To be annoyed with DH re lads holidays, illness and moodiness

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I'm so pissed off with DH.

He went on a stag do abroad for a week, came home for a few days then went off on a week long lads activity holiday. I didn't want him to go on both and thought that was taking the piss...

He then came home a week ago from the second holiday ill, which I know can't be helped. I managed to make him go to the doctor on Wednesday and he has tonsillitis. Again, not his fault but he's been absolutely vile mood wise since he got home. He hasn't done a thing in the house or with the DC. He refuses to take any paracetamol or ibuprofen; he takes his antibiotics but won't take anything else to make him feel better. He's been so grumpy, huffing and puffing, wanting to go to bed at 8pm and expecting silence and darkness in the whole house.

This morning he announced he felt 'worse than ever', so I suggested he went to our local walk in out of hours clinic. He wouldn't go, wouldn't take any painkillers, and has just been moody and rude all day.

Again, I know he can't help being ill but after his two holidays I was hoping for a day or two where he'd perhaps take care of the DC and do a few household chores to give me a break. Also if I am ill he won't even acknowledge it and I'm expected to carry on.

AIBU to be annoyed?

He sounds like an selfish twatty man-child! I'm not surprised you're pissed off!!

^^ this

He is a wanker and shit husband and father.

What are you other options?

I'd fucking swing for him! Bloody idiot. Unless he has a previous drug problem then he should be taking painkillers alongside his antibiotics. I'd let him stew in the bedroom and I'd sleep in another room so as not to have to be near him, until he grows up. Have a look at the clip below. It might give you a bit of a laugh in a time where you probably feel like screaming at your Dh.

Just what the two pps have said.

I might have guessed that when you are ill it’s not even acknowledged. It always goes hand in hand with men who massively mollycoddle themselves.

So when are your two week long holidays?

He sounds like a complete and utter cocklodging manchild.. Why on earth would you put up with this and more importantly allow your DC to grow up to learn it’s normal for a man to treat a woman this way.

Tell him you're off on holiday next week, due back for a few days, then off again for a week. See what reaction you get. Act accordingly.

If he was a single parent he wouldn't be able to swan off on two holidays a week apart. And he certainly wouldn't be able to take himself off to bed at 8 on for peace and quiet so why the hell should you have to pick up the slack just because you're there? Dick!

I’d get booking your two holidays too OP. He’s a fucking child.

He's in a snot because his two holidays are over and now he has to be back to reality at home.
He was probably loving the single life abroad with da lads.

What age is this waster?

Also - is he wearing the Dressing Gown Of Doom?

If you let tonsillitis go, it can set into your heart valves and cause permanent damage. If the first set of antibiotics arent working her needs to get back to the GP for a different kind.

Try scare him into going back to the GP.

Also, its very contagious, so keep an eye on the dc

And then leave him alone to be miserable, take the dc for fun evenings out (Maybe at a mutual friend’s house) if he wants a quiet dark house, he might get better quicker if he thinks he is missing out on a good time

is he wearing the Dressing Gown Of Doom?

Ah - I remember it well!

And the sniffing.

And the heavy, brave, sighing.

And the wincing.

Bastards.

I think it’s probably best to separate how you feel about the two holidays and what’s going on now he’s ill. Tonsillitis is extremely debilitating as well as highly contagious so for now at least it’s probably best to just let him fester on his own. Leave him in bed on his own, don’t let the kids anywhere near him. Give him food he can cope with at appropriate intervals and make sure he has enough liquids. Beyond that just don’t interact with him. In all honesty nothing is going to do any good except the antibiotics anyway.

Once he’s better you can sit him down and talk about how unacceptable his behaviour has been of late and what you want to do about it but for now at least there really is no point in going down that road. This is you being the bigger person....for now.

Tonsillitis isn't contagious after the first 24 hours on antibiotics
He's a bloody child who needs to grow up and suck it up and be a good father.

I bet he's way too shit as a Dad for you to leave for holiday for 2 weeks. Right?

Why do women put up with this shit?

Tell the manchild to crack on, leave the kids with him and go enjoy yourself for a few hours. He has Tonsillitis not dying. He has took the piss going off on his lads holiday leaving everything to you. Time to put him in his place, he either helps himself or he shuts up moaning.

My DH used to be a 'non painkiller taker' until a frank conversation with him. If he took painkillers and was still in pain then I would sympathise otherwise he could stew in his own juice.

He sounds like a dick of the highest order!

Yanbu but why are you so calm and sounding so apologetic? You should be livid that he firstly took two long holidays without any discussion to how you felt. And then to have the audacity to come back in a foul mood knowing he had a long holiday. I wouldn't tolerate this.

Does he have any redeeming features?

Why is he being such a martyr? Does he think that his pain is so bad that over the counter painkillers won't help? Or is taking painkillers unmanly or weak? I had an ex like that.
Leave a box by the bed and tell him, what he is doing is not working so why not try something else.
Then go and look up that lovely holiday you are going to take with your single friends...

Ah, a severe case of 'Man Flu' following 2w of boys fun.

In all honesty, I'd put him on ignore and then schedule a pampering session for myself leaving him to take care of his own child. I mean, you offered support, medical attention, medicines... it's his problem if he doesn't want to take any. When he starts huffing and puffing, just ask him to continue doing that in his room behind the closed doors or actually do something about it (as in - go to GP/take medicines).

Honestly, I see no reason why you would bend over backwards to enable this spoilt and entitled behaviour.

Go and book a week away, dont tell him until you are on the way out of the door. He onlt treats you like a housekeeper because you allow him to.