To ask the school to put my daughter in a different class

[Ginnyrellas]

Ever since starting back in September my daughter (8) has come out of school in tears at least 3 times a week due to her teacher shouting at the other disruptive children in the class, so much so the teacher had actually lost her voice on occasion. Yesterday was yet another prime example. Her teacher let her come to me at the door and she emerged in a right state, because the teacher will be getting the deputy head in tomorrow to have a stern word with the children about their behaviour and my daughter has probably never been shouted at in her life at home. To say she is a very well behaved and well mannered little girl would be the best way to describe her and her teachers also have nothing but praise for her and stated " she sets an example for everyone else in the class" at her parents evening.

I have got to say also that previous to September she was in a different class to what she is in now. The school decided that half of one class and half of the other class would merge so the more disruptive children would have better peers and hopefully have a better chance at learning something, Due to this my daughter has now been separated from her friends that are now in the opposite class and clearly had a good influence on her as she never had this issue before the class switch.

Would I be reasonable to request that the school changes her class room. can I even do that?

Glad to hear the teacher is moving her space. As a teacher with a ‘lively’ class I do worry about the effect it has on some of the quieter children. I’m quite firm with the class (not shouty I hope) precisely because I need them behaving in order for everyone to learn. It’s definitely not okay that your DD is so upset and I think you’re right to keep pursuing it to make things better for her. I would keep an open mind about the solutions though - now the classes are mixed it’s possible the other class wouldn’t be great for her either. And just bear in mind that ‘naughty’ children often have a lot going on that other parents would not be aware of. (Also, I know several teachers who lost their voice this term due to a virus, not necessarily from shouting too much!) I hope you’re able to work with the school to sort this out so she can start enjoying herself again.

I’m still going to be having a meeting with the teacher and head. I know that her moving class probably isn’t an option anymore but I still want to speak to them With my DD and husband and DDs dad so we can come to a resolution to this. I know that the teachers probably stressed out too. Moving her seat is a step In the right direction definitely but there needs to be measures put in place to ensure that as well as my DD the children that are willing to learn aren’t left feeling like they have done something wrong when they haven’t.

I'm wondering if your dc is in my DD's class. She's year 4 and always has quite stereotypical primary teachers until this year the teacher is very shouty. She had her full time before Christmas and now it's 3 days a week with a softer teacher for 2 days. I thought this would improve DD's happiness but apparently the dc in the class are really loud so with the softer teacher it's bad as there's no control. The two teachers have a very different teaching style. I like both teachers but they blame the class and keep deducting minutes of play time for chatting (which is not in line with the behaviour policy and isn't working yet they persist).

We've had a lot of chats about life skills such as resilience and getting through the year as we're more than half way now. Dd always loved school until now.

Why is it your child's job to improve the behaviour of other children?
This!

Your daughter was in a class where she was happy, she was moved because of her good behaviour and is now unhappy. The school needs to sort this out.

@m0therofdragons

My DD is In year 3 but I do know there is a class in year 4 that has 2 teachers so it could perhaps be the same school!

This is not a step in the right direction, it's barley even a step. Do not stand for this op

The teacher knows exactly how distressed your child has been and is trying to cut you off at the pass.

Would piss me off even more.

Definitely see the head and teacher with your husband for back up.

I would not tolerate a child of mine that distressed.....for stuff beyond her control.

You need to advocate clearly for your child.

Their decision has destroyed the school experience for her.

They need to fix it.