To dress my 18 months boy in a girls jacket?

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I went shopping yesterday with my mum. We went mainly to get a nice warm jacket for my 18 months old DS. I looked in a few stores and struggled to find the nice ones in his size, so we decided that we’ll get him one from Debenhams on our way back to the car. We entered a little shop before reaching Debenhams and found them clearing their stock and found a really lovely khaki jacket with navy blue fur for a fiver. It looked really nice and warm and what a bargain? It’s £25 less than what I was going to get him from Debenhams. My mum didn’t seem happy with it as she said it’s “girly”! It’s not like it’s a pink or has hearty patterns, it’s khaki in colour with navy fur on the hood, but the only problem is that it has elasticated waistline. My mum texted me later to say that she’s gonna get him the one from Debenhams on the weekend and asked me to put the one I got him in a charity bag! I didn’t reply as I thought really? It’s not like he’s gonna wear it for his prom! It’s a casual warm outdoors jacket which he’s gonna grow out of quickly anyway, why make a big deal out of it?

Happy to be told I’m BU. Please be honest.

Yep, your mum is batshit!

elasticated waist? I’ll have to tell DS his favorite trackies are too girly for him then if elasticated signifies, and therefore taints a garment of clothing as being girly.

Fucksake, no wonder kids are confused and miserable.

I bought and wear a bargain North Face men's jacket and haven't grown a cock yet.

The jacket sounds fine and will do for the few months it will fit. Maybe suggest she buys one for next year if she's that desperate to spend?

She would have hated how I dressed b/g DT’s at that age. They were dressed in whatever I picked up first so DS was quite likely to be in a pink babygro with an orange jumper and DD in brown jeans and jumper.

Just do your thing OP, it's all absolute nonsense and your mum is exposing her unpleasant opinions tbh. Ask her why exactly it would be so upsetting for him to be confused for a girl (there are worse things surely) or what she imagines it will do do him to be wearing it and the issue with that. There is no such thing as a 'girls' coat, christ. It's a coat.

Is this even a serious post? Half of my DDs wardrobe comes from the "boys" section, they are just clothes for toddlers. Your mum is being ridiculous.

Your mother has more money than sense. Or more stupidly acquired debt.

The jacket looks great.

DS has all his sister's hand me downs. Currently rocking pink wellies, leggings and a Peppa pig coat with pink zips.

I much prefer leggings to joggers for DS (tall and skinny so they fit better), I nearly always have to get them in the 'girls' section', clothes are clothes your mum is being ridiculous

My little boy wears a coat from the boys section and it has an elasticated waist.... So that doesn't necessarily mean "girls clothes"

But also he wears all his female cousins hand me downs anyway, because I think gender differences in babies clothes is ridiculous.

Your mother is being daft.

Your mum is nuts. You need to address this now because before you know it he’ll be old enough to know when she calls the “you can’t wear that yellow thing because it’s girly” shit.

DS2 (6m) has worn a green and pink quilted jacket that was DDs for the last week because it is warmer than his. He isn't bothered

Your mum would have frothed at my toddler DSs wearing tights under their trousers to stop them pulling their bastard socks off all the fecking time!!

It looks unisex to me - your Mum is being as bit daft. It's not like it has unicorns and princesses on it and even if it did, provided it keeps your DS warm, that's priority.

That coat looks fine. In fact I bet when it's on you wouldn't know if it's boys or girls.
Tbh I buy my 16month DS girls leggings...not pink etc but the neutral colored ones. They're perfect for nursery, cheaper and seem to be in his sizing.

Don't listen to your mum. The coat looks great 😁

DM has similar anxieties about DS’s hair length (currently looks like this). She grew up in the 60s, so should be used to longer hair on boys.

We live in a hippy area, so he has the shortest hair in playgroup. I am definitely not cutting it any shorter.

I agree that the elasticated waist means it’s a “girl’s jacket”. I’d be fine with him wearing it. What’s more concerning is baby girls having form fitting clothing if boys do not. What’s that all about?

Thank you everyone. I messaged her saying that she doesn’t need to get him any other jacket as this one fits him perfectly well and I thanked her and reassured her that I really like it on him. She replied saying that she’s sure most of people will not notice the waistband, but there might be a few who will think that we’re not dressing our DS properly. She also said that she loved the one in Debenhams and thought he would look gorgeous in it. Anyway she’s going to get him the next size up so it’ll be ready for him next winter.

And thanks to all of you for your replies, I’m very tempted to visit the girls section more often now

why not? I dressed my 18mo DD in boys jackets. I still do boys/unisex at nearly 6 years because mermaids and unicorns are a bit shit.

Seems a good outcome, in all honesty though most people won't even notice what other small children are wearing.

All of my children used the same newborn nightgowns, cardigans, tights, hats, gloves, babygro's and snowsuits. When they were older dungarees, sweatshirts etc were handed down no matter what colour. The childen dont know wether its made for a boy or girl and no doubt wouldn't care. As long as the clothes are clean, who cares

It won't make his penis fall off.
It's not up to your mum what he wears anyway surely? I can't imagine my DM or MIL having that much interest in what I put DS in.

Next time anything similar occurs, tell her you're pretty sure it won't mean he will catch the gay