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To dress my 18 months boy in a girls jacket?

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LaCitrouille · 13/02/2020 17:28

I went shopping yesterday with my mum. We went mainly to get a nice warm jacket for my 18 months old DS. I looked in a few stores and struggled to find the nice ones in his size, so we decided that we’ll get him one from Debenhams on our way back to the car. We entered a little shop before reaching Debenhams and found them clearing their stock and found a really lovely khaki jacket with navy blue fur for a fiver. It looked really nice and warm and what a bargain? It’s £25 less than what I was going to get him from Debenhams. My mum didn’t seem happy with it as she said it’s “girly”! It’s not like it’s a pink or has hearty patterns, it’s khaki in colour with navy fur on the hood, but the only problem is that it has elasticated waistline. My mum texted me later to say that she’s gonna get him the one from Debenhams on the weekend and asked me to put the one I got him in a charity bag! I didn’t reply as I thought really? It’s not like he’s gonna wear it for his prom! It’s a casual warm outdoors jacket which he’s gonna grow out of quickly anyway, why make a big deal out of it?

Happy to be told I’m BU. Please be honest.

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BackBoiler · 13/02/2020 17:30

Tell your mum not to be so daft. If you think it's okay then it's okay!

CoffeeWithMyOxygen · 13/02/2020 17:30

Your Mum is being ridiculous. She’d hate my DS, he wears stuff from the ‘girls’ section on a regular basis! I wouldn’t put him in a dress but when it comes to prints, colours and fabrics then everything is gender neutral in my opinion. He regularly rocks his purple unicorn leggings!

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LaCitrouille · 13/02/2020 17:30

The jacket looks exactly as this one but the fur on the hood is navy and not brown.

To dress my 18 months boy in a girls jacket?
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BackBoiler · 13/02/2020 17:32

And my DD wore my sons navy all in one snow suit which was boyish along with his multiple shades of blue bobble hat and mittens! He also used her pink cellular blanket in the double pushchair because he liked it!

WinterCat · 13/02/2020 17:34

DS wears loads of his older sisters’ clothes including a white coat and some snowsuits. Babies are in clothes for such a short amount of time it’s just wasteful to buy them things that stereotypically correlate to their sex.

Bezalelle · 13/02/2020 17:34

What is a "girls' jacket"?

katy1213 · 13/02/2020 17:36

She's being ridiculous. And it's your business how you dress your son. Tell her politely that you won't accept another jacket as it's surplus to requirements but that if she likes she could buy the next one once he's outgrown it?

starfishmummy · 13/02/2020 17:36

My mil was always turning up with bargain clothes for ds - from closing down sales and cheap shops she had found on her travels. If it fitted and wasn't too blatantly for a girl then he wore it.

iheartislesofwight · 13/02/2020 17:37

you are mum you get to say what your dc wears not dgm even though her intentions are good batty

katy1213 · 13/02/2020 17:38

Nothing girly about that jacket, anyway! If anything, it's a bit boyish for a girl!

Peakypolly · 13/02/2020 17:39

My DS lived in jackets from the so-called ‘girls’ section when he was a baby/toddler. Usually softer fabric and clearer colours. Similarly I often got boots, more rugged, from the ‘boy’ section for DD’s.
Can’t see a problem, it is just a matter of taste.

PhilomenaChristmasPie · 13/02/2020 17:39

She'd hate what my DS 29 wears then. Hmm

Whatisthisfuckery · 13/02/2020 17:42

A girl’s jacket? Does a jacket need a special penis holder to be for a boy now or something?

PerkyPomPoms · 13/02/2020 17:42

If a girl wears any item of clothing the. It becomes girl clothing, ditto boys. I get so annoyed by the gender segregating of clothes.

Sceptimum · 13/02/2020 17:44

I had exactly this argument with my Mum over a raincoat. It was blue and had ducks on, but apparently the elasticised waistband meant it was for a girl (to be fair, it was his sister's when she was 2). Dress your child in whatever fits and is comfy, they'll let you know soon enough their own tastes!

Rottnest · 13/02/2020 17:46

Your mother must have enough money to waste, she's being a little precious, but if she insists on buying a jacket, let her buy one for next year, saving you money. Then just let it go.

Whathappenedtothelego · 13/02/2020 17:46

Maybe your mum feels you compromised on a jacket you don't like just because it was cheap.
Reassure her that you really love this one, and would have bought it anyway.
Thank her for the kind gesture, but say it isn't needed.
if she still wants to get a Debenhams one, suggest she waits a bit then gets it in the sale in age 2-3 for next year.

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LaCitrouille · 13/02/2020 17:47

I completely agree with you ladies. Thank you for the votes and replies. My DS is quite big for his age so he’ll wear it for a few weeks max, it might be small by spring anyway! I think her main issue is the elasticated waistline!

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GlamGiraffe · 13/02/2020 17:47

Your mum is being plain ridiculous. It's a perfectly sensible and practical jacket. If it wasn't labelled as for girls or in the girls section she would be none the wiser.
I used to buy my son clothes from the girls section if they were more suited, no one ever thought to even question it. He is a boy, he was wearing a top of jacket or cardigan that was simple and came from the girls section, it wasnt covered in frills and lace so why would it be questioned
It's not that ususual to see a boy in a Cinderella dress or the like just to try it. Your mum is imparting terrible old fashioned, narrow minded sexist views that arent compatoblecwith the world nowadays or by the sound of with your thoughts. If she does buy the other coat, I'd say thank you very much but you really like the one you have bought and if she wants to spend the money it's a lovely thought but, it would be much more appreciated in his money box.

Nowayorhighway · 13/02/2020 17:48

Sounds like a unisex jacket to me.

nokia3210567 · 13/02/2020 17:48

How silly and wasteful of your mum. I buy clothes for my baby boy from the girls section all the time!

FreshStartNow · 13/02/2020 17:54

Your mums being daft. It’s quite a “boyish” girls jacket anyway if she’s actually worried an 18 month old would be mistaken for the opposite sex (shock horror-not). I got my daughter a boys jacket because it was warm, fitted her and was a total bargain. You should be feeling pleased to have found such a nice jacket for such a good price Smile

MereDintofPandiculation · 13/02/2020 18:00

It's girly because it's got an elasticated waist? She needs to look at outdoor clothing for grown-ups. Both men's and women's has a "waist" (draw-string rather than elastic), main difference is that men are more likely to tighten the waist than women.

Bipbipbipbip · 13/02/2020 18:01

I always check out the girls section for my DS - that's where all the colourful stuff is!

Nameisthegame · 13/02/2020 18:02

My dd 2 loves her Dino jacket, your mums being silly.

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