, just tell us the reasons why you're not allowed to drive the car to work but are allowed to use it at a weekend? Bonkers.

Now that would make a great thread!

WidowTwonky · 18/02/2020 00:18

YANBU. Sounds like bad parking on their part. There’s room for 2 cars out front but they park so that only 2 car can fit. Wonder if they’re doing it purposely to annoy you??

WidowTwonky · 18/02/2020 00:19

Only 1 car, sorry

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 18/02/2020 00:33

Whichever one you're not using at the time - wait til they leave then park where they normally park outside your house then just use your drive for whatever car is in use at the time.

KittyTsui · 18/02/2020 00:36

YANBU. Wait for them to move the car, then go out and park one of your where it was. Leave it there for as long as you can - many days preferably. Even if it means walking to local shops for a few weeks :)

Then repeat for second car. Do the same. Use conversation that will come as a chance to feign innocence and suggest 'sharing' by having one road 'spot' each and also parking one car in the driveway each.

If that doesn't work, just keep parking your cars in front of your house as frequently as you can. They will eventually get the message.

Nanna50 · 18/02/2020 06:32

So just park mums car on the road through the week where you want it and swap on the weekend. Why are you making it so difficult for yourself?

Vanhi · 18/02/2020 06:43

I drive my car to work, and my mum’s car on the weekends. My Dad has kept it in his name. I would like to sell mine but I’m not “allowed” to drove my mum’s to work.

I agree with Nanna. This means you only need to swap the cars over Sun pm/ Mon am and Fri pm/ Sat am. I get that you have the two and it's better to keep them running, or at least better for the cars, not necessarily you or the environment.

The neighbours presumably have their own reasons for not using the drive. My bet is they find manoeuvring difficult. It's selfish, but it appears they won't change.

TomeOfSomething · 18/02/2020 06:53

Ffs, the issue is that you have 2 cars, but you are 1 person

If I was your neighbour I would probably be posting
AIBU, my neighbour has 2 cars and is only 1 person, and wont buy a permit for the 2 nd car, and then complains they cant park outside their house?

Knitwit99 · 18/02/2020 07:27

Why don't you just drive your own car all the time? Why are you messing about with 2?

couchlover · 18/02/2020 07:54

Park your mums car in front of your house as soon as they vacate the spot and it will stay there all week. On a weekend swap the cars around so your car that your are not using is now on the street 'saving' your precious space.

Or give your mums car back to dad who owns it as you really don't need two cars!

category12 · 18/02/2020 07:54

Is the second car of those strings-attached "help you out" gifts, that isn't really a gift? As in "Ah, you really need a better car, and I really want to help you, so you can have your mum's, but [insert a million caveats and things you can't do]" ? If do, do give it back it's not worth it.

sunshinesupermum · 18/02/2020 08:32

thelonewolf My duaghters are millenials both born in the 1980s - the term basically means those who came to adulthood at the Millenium

Sorry about your Mum and quite understand why you can't sell her car until after Probate/you feel able to but as PP have suggested, as you don't drive it, leave it parked in front of your house if you don't want your neighbours parking there.