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To ask if you've ever felt like this about a celebrity's death

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twelveminutespast · 15/02/2020 23:56

I didn't know Caroline and she didn't know me, but I can't shake this feeling of sadness about her death. It's really stopped me in my tracks.

To know that someone else felt like life wasn't worth living is just the most horrendous and awful thing to me. I do believe she would have made it through the court case the other side. I'm wondering what she was thinking during her final moments.

I feel so saddened.

Has anyone else ever felt like this about a celebrity when they've passed? If so, who? It probably sounds really pathetic as I didn't know her, but I can't stop thinking about it Sad

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AngelsSins · 16/02/2020 19:23

I agree OP, and I don’t really know why. I was a big Amy Winehouse fan and hated how she was treated by the press, so was sad when she died, and really felt for her, but I didn’t feel like this.
I always thought people who got emotional over the death of a celebrity we’re a bit, weird to be honest, and yet this one has hit me and I can’t work out why, I have never even watched Love Island!

thefraggleontherock · 16/02/2020 19:27

I also feel really sad about Caroline, I've felt really sorry for her these last few months and I thought she was being treated really unfairly in
The press and online. For it to end like this is just tragic. 😢

fastliving · 16/02/2020 19:33

I'm really upset about CF death.
I'm not a fan of celeb culture/social media/the media so I don't know much about CF but it seems she was bullied into taking her own life.
I hope some lesson can be learnt, but what a tragedy. She seemed so alive and fun, heartbreaking what has happened.

BelfortGabbz · 16/02/2020 19:38

I still feel sad about Victoria Wood. Chris Walkers death was tragic.

PhilSwagielka · 16/02/2020 19:39

Robin Williams, because I was in a very bad place at the time mentally.

ElizabethMountbatten · 16/02/2020 19:40

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Phifedean123 · 16/02/2020 19:57

Robin Williams. He brought so much happiness and laughter to the world but he couldn't find that happiness himself. Always remember what he said "I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that" that stuck with me.

I do feel sad about Caroline too, I think she was obviously struggling for a while with mental health. She had an awful lot on her plate by the sounds of it and the press and social media always talking about every aspect of her life must have been suffocating

Picoloangel · 16/02/2020 19:59

This has really upset me too. I can’t help but think that she was demonised because of her gender. I’m not condoning what she did (if she did it) but Ant McPartlin got into a car blind drunk, he was fully supported by ITV in the aftermath. Michael Barrymore left his house after someone had been raped and murdered and invited back to appear on DOI and Piers Morgan. Untold rumours and allegations currently swirling around Philip Schofield but he’s kept his job.

She was clearly extremely vulnerable and must have felt that she was losing everything. She was ridiculed by the press and other so called celebrities to a point that seemed extremely cruel.

I don’t subscribe to the view that the CPS were wrong to continue even though her boyfriend didn’t support the prosecution because those rules are there to protect victims but questions need to be asked about crimes scene photos being leaked to the press. That’s a very serious failing and undoubtedly contributed to press speculation and frenzy. Hard to believe if she had done what was alleged and caused serious injuries that this would not have resulted in a more serious charge.
The saddest thing is that I’m sure she could have recovered her career in time but she was clearly in a very dark and sad place. This all seems so very tragic and a huge huge price to pay for what was probably a moment of complete madness in her personal life.

LHMBF · 16/02/2020 19:59

Mostly just been shocked by the death's of celebs, but I remember I cried over footage of Diana's and Jade Goody's funerals

Tunnocks34 · 16/02/2020 20:04

I feel sad about Caroline flack.

Alan rickman I was upset about - I loveeddddd him.

happilybemused · 16/02/2020 20:07

If anyone feels that they would be better off dead than alive in whatever capacity to a friend/family member. That's a tragedy.

Because whatever our friends and family do we totally love them.

RibenaMonsoon · 16/02/2020 20:07

I cried when Rik Mayall died. He was my hero. Whenever I had a bad day I'd come home and stick Bottom on. Or the Young Ones.
Alan Rickman was my strange celebrity crush. Was upset about him too.

InvisibleWomenMustBeRead · 16/02/2020 20:16

Completely agree @happilybemused - I think that's what's so sad about CF as she obviously had a very close family who loved her unconditionally yet she couldn't see a way through.

GiveMeStrengthOrAHobby · 16/02/2020 20:19

Chester Bennington for me, still cry inside whenever i hear him singing

Donkeykong2019 · 16/02/2020 20:22

@GiveMeStrengthOrAHobby the video of his last performance of one more light absolutely breaks me. He's the one for me too.

HeresMe · 16/02/2020 20:35

I've not read the full thread is that upsets me is that she had no where else to turn just one person could have changed it maybe.

OneOfManyDays · 16/02/2020 20:41

I feel the same. I have in the past watched LI but not recently. Not a huge fan of Caroline but she seemed like a sunny woman with the world af her feet. I knew of the assault charge but wasn't actually aware of the media coverage around her recently (I don't like social media and tend to avoid tabloids at all costs!)

So desperately sad. It fills me with tears to think a woman can't see any positive way forward. I think she would have got through the trial and out the other side with a large fan base still loyal, but when you're in such a dark place you simply cannot see past the problems or don't feel like you have the energy to keep your chin up and face things. I totally understand but it is just tragically sad.

Butteredtoast55 · 16/02/2020 20:49

Someone being in such despair that they will take their own life is just awful. I do feel that trial by media is horrific and inexcusable, but I suspect that she has been mentally unwell for some time. In the last year or so she has appeared not herself and something must have led to the incident that set this whole awful thing in motion.

Herefortheweaning · 16/02/2020 20:52

I have been feeling the same all day and last night. I had a night out with my friends last night and I just couldn't enjoy myself. I felt almost guilty and couldn't stop thinking about Caroline and her family. I felt like this when Mike from love Island passed away too. I don't know any of them personally but I sound myself looking at their social media. It's just such horrible news. So sad. Something needs to be done and changed when it comes to trolling.

Rubyupbeat · 16/02/2020 20:52

@cookiedough123
We have the same with my son. After I was told he needs to attempt suicide before they can help, the woman told me she knew how I felt, I didn't know whether to laugh or cry. My son has already been sectioned for basically starving himself to near death.
My heart goes out to you, no one seems to care, but theres a load of us that understand x.

TheValeyard · 16/02/2020 20:54

I remember Alan Rickman being a shock. I read a great article about how everything Rickman had ever done was still as accessible to us the day after he died as the day before, but it still felt like losing something precious to ourselves.

RossPoldarksWife · 16/02/2020 20:56

Robin Williams
Witney Houston
Such a sad loss, both very talented.

Bellendejour · 16/02/2020 21:54

I’ve felt affected by this in a way I haven’t really before. Maybe because I was late to settle down, I suffered with mental health issues, I was in a bad place at that age or around it... Obviously massively different life/circumstances but I feel so grateful that my life turned around and while I still struggle with MH, I’m lucky enough to have stability, security and a loving partner and family. I feel sad that she wasn’t able to get there.

Caroline was not a perfect person but whatever she did that night, she didn’t deserve a trial by media or to be hounded by outlets that knew how vulnerable she was and didn’t care because it made them money. I don’t want to be part of a society where that kind of viciousness for commercial gain is tolerated.

I don’t know whether it will make any difference, but I have signed and contributed to this petition - chng.it/ywWtFktd - and made a complaint to IPSO. It helped me to feel like what happened, while horribly sad, could at least potentially be a catalyst for change.

Thanks for creating a kind and thoughtful thread. That has helped too. Flowers

crispysausagerolls · 16/02/2020 22:11

Robin Williams was very surprising and sad, but when I read that he had been diagnosed with LBD it made a lot more sense and in a lot of ways I understood his decision and now he is at peace.

TartanTrousers · 16/02/2020 22:31

Peaches Geldolf’s death still makes me feel very sad. Like others have posted, I’m similar in age and my little boy is the same age as one of hers. I followed her on Twitter and always thought how they looked like such a perfect family. Peaches seemed to be an amazing mother to those two boys and my heart broke that the youngest was in the house with her when she passed, presumably extremely distressed and upset when mummy didn’t come to him.

After learning that her death was an overdose, it made me feel all the more sad that she felt she had to take heroin when her life seemed so perfect. I know addiction is extremely complex but I couldn’t understand why she would take such a risk when it seemed she had so much to live for.

I think about her husband and boys and hope they are recovering from her death and living happy lives.

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