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... about the cheese on toast?

158 replies

albertatrilogy · 16/02/2020 13:12

I'll in bed. Problem compounded by tiredness and husband having woken me twice last night by loud weird choking coughs, after which I couldn't get back to sleep. (He's not I'll. Not sure what coughing was about.) I was working yesterday and will be working the next five days. He's retired. So because I'm so shattered I retreated to bed this morning and said l didn't feel up to coming down for lunch. When he offered to bring me something, I asked for a toasted cheese sandwich. ( We have a machine for doing toasties.) After ten minutes he game back with a plate that had two very greasy slices of cheese on toast on it. No knife and fork or paper napkin, so not really possible to eat in bed. So do I leave the bastard?

OP posts:
Toria1586 · 16/02/2020 17:26

This cannot be a genuine question OP

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albertatrilogy · 16/02/2020 17:27

My husband doesn't have sleep apnoea. We had been out to dinner with some of his friends and it seems that lying down afterwards made him choke on some dislodged/undigested food. It had been a difficult week in which I had been told some blood tests were giving cause for concern and the resulting anxiety and need to go in for further tests meant I was under a lot of strain and had slept very little. My husband had slept in the other room some of the time, but was rather drunk after the dinner with friends and had decided it was time to return to our bedroom. I worked yesterday then went out soon after getting back and have another busy week ahead. No doubt it was kind of my retired husband to make me a mug of tea and do me some cheese on toast. But it wasn't the easiest thing to eat.

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strawberry2017 · 16/02/2020 17:28

You are very very very unreasonable to even consider eating cheese on toast with a knife and fork.
You are also very ungrateful

AnneLovesGilbert · 16/02/2020 17:38

So you did eat it? Have you said thank you?

Crockof · 16/02/2020 17:42

SnickettyLemon you were correct. Cutlery for pizza at a restaurant, fingers are acceptable at home.

TheNestedIf · 16/02/2020 18:59

I've just seen the marmite and hot sauce posts. There really are some people on this thread who do unsavoury things with their savouries.

Sorry to hear about the blood tests, OP.

CeibaTree · 16/02/2020 19:46

We had been out to dinner with some of his friends and it seems that lying down afterwards made him choke on some dislodged/undigested food.
I know this isn't what your post is about, but that sounds quite worrying - he should get checked out by his GP, as choking on undigested food is not normal!

Wonkybanana · 16/02/2020 21:41

I worked yesterday then went out soon after getting back and have another busy week ahead. No doubt it was kind of my retired husband to make me a mug of tea and do me some cheese on toast

OK, so...leaving the cheese on toast and all the debate that goes with it, is the real issue here that being retired he is at home a lot, can do as he pleases, but does bugger all around the house and still expects you to do it all while working FT in a stressful job? Or if he does do something, does he make sure he never does it quite right so that he doesn't have to do it again? And when/if he does something does he act like he's doing you the greatest favour ever, for which you should fall at his feet in gratitude?

In fact, does the cheese toastie have little if anything to do with it when you get down to brass tacks?

Trillis · 16/02/2020 23:50

@Nat6999 Henderson's relish on cheese on toast, Sheffield food of the God's

I was brought up in Sheffield and adore Henderson's relish (and detest Worcestershire sauce btw). My parents have to buy it for me regularly now I don't live there. I put it on all sorts of stuff, but I don't think I've ever tried it on cheese on toast. I know what I am eating tomorrow morning now :)

StillCoughingandLaughing · 17/02/2020 01:08

Put slice one on top of slice two. Hey presto - cheese toastie.

If I was Mrs Hinch or some such, a clickbait article would be hailing this as a ‘genius hack that will change your life’. As I’m not, I’ll just call it plain common fucking sense.

ErrolTheDragon · 17/02/2020 01:30

Put slice one on top of slice two. Hey presto - cheese toastie.

Two slices of overly greasy cheese on toast bunged together are only vaguely like a cheese toastie.

Why on Earth would someone who has a toasted sandwich maker who is asked for a toastie make cheese on toast instead? I mean, that's ok but not the same thing.

DustyMaiden · 17/02/2020 01:38

It’s your own fault you shouldn’t have accepted it. I would give DH a gold hard stare and demand cutlery. You can’t accept shoddiness, where will it end.

TitianaTitsling · 17/02/2020 01:51

@Onescaredmuma hope all is better for you all now- it's horrible when they are so small and ill.
My input on this, colleague would call what OP had roasted cheese now that was a new one for me!

OP is it really about cheesetoastgate, or is as pp said simmering resentment? Why did you not just move to the spare room?

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albertatrilogy · 17/02/2020 10:54

Told husband of concern re possible sleep apnoea. (Something I'd have picked up on and anyway he wasn't asleep.) He assures me the problems related to having eaten and drink too much. Quite possible that hangover also affected his ability to make toasties...

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cherish123 · 17/02/2020 17:32

Ask him to bring cutlery or go down and get some. I don't see how you could eat it without cutlery or a napkin. Presumably you didn't eat it in bed.

LizzyA123 · 17/02/2020 18:32

Overloaded cheese on toast, what’s not to like. Just let it cool a tiny bit, it won’t drip then. Drooling here 😂

Oldandwise · 17/02/2020 18:38

Be grateful you got anything!

thesunhasgothishatontoday · 17/02/2020 18:52

LTB

OJZJ · 17/02/2020 18:57

Divorce the bastard....just for the choking sounds, unless your hand was round his throat at the time!
Ps I eat things like this with knife and fork and would provide a cloth or napkin with it as well....

ZforZack · 17/02/2020 19:11

I absolutely hate anything that’s sticky / greasy
I eat everything with cutlery, donuts etc
Always get funny looks but I just can’t handle anything on my skin , yes I admit it’s very odd
You do you op ,

mrslrc · 17/02/2020 19:13

Yes, definitely leave him, he can’t make proper cheese on toast, never mind a cheese toastie! There’s no hope for him, but check out the next one better. Cheese straws at dawn are required.

angelfacecuti75 · 17/02/2020 19:16

I think the op meant it as a lighthearted joke. If it was a joke op (but there's truth in jest mind you), defo ltb*.

starfishmummy · 17/02/2020 19:23

My dh doesnt make cheese in toast properly.
He should eother make sure the cheese goes right to the edges of the toast or butter any edges that dont have cheese. He does neither. I may have to trade him in for a newer model

mouseville · 17/02/2020 19:44

I totally sympathise and agree with you! I am in the same situation, I work, he is retired. My hubby is out tonight and I have to go downstairs tp get my own prosecco refill!!

Oysterbabe · 17/02/2020 20:03

It really is the easiest thing to eat. You pick it up, eat it, then suck the grease off your fingers. You're not the queen.