AIBU to be angry about the speed and noise of cars?

[BackyardChickens]

I live in a tiny village. Little bigger than a hamlet.

Our cottages are on a little lane about 60 yards long. This lane leads to a dead end.

There is a nursery at the top of the lane. There are also houses at the end of the lane.

Our lane is about a car width wide and our cottages step into this lane. The lane is full of blind spots. You can’t see the top of the lane or the bottom so it is wise to drive slowly. The lane is used by people walking, horses etc.

There’s a steady stream of cars whizzing up and down the lane all day. The speed at which these vehicles travel is driving me mad. I am starting to feel intense anger every time a car goes past at what I think is too fast for the conditions in which it is travelling. It bothers me, a lot.

Not only that but it’s cars speeding in general. Cars whizzing around supermarkets. Driving too fast in general really.

It’s starting to make me intensely angry. Angry because it puts me and my small children in danger. It’s making me angry that other people don’t care about the general public’s welfare.

I know it’s not normal to feel this intense anger. We are absolutely considering moving to somewhere that doesn’t have through traffic. It’s an option.

My question is, AIBU to let this bother me so much? How do I control this anger? How do I let it go?

Thank you

We could of course move but there will always be cars.

Bumping as it got lost down the page.. it’s a very boring subject I know!

Petition the council for a speed camera.

But otherwise, yes, YABU. People are allowed to drive down public highways as often as they like and their cars will make a noise. If they are breaking the limit, petition for a camera, or if you think the limit should be changed, petition for that.

You could try and get the council to put speed bumps in.
That’s the only thing that seems to stop speed. People just get comfortable and think they know the road inside out.

Nothing you can do really.

I am confused by how a lane that is a dead end at one end can have a steady stream of traffic all day going fast. Surely its just your neighbours there?

I have a lane with a school at the end. They seem always have speed bumps. I am very surprised yours doesn’t or that the nursery doesn’t insist on them.
I hope you mean children’s nursery and not a garden nursery!!

Quiet market town... boy racers, some well into their 30/40s with weird modifications to their exhausts. All roar and sigh through town, 20mph zone, like the last lap of Le Man's.

I answered a fb post a while ago, explaining that the young man concerned probably thought he was a great driver, however, the only reason he was alive today was because EVERY other driver on the road that day breaked hard to create a gap for him to get into. He was alive because of how well I drive, all those other old fart drivers drive.

Silly bugger actually came on to defend himself. His mum pulled his insurance!

There seem to be so many who graduated from the Super Mario Driving School!

Speak to the council about a speed limit or camera, we have a lane nearby like yours and it has a 20mph speed limit with humps in the road

I personally think some people have a total personality transplant when they get behind the wheel of a car. Some people must think they’re clever putting their foot down!
Pisses me off as well OP.

People are allowed to drive down public highways as often as they like

Actually they're not. There are several places in the country where local councils and/or the Highways Agency have applied for an ASBO and enforced "no cruising" zones.

www.localgov.co.uk/Black-Country-ban-on-car-cruising-upheld-in-court/46945

I am confused by how a lane that is a dead end at one end can have a steady stream of traffic all day going fast. Surely its just your neighbours there?

Unfortunately the nursery parents are whizzing up and down 3 times a day..

Are you sure the cars are actually going that fast, maybe your perception is a bit off? I only ask because it seem unlikely that there are so many people going so fast.

So many people are absolute cocks when thry get behind the wheel of a car. Yanbu at all

Our double glazing masks most of the car noise, but there’s a motorbike that drives through every night at 11pm. I’m either dropping off or asleep. It wakes me. Every night.

I want to shout at him, dry loudly.

Our cottages are listed with single glazed windows so I suppose that makes it worse

Sounds idyllic apart from the cars. Did you not think of this obvious potential issue before you bought the house or did the nursery come after.

That looks as if it might be a private lane, not a council owned one. Could you look into the option of putting speed bumps in yourself, with the agreement of the neighbours? Would anyone object?

Hmm, you're right that a camera isn't going to get put in there. It probably wouldn't help anyway, as it looks like the sort of road where a car driving at the speed limit would be going much too quickly! Even 20mph would be pushing it.

You could ask the council to install speed bumps, which might improve safety by making vehicles slow down, but you might also find the engine noise would then be worse as they all accelerate away from the speed bumps.

Even if you can't have double glazing, consider whether the windows can be improved to reduce noise. We had our single-glazed sash windows refurbished and draught-proofed, and noticed it also made a big difference to the amount of traffic noise.

It’s a public road with a dead end, definitely not a private lane - although it should be!

I’ve raised the speed bumps issue before but there was a lot of objections. The the village of Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and The Vicar of Dibley so it’s very oldy worldly and like going back in time.

Nursery came after moving in. Nursery owner isn’t interested in making life easier for the residents unfortunately.

I think I need to just get over it. It’s hard though.

A 60 yard lane you are not going to get that much speed up, I think you are just getting pissed off with people driving past your house. You are either going to have to let it go or move unfortunately. X

Park an old car on the lane, leaving enough, but only just enough room to get passed - they’ll slow down. Many drivers are not able to gauge their cars width, so leaving 2/3foot will still slow them up