Is the child in care or just under social services?
I will point out with people asking “what on Earth are the nursery doing with the extra funding” - it isn’t much at all! It’s more like the equivalent of the Free for 2 Year Olds funding. A bit of a premium but to be frank it will cover a staff member for about 10 hours a term. It’s not funding for a 1:1. Trying to get that for children with clearly complex additional needs is like getting water from a stone as it is. There’s no money in early years. The more funded time families are given the worse its getting.
Im interested how you know so much about this little boy? Obviously you’ve said it’s an area where everyone knows each other....
However you should not have been told the name of the child who had bitten. The Head shouldn’t be discussing anything about that child with you. His behaviour with toys shouldn’t be discussed with you. Only your child’s.
No one here knows what provisions are in place for him unless you are in the room for all sessions. There’s likely to be a whole file on him with behavioural plans and progress plans and god knows what. What I will say is that, first off, excluding a child from preschool is not simple and Ofsted are really coming down hard on putting everything in place to keep all children in a setting (while funding gets cut of course). Second of all even with the best plans in place, it takes a split second for a two year old to bite someone. I’ve been shadowing a biter several times before. Half the time I can grab them in time, sometimes I blink and crunch.
I fully understand that everyone’s priority is their own child. This is a 2 year old boy already on a bad start in life. He’s biting because that’s how he has been taught or how he needs to communicate. He snatches toys probably for attention (and to be frank, taking toys just because another child has it will continue right into school years and in my experience every child is guilty of this). This doesn’t make the biting ok. But the nursery don’t have to disclose their strategy to beat the biting with you. Don’t underestimate how hard this is for them to deal with too. The amount of evidence that has to be gathered to seek help is also astronomical.
You won’t get through school life without having difficult children / behavioural needs / additional needs/ children in care or under child protection in your child’s class who will dominate a considerable amount of staff time. It’s just worth noting that when you say you will move your child. I imagine you’ve all been distributed a list of nurseries due to complaints.
The bitings not good but the toy Issue is really not an issue. Two year olds can’t share. I am concerned about the ratio - unless you mean for example there’s 3 key workers in the room? We’ve always had enough staff but not everyone’s a key worker so parents are less familiar that they are there IYSWIM.
I’m not saying your concerns aren’t valid because they are. Of course every child has the right to be safe. But you don’t know the full story behind the scenes of how the nursery are trying to tackle this. All the children are entitled to early education and safeguarding.