Parter works nights and has a couple of drinks when he comes home (in the morning)

[BritneyPeedOnALadybug]

Normally I think I know where I stand on these threads but genuinely don’t on this. AIBU? Is he? Am I being too controlling?

FYI we are a gay couple, we don’t have kids or responsibilities other than work and plans, I work a 9-5 and he works 10pm-6am. It means he’s often tipsy in the morning, drinking alcoholic drinks when I’m just getting up and to me it seems weird drinking so early in the morning but he says his hours are different to mine and he’s just having a drink after work before going to bed.

Who is BU?

Vote Yes: I am BU

Or vote No: He is BU.

^^ oh, I got schooled sorry @Nicknacky
This thread has got very confusing

BritneyPeedOnALadybug

No love. I was addressing Shinycat. Forgot to put their name in the post.

Op, a lot of the posts you have put in bold and replied to, are not aimed at you - they are minor spats between other posters!

And the only reason I mentioned the gay couple/no kids part was because solutions on here to things like this is always along the lines of ‘leave the kids with him while he’s hungover to look after them and have yourself a spa day’. But I don’t have kids. And a spa day sounds like my worst nightmare. 😂

@WatcherintheRye
Op, a lot of the posts you have put in bold and replied to, are not aimed at you - they are minor spats between other posters!

I can’t keep up lol, so I guess I’ll give up for tonight lol. Goodnight folks :)

BritneyPeedOnALadybug

Is your fella on permanent nights? Some jobs are (Royal Mail distribution centres) for an example.

I keep up my nocturnal existence on my days off. Many a Saturday I compete in cross-country races on just a few hours sleep. I am really tired by 9pm on Saturday. I usually nod off in anticipation of a good sleep. I wake up at midnight full of beans. I watch Netflix/read until 5am and sleep till mid-afternoon Sunday! Love it though. No need to set my alarm when I go to bed at 9am. I have the best sleep.

@Britney

My post about the whiskey was directed to Shinycat. But YABU, it's his evening so totally acceptable.

Gay or not doesn't matter. Kids do. I used to drink after night shifts but wouldn't now there's a kid in the house.

All my gay friends have kids. And most of my straight friends too. I think I might be middle aged, everyone is sprogged up.

I will try and change my view and not hassle him anymore. Why on earth were you "hassling" him anyway? And why "try" and change your view? Why not just say no more about it since you know you're being unreasonable?
I did get it but it just seemed weird to me but I guess it isn’t really. It isn't weird at all. You don't come home and go straight to bed do you? And you wouldn't expect a partner to hassle you for having a drink after a shift. Your days are just the opposite way around.

I really dont get why anyone would struggle to understand this.

I dont drink. But I get it's not unusual for people to have a drink on an evening, when they have got in from work.

Nights switch things around. Its obvious why it's different to someone getting up having a couple of drinks and then going to work.