To roll my eyes at ‘desperate for a third child’

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I’m on a doctors fb group and it’s so frustrating sometimes in many ways.

Someone is now apparantly desperate for a third child. I cannot understand the self indulgence of posting this amoungst others who are desperate for their first. AIBU to this this is so completely and totally insensitive. I would love a third for many reasons but won’t, and I just cannot understand how someone who has two healthy children could think it’s ok to post about their disappointment about struggling to have number 3 when some are struggling to even have one.

I know a lot of people will say it's not a competition etc... Which is true.

But I feel/felt like you too OP.

I've had a very long string of miscarriages in the past and it used to upset me and even infuriate me at times seeing people say how devastated they were because they couldn't have a 3rd/4th/5th whatever when all I wanted was one. I used to get so annoyed with people telling me they knew how I felt because they'd had a miscarriage after their 2nd child and think 'well you don't know because you're already a mum, I may never be'.

I'm not saying it's right to feel those things but I definitely did (and still do on occasion).

I'd have given anything, anything at all in my darkest days to be struggling to conceive a third but have two beautiful kids already than struggling to try and conceive your first, not knowing if you will ever.

^ totally. It’s beyond my comprehension to imagine even having 1 or 2 children. Infertility over a period of time does that