To dress my 18 months boy in a girls jacket?

[LaCitrouille]

I went shopping yesterday with my mum. We went mainly to get a nice warm jacket for my 18 months old DS. I looked in a few stores and struggled to find the nice ones in his size, so we decided that we’ll get him one from Debenhams on our way back to the car. We entered a little shop before reaching Debenhams and found them clearing their stock and found a really lovely khaki jacket with navy blue fur for a fiver. It looked really nice and warm and what a bargain? It’s £25 less than what I was going to get him from Debenhams. My mum didn’t seem happy with it as she said it’s “girly”! It’s not like it’s a pink or has hearty patterns, it’s khaki in colour with navy fur on the hood, but the only problem is that it has elasticated waistline. My mum texted me later to say that she’s gonna get him the one from Debenhams on the weekend and asked me to put the one I got him in a charity bag! I didn’t reply as I thought really? It’s not like he’s gonna wear it for his prom! It’s a casual warm outdoors jacket which he’s gonna grow out of quickly anyway, why make a big deal out of it?

Happy to be told I’m BU. Please be honest.

I hate the way clothing is segregated in this way from such an early age. I always look in both sections when shopping, because DS doesn't know or care if what he's wearing is supposed to be for a girl, according to some retail person sitting in an office somewhere.

Shopping online is also ridiculous - I don't want to look at "Boys clothes" for my DS, I just want to see everything the shop has got for a one-year-old.

It sounds like it’s unisex. And refreshingly non-gender specific.

And anyway, if it was pink and sparkly he could wear it. All this pink fairy princess shite for girls and combat superhero gear for boys is messing with our kids’ heads.

Absolutely agree that it's fine - if it's warm and you like it that's all that matters (until he can express an opinion, then that counts too).
We bought my daughter's first shoes last week and ut was a nightmare to get the shop to show us something that wasn't pink or sparkly, and was sensible. I mean, seriously, who wants Sarah Jane style shoes for a barely walking 1 yr old in winter?!

Edit: Mary Jane shoes. Nothing to do with the Dr who companion!

DS has always had random "girls" items in his wardrobe. Actually the slimmer cut often works better on him than the square, chunky build that falls off him anyway!

He loves soft, fluffy fabrics and they can rarely be found in the boy's section. No one has yet had palpitations that he's a boy in a fluffy hoodie, of a predominantly neutral colour with the horror of a pink zip (hey, it brightens it up ). He does sometimes get comments about shoulder length hair, but a girl with the same style would probably get grief about it not being long enough. It's quite an androdgenous look, but he's happy and at 9 is more than old enough to exert an opinion about his appearence! Hell, I haven't even got him into school trousers in 3.5 years

That’s daft! He’s 18 months!

My ds 6 recently insisted on keeping an old jacket of his sisters that he calls his “king jacket”. Because it’s a bit fancy I guess!

your mum is being ridiculous. even if the jacket was pastel pink with a unicorn on it she would be being ridiculous. its just cloth, it doesn't have any intrinsic nature to make it for girls or for boys. it is lunacy like this that is helping to destroy the foundations of sexual equality that were being built 30 years ago and are now being dismantled.

That’s hardly aimed at girls?? I thought it would be pink and sparkly at the very least
I put dd in a red jacket and everyone assumed she was a boy because it wasn’t pink 🤷🏻‍♀️

My 8mo DD regularly gets mistaken for a boy in her blue/dinosaur/Star Wars clothes and green pushchair. The 'boy' section is where all the cool stuff is, and she just doesn't suit pink and frilly! Clothes are clothes, for anyone.

Why is a waistband offensive? Boys have waists!

My 18 month DS has an orange polka dot Mack he likes wearing and keeps him dry. It was a good price and does the job. Do not give a monkies if it looks girly.

Aforementioned polka dot coat. I figure at this age they can wear most anything as long as it fits and is practical.

@bibi love that mac and wellies!

I sent DS to nursery in lady bug (the red ones with the face on top of toes) wellies the other day. The helper exclaimed "he's wearing ladybug wellies" 🤔 I smiled and replied "yes it's wet out"

I really don't understand this boys can't wear clothes that might look like they're for girls.
If it looks nice and it fits him (he's quite small for his age) he's gonna be wearing it.

My ds wore blue jeggins with the back pockets cut out in heart shapes. They were very comfy looking and cute.

@star thanks! And yes, I don't understand it at all. Or the idea that gender neutral should all be grey. Toddlers are toddlers before boys and girls at this stage in most ways!