Hi everyone I need some real perspective here and I think this is the most realistic place to get it.
So bit of backstory I have been seeing a man for roughly 7-8 months now. Spent a lot of time together, had very intimate relations, he declared his love for me, wanted me to move in with him and wanted me to go on holiday with him. We hit a rocky patch just after Christmas and pretty much stopped speaking. We then got back to talking about mid January but haven’t seen each other since December.
We’ve been talking normal like we do, he went away for a week on holiday with a few of his “mates” around the end of January and we had arranged to see each other.
However I have just found out that he has a girlfriend that he’s had for quite a while. I had absolutely no inkling of this girlfriend, there was absolutely nothing on any of his social media about her. I only found out through some accidental stalking. I confronted him and all I got back was a sorry. Turned out the holiday that he was on with his mates was with her baring in mind that whole holiday he was sending me dick pics and other explicit stuff.
I decided to tell the girlfriend as I didn’t think it was fair for him to do that especially after all the conversations and things me and him have done together. He is now however going ballistic at me saying that I have ruined his weekend with his kids, he now had to take them out and I’ve ruined everything. She has not yet contacted me about this whole situation but I imagine she will at some point.
I just want a realistic opinion that I did do the right thing and yes maybe I’ve ruined a relationship which I feel horrendous about and it’s really knocked me but this girl has spent so much time with him and had plans with him I just thought she deserved to know. So AIBU or did I do the right thing?
Thanks everyone (if you want to berate me about the situation then go ahead as I couldn’t possibly feel worse about myself than I already do)