Girls Holiday when first child 9 months old

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AIBU (or crazy!) to even be considering going on a girls trip when my first born will be 9 months old?

It's not a wild booze weekend or anything. It's a sightseeing trip to Iceland with 3 close friends for a big Birthday celebration.

4 nights Thurs - Sunday.

The angle I'm coming from is would you have felt ready to leave your DC for that length of time at that age? No worries about having childcare. Might be breastfeeding or night not depending how I get on. But could I bring myself to leave him for so long?! I'm not sure!

What would you have felt at that age?

Thanks

Everyone is different but I personally couldn't have done it. For one thing I was breastfeeding.

Before I had a child, I would have thought it was no big deal. After having one, my very strong advice is to not book a trip. It’s way to young to leave for anything that isn’t absolutely necessary.

You should do it OP. Time with friends is so important and you’ll have a fab time

I wouldn’t have. In fact I don’t even like going away for more than a night or two now and they are 15 and nearly 12!

I just enjoy their company and everything is more fun when they’re there.

Everyone’s different and there is no right or wrong answer, but I know that I personally couldn’t have done it.

I did one night at that age, I think I did two nights when they were about 11 months but I couldn’t of done 4 nights on any of mine, I have 3 children and desperate for a break but it isn’t a break because you just stress about them when away for that long

I would have gone happily, everyone is different though

I should add, my eldest would of been fine, my middle one was a Velcro baby and would scream if he wasn’t attached to me, my youngest will not take a bottle from anyone else but me (she’s 6 months old) I’ve done everything the same with all of them it’s just their personalities, it’s hard to tell without knowing the baby how they would react

I couldn't have gone as was still bf and very much attached however if you reckon you could manage I would definitely go for it. I was just a wimp around baby dd

If you can afford it I would book it but be prepared that perhaps you will feel differently when baby arrives. Personally I would have been more than happy to at 9 months. My view might be a bit warped though as my DH was away with work for 6 months when DS was 4 months old and their bond is great; so as long as baby is with someone you trust and safe then time with friends is important. Everyone is different though, and there isn't a right or wrong answer.

DS is 6 months and I would happily do this. I'm now quite tempted to book a solo holiday to Iceland!

Absolutely yes! I went on a girls holiday when my DD was 8 months old. Was a great bonding time for her and her dad and I was sooooo excited to come home! And there's phones and FaceTime to check in!

I did it. Expressed and froze lots of milk in the run up to the holiday, and brought my electric pump with me and pumped 4 times a day while I was away (7 days). Baby resumed breastfeeding fine when I returned, and was absolutely fine back home with his dad and other family members. We FaceTimed every day. My baby never slept, so the holiday was the first time I’d had unbroken sleep in 9 months! It was amazing!

I went to New York when my pfb was 9 months old. He was absolutely fine with his dad while I was gone.

Everyone is different. my ds is almost 4 and I havent been away. I certainly wouldnt have at 9mo. 4 nights is a bit too long imo.

I still haven't left my 3.5 year old for anymore than 1 night/2 days.
First overnight he was 14 months.
Everyone's different though but I couldn't have done it.

I did exactly this when my dc was 9 months old. Although it felt weird I really enjoyed it

If she was being looked after by my DH I would definitely go. Someone else possibly not.

No. I wouldn't have been able to leave them for that long because

1. I exclusively breast fed and couldn't express.

1. I would have died of heartache being separated from them for 4 nights when they were babies.

However, it's totally up to you. I wouldn't commit to anything until you have at least had the baby though.

It's 4 nights not 4 weeks. Your child will be with a parent, go and have a great time.

I wouldn't have gone when DS was 9 months. I was only just leaving him for a day at work. My friend went skiing for a week with her DH and her mum looked after their baby. She gradually transitioned to a bottle by about 7/8 months. It's difficult to know how you will feel.

I couldn’t have gone, I’d have been in pieces, sobbing and thinking my child wouldn’t remember me but I’m neurotic as hell 😂

This thread is turning out to be a real mixed bag op.

Only you will know whether you'll be happy to go / capable of going once the baby has been born. Is it possible to reach a decision after the birth?

That would have been too long for me at that stage!

I want away when my youngest DC was 13 months so a bit older, 3 nights with friends I spent the whole time fretting she would be missing me etc, and didn't enjoy it. Got home and she barely gave me a backward glance when I came in, she was absolutely fine with dp and dm. I've not done it since though, prefer holidays with the dc even though they have their draw backs

Yes a real mixed bag.

With no "right" or "wrong" answer.

The only thing the OP has possibly learned is that she won't know how she feels until the time comes.