To expect these to come back washed?!

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Last weekend I invited my 3.5 year old DS's nursery friend (same age) round for a few hours as his mum has a newborn and is struggling for a break. She mentioned when I picked him up that her DS was still potty training so to keep offering him to go to the toilet and he should be ok!

He did keep saying he didn't need to go but was obviously just too distracted playing with DS and by the time I realised he was wet - my bad.

I put some of DS's clean pants and trousers on and then when I dropped him off an hour later just gave his mum his wet clothes in a bag. She didn't seem too happy that he'd had an accident but I didn't think anything of it.

However, she just returned DS's clothes that I had put on her DS and they clearly haven't been washed. Can't help feeling this is a message that I have upset her in some way. Or am I overthinking this?!

I don't think I'd think anything of this at all. She probably just whipped the clothes off him that night and put them in a bag so she didn't forget to return them.

I would also have washed the wet clothes, but can see why you didn't if your washing machine was already on and you wouldn't have had time before she picked her son up.

Well I wouldn't have thought it necessary for you to wash the clothes he had soiled initially because you wouldn't have had time to wash and dry in time for him to go home. However she must have surely had time to wash and dry the clothes you had lent her little boy. I think she was a bit rude really to not walk them after you lending him the clothes in the first place.

I'd just be glad I got them back, it seems common these days never to see your stuff again!

You were obviously fine not to have washed the stuff he wet whilst at yours for a relatively short time. I agree it's a bit unpleasant/unthoughtful that she didn't wash what you lent her before you got them back.

But I wouldn't read anything more into it than either she's busy and distracted or just a bit grim!

@Bluewater1 so once you have a baby you just constantly walk around in filthy clothes?

I’m not a supermum but I had twin newborns and still managed to get a wash on. Even a single parent needs clean clothes and sheets.

ActualHornist I expect it’s just called being kind and understanding towards other people

What is? @IvinghoeBeacon

OP is being kind? And how is it not understanding to say that I recognise having a newborn is tough but that people don’t just never wash their clothes?

I honestly have no idea what point you think you’re making here.

She was rude not to wash your child's clothes considering she had nearly a week to do so. Also it's hardly your fault her DS is not potty trained at 3 and a half years old is it?

I’m another one who fully expected this to have been posted by red pants man 😂

I don't want to derail the thread but I'm the poster who wrote about red Armani pants man.

I nearly had a heart attack when I saw the title of this thread 😂

I think in this situation I'd give the new mum a break, life is no doubt pretty full on her at the moment and I'd certainly not judge her for not washing the items. I doubt she was trying to send you a message in any way.

I'd just chuck them in the next wash I did, as I thought Mr Armani man would do 🤷🏼‍♀️

What I've learnt is that its horses for courses...some people expect it, others don't. So to avoid any of this confusion if the situation presents itself again, I'd just ask "do you want them washed before they're returned?"

And if you receive dirty items back... just shove them in your next wash. It's no hardship, surely?

Sorted!