‘Bubbly’ ‘smiley’ work colleagues

[Joker0fGotham]

Thoughts?

I work with a woman who describes herself as ‘bubbly’. She’s not. She’s a power-hungry, controlling, intrusive, boundary-pushing, borderline psychotic pain in the arse.

This is a vibe I get from a lot of people who describe themselves as ‘bubbly’. No need for aggressive effervescence - friendly and pleasant is enough for most people.

I think it's better for everyone all round if you just accept that not everyone will have the same personality type as you and that's ok.
I'm quite quiet and reserved at work but I enjoy working with chatty bubbly types and people who like to left alone and everyone in between. You've just got to learn to accept people for what they are and as long as they're not deliberately being mean or lazy let them get on with it.

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OK, from a ":-)" worker… And oh my goodness… I'm using dictation… I don't know why I did that… Anyway, I have a lot of people who get jealous of me for absolutely no reason, just because they see me smiling.

I'm smiling, because I'm happy, even with the little things… My morning coffee makes me very happy…

This doesn't mean that my life is perfect and pain-free… I don't cry in front of people… Not if I can help it anyway…

I have to deal with a lot of stress, so the little things that bring me joy, or what keep me going. Does that help?

@Hellokittymania just reading your post made me feel exhausted. I can even imagine a fake high pitched voice saying it.

And I'm actually quite chirpy generally.

@Joker0fGotham

85 not out, don't worry… I might join you for coffee ha ha Ha. I can't function until I've had mine. And when I'm having my coffee, I like quiet… I'm happy, but it's the one time of the morning but I just like to relax and let my mind not overload itself…

I am bubbly and smiley. I’m aware it possibly gets on some people’s nerves occasionally. I would never just be randomly ‘bubbly’ to someone if I could tell they were finding me a PITA. On the other hand my default setting is to engage with people, have a bit of a chat (if they want to), say something light-hearted etc. I’m not Kids Tv Presenter bubbly but I do like to be chatty/friendly. Most people respond well; if not I just avoid those people as don’t want to wind anyone up or feel self conscious.

I’m very shy and an introvert so weirdly being ‘bubbly’ helps me; it’s not fake in any way it’s just like an old comfortable outfit I put on to go out into the world.

I find relentlessly negative people very difficult and I find unfriendly (not shy) people very wearing.

@Hellokittymania

OK, from a ":-)" worker… And oh my goodness… I'm using dictation… I don't know why I did that… Anyway, I have a lot of people who get jealous of me for absolutely no reason, just because they see me smiling.

Oh come ON! As if people are jealous of you because you're smiling. What utter rot!

I know the grumpy moaners really enjoy being that way, so I am loathe to slice them up for supper even if they totally deserve it, but as an inbetween person, the lift and energy from a bubbly smiley, positive person really seems to help everyone.

Also they might not always be happy but are just not wallowing and offloading and bringing down everyone else.

My professional mask is smiley and positive and gets business moving forward. I can't be doing with grumpy naysayers who shoot down any positive ideas - workplace dementors are the pits.

Hmmm, I am in two minds here. On the one hand, I can't stand miserable, negative, sour-faced, moany, mood-hoovers, but on the other hand, someone who is OTT jolly and happy and bubbly and chats non-stop, can be hard work, because sometimes I do like to be quiet and my job involves concentrating quite hard. And I agree that the 'I'm mad me!' types are a bit irksome!

Basically though, I would rather be surrounded by happy, positive people who give me a hug when they see me, and smile at me, and seem glad to see me, than someone who barely acknowledges me, or starts moaning about everything; their ailments, the weather, the government, their job, their kids, their mother-in-law, their husband, and so on!

So I would say YABU @Joker0fGotham (Just SLIGHTLY.)

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Make the working day a pleasure. I'm not a fan of misery

Smiley and bubbley is fine by me. Much prefer it to miserable and unmotivated. However, it can get weird if the smiley-ness doesn't match the situation. I remember a manager delivering news of redundancies with a nervous over-smiling - it was annoying and incongruous.

Yabu for adding no context of aibu!😀

I like them. Nothing worse than happiness suckers bringing eberyone down

I wouldn't call myself bubbly, but I'm on the smiley side. It's rare for me to be grumpy, at least in an obvious to others sense. Its not fake, justice, and not OTT either

Not justice, should be "just me"

The bubbly ones never have much of a sense of humour though.

Give me someone with a dry sense of humour any day.

give me the smiley people any time
yesterday someone came into where I was working and they told me that I was the first person to have smiled at them that day -

85 not out, don't worry… I might join you for coffee ha ha Ha. I can't function until I've had mine.

love them..

In my work the “bubbly” ones are the first to do the recruitment fayres, the volunteering days, the team training days, facilitating this, that and the other, organising lunchtime yoga sessions, the cake bakes, the “social secretary” roles...Anything but their Actual Fucking Job.

Ugh, I loathe "bubbly" as a descriptor.

It is always about women - you never hear of a "bubbly" man and it has connotations of being a bit silly and immature, the type to do little hearts over their i's and whatnot.

Especially in the workplace where also makes you sound really unprofessional too, unless you are a children's entertainer or something. You wouldn't say "oh yes, Jane is our most senior surgeon, she's very bubbly!"