Child at Nursery

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Hi everyone
I have been thinking this over and just can not decide what to do so I hope that someone will be able to advise here.
There is a child at our Nursery who has been biting other children. Quite a number of the children have been bitten. Naturally the mothers of the children who have been bitten have been discussing this. It is not right that children are supposed to be enjoying nursery and learning various things while there. The children are not there to be attacked by any other child.
Discussions have been held with the Head by the relative parent of the child who was bitten on each day. It then changed so that a number of the mums have discussed that their children have been bitten. There is also some scratching as this child grabs any toy they fancy out the hands of other children. The child grabs a toy but discards it soon after. It seems to be a case of not allowing children to have the toy they want.
It turns out that the child is a "special" case in that the child is under Social Services. It is very likely that something awful has happened to this child.
This situation has been going on for over a year and while having some sympathy for the child, the other children have a right to attend nursery safely and without any damage happening to them especially as an outcome from any other person in the nursery.
The nursery have refused to move the child to another nursery, they are offering mothers of the bitten children assistance to find other nurseries for their children.
There has been sympathy for the child but this is lessening and some resentment is setting in. Could it possibly be right to allow a nursery child to attack other children and not deal with it effectively in a year. The nursery they are not given enough staff for 1 - 1 for the child. The nursery say they are doing their best. They totally refuse to move the child so it is up to other mums to decide to more their children. Would it not ring alarm bells if a nursery started losing pupils? What if other pupils arrive to take the place of the children who leave and they are bitten too.
Nurseries must have more responsibilities than this. Can anyone advise?

BrigidSt

It’s all very well being kind etc, but it’s not you being a sacrificial lamb, it’s your two year old child .... off you pop dear, don’t worry about being bitten, it’s all for a goo cause ....

Doesn’t sit right.

You can only protect your own child. If other children take the vacant spaces and are attacked it’s their own parents problem, not yours. The environment is obviously unsuitable for the biter but they won’t remove them, and possibly aren’t allowed to, even if it puts the nursery out of business because everyone else leaves.

Personally I’d thinking about finding another nursery for my DS if it was him in this situation. They are clearly not doing enough to keep him safe and I wouldn’t trust them anymore.

Yes it’s sad that the other child is having behavioral problems and having a rough start in life but why does this have to affect MY child’s safety? He is just as much entitled to a safe environment as other children, regardless of special needs.

It’s just biting and it’s not going to cause any lasting damage
Nonsense. It can cause permanent scarring. My dad has a facial scar from a human bite many years ago and I know someone else who has a scarred nose from being bit.

If you're all neighbours wouldn't it be good to all work together to get this child the support they so obviously need

OP can still be supportive without having her child attacked.
OP is a customer - she’s not there to advise the professionals of their responsibilities.

The area is a close knit community. The nursery is council run and not a private nursery.
The biting and scratching (when grabbing a toy from another child) has drawn blood. This being such a close knit area there are some things we know about the child's family. Exchanging body fluids in any way is not something I want to happen, just in case. Obviously no-one can ask for confirmation of what the concern is, I don't know if a denial would be allowed either. I know that when I was at school a letter was sent home about the school wanting to be informed if a child at the school or a sibling at another school had an infectious illness because there was a pupil whose health was compromised.
Another nursery is happy to accept my child.