Colleague borrowing stuff

[polkadotpj]

AIBU to stop letting my colleague borrow my phone charger. He's been using it for months, promised to buy one, but hasn't, sidles up to my desk and starts the request with "Polka, you're looking fine today" or similar. I am now being teased by other colleagues for being a walkover.
The last time he asked, he said he'd ordered one. I asked him to show me proof and he said he'd dig out the e-mail. When pressed he confessed he'd lied. He's just asked to borrow it again.
AIBU (where the U could also stand for uptight!) or a pushover. Opinions please!

Constant borrowing of my stuff would piss me off too but im useless at saying no....my tactic would be to keep leaving the charger at home or in my car....just so you get him out of the habit of asking you for it.

Occasionally asking is fine, but regularly asking - especially if it is interrupting my work - starts to wear thin, especially when it's the same person asking for the same thing every single time.

For all those saying "Its just a charger" - so what? Is there a specific threshold to an item's value that you have to reach before you can start saying no without being made to feel bad? It is the OPs property, why on earth should she have to allow it to become communal property because CF cant get his arse in gear and get organized?!

I couldn’t be arsed. I keep a spare charger in my bottom drawer. Several people a week borrow it.
“Can I borrow your charger?”
“Yeah course here you go”
An hour later
“Here’s your charger back thanks”
“Thanks have a great day”

It’s not costing you anything I don’t understand why you would say no. It’s nice to be nice

Rose789

You must have missed the post where the OP said she bought him his own charger. It HAS cost her something and he’s still doing it.

He is treating you like his mum. These things aren't your problem. He needs to sort himself out.

Just say "no, you really need to get your own"

@Rose789 even nicer to RTFT

No I read the full thread. The op made the choice to buy a colleague a charger which is an odd thing to do unless it was eg a secret Santa.
It’s understand the annoyance when colleagues constantly ask for things like painkillers, cigarettes, or money as that actually costs money. Borrowing a possession when I’m not using it makes absolutely no odds to me.

Why not just let him use the charger if you are not using it?

But him this one.
It 'arrives in time for Valentine's day'

NRTWT... already bought one.

In that case, he's trying to wind you up. Keep your phone plugged in and point to it next time he asks.

Yes, you don't need to explain yourself or give an excuse, just say no each time. He'll soon learn not to ask you.

@Rose789

No I read the full thread. The op made the choice to buy a colleague a charger which is an odd thing to do unless it was eg a secret Santa.

This is hilarious, even when OP is ‘nice’ and buys him a charger so he can stop borrowing hers all the time, you blame OP for being odd. You sound very far from nice.

I'm going with the majority who think it's not unreasonable to stop loaning it.

And I think anyone would get irritated by a daily loan of an item he clearly needs his own of. That was me being assertive. Go me!