People who call themselves emetaphobes - are they for real?

[haychee]

I hadnt even heard of this until a thread i started which mentioned the word puke produced an effect on some that they coudnt even come on to mn until that thread had died. They couldnt even bare to read a word?!

Another thread running now, is talking about how some are affected by this phobia. Some of them i can see it is a real big problem and for them i do have sympathy. But some, who like me, do not like to see others being sick but are classing themselves as emetaphobic - this im finding difficult to comprehend. I dont like it at all - i avoid being too close to someone (eg kissing dh or dc if they have been ill in the last few days) for fear of exposing myself to a possible bug. But im not emetaphobic - please tell me im not.

by their very natures phobias impact differently on each individual, this can range from a minor but manageable reaction to an unmanageable distressing reaction. the reaction can be physical and/or psychological. so the range and impact of reactions is unique to the individual and their particular stressors, eg not all agraphobics will suffer the same reaction despite having the same condition.

emetophobia - this condition causes great distresss

emetophobia is a recognised condition and ofetn treated with course of CBT

I am not implying they are all making it up! Some do exaggerate, read back and you will see.

I only ever first heard about it from you when i started the thread with the P word. I honestly thought you were joking!

haychee you are coming across as very unsympathetic to a particularly distressing condition that some people genuinely have.

so u may speculate that they "Some do exaggerate" how can u possibly know this, it is a sweeping subjective genealisation, and very unkind and insensitive

Haychee, I and others told you then that I wasn't joking, and I invited you to search on emetophobe and read people's stories. I personally find it very upsetting to read how difficult some people's lives are. You however apparently find it worthy of scorn and think it's fine to start threads like this.

I'm getting off this thread - you asked for information, you got it, you carry on exactly the same as before. We're all wasting our time here.

haychee i genuinely think you are now just trying to be controversial and get a reaction - im offsky too inflammatory and unkind for me

LL make mine a biccie if u are buying

Ok. Am stepping away from this one now. I can see how ive managed to distress some of you, but it wasnt intentional. I cannot be expected to know or expect to be sensitive when i have no knowledge of the topic. I now have that knowledge.

My first reaction to you Frannyandzooey was as such because i honestly thoght you were joking!

I spoke to a couple on this thread who are suffering greatly and they described how they would be annoyed if they came accross (and have told me they have) someone who was exaggerating a mild fear of s..k (that we all have) and announced they were emetophobic. I have not said that anyone in particular here is exaggerating - im saying there are people who could use the label to their advantage and therefore belittles those who do suffer tremendously on a daily basis.

I shall in future choose my words more carefully. Are there any other types of situations and or phobias that congregate here that i shuld be made aware of before i put my foot in it again?

I will also never complain about the backlashes i recieve for my comments on topical issues. My opinions are what they are and im afraid your all going to have to get used to me. I am a strong character and i will stand up for myself if i feel i am being attacked, but i will not complain about these attacks. But what does bother me the most is when i am misunderstood.

Over and out.

Can I just say - having recently studied psycology and half way through studing to be a cousellor this thread is FANTASTIC having had a phobia of and creatures with 4 + 4 legs and I went through therapy regarding both this is so healthy the ones that need have basically had a counselling session beeon able to open up and say how they really feel without embaressment and without it costing them £50 so please please don't stop it helps me my next worry is not but the fact that my spelling and grammer is so bad and I need to get brushed up on that before my baby girl goes to school..... oh well I have 4 years

'It's going to be hard work upsetting me today'...

Does she really think we all have nothing better to do than try to upset her??????

Baffling.
The posts where she says 'you'll all have to get used to me, I'm not going away' just frighten me...shall we start another website up secretly? and all move over to that one!

Sorry Haychee, it just feels like most of us are on one wavelength and you are on another.
Perhaps you really meant no harm and are a nice person, but it's coming across all wrong if that's the case.
Nobody here wants a fight

Just incase some of you missed this the first time round;

Ok. Am stepping away from this one now. I can see how ive managed to distress some of you, but it wasnt intentional. I cannot be expected to know or expect to be sensitive when i have no knowledge of the topic. I now have that knowledge.

My first reaction to you Frannyandzooey was as such because i honestly thoght you were joking!

I spoke to a couple on this thread who are suffering greatly and they described how they would be annoyed if they came accross (and have told me they have) someone who was exaggerating a mild fear of s..k (that we all have) and announced they were emetophobic. I have not said that anyone in particular here is exaggerating - im saying there are people who could use the label to their advantage and therefore belittles those who do suffer tremendously on a daily basis.

I shall in future choose my words more carefully. Are there any other types of situations and or phobias that congregate here that i shuld be made aware of before i put my foot in it again?

I will also never complain about the backlashes i recieve for my comments on topical issues. My opinions are what they are and im afraid your all going to have to get used to me. I am a strong character and i will stand up for myself if i feel i am being attacked, but i will not complain about these attacks anymore. But what does bother me the most is when i am misunderstood.

Over and out. (again)

Pleeease can I have the last word? Please?

Oh go on?

I hope we meet on better terms next time

no me
wasn't driven away, btw...just, well...been busy and all that!

Anyway, may I just point out that I find that Haychees comment :
"emetophobics, honestly!
Wet lettuce my gran would say!"

Has been taken a bit out of context...well, by my understanding....because this was not about "true" ematophones, but those that claim to be that (not people on teh thread), but people possibly in real life, that claim they are in a bid of some attention, ratehr then them actually really knowing what it is, seemingly (people that actually really just have that normal and natural aversion to sick)....

It must be really really difficult for those with a phobia, as there is just no way to rationalise the fear, so, that would make it so much harder to "overcome" it, if you can ever actually overcome it!

Am baffled, btw, why, whenever people have the chance, they mock bad grammar...that is not exactly showing what respectful person one is....and there are so many people that truely can't help it, there are dyslexic people, there are people that just didn't receive as good an education as they possibly should have, and those to whom english is a 2. language, etc...! Surely we are not in school, and if you have something to say about someones grammar, then do it nicely, not in a bid to embaress and belittle....and I didn't mean the funny mocking, but the nasty comments.

3andnomore: please write embarrass 3 times.

Only kidding

And preventing you from having the last word.

lol...nanananana...not going to happen

Looks weird embarrass like that...

It is one of the words I will always get wrong, I think...same as I tend to right definate and well, to get out of writing jeallous (is that the spelling, lol), I usually go for envious...lol!

Thankyou 3andmore. Nice to have a bit of positive support.

Re: the grammar, sometimes i type very quick so as not to xpost and respond to any comments timely. So, the grammar and or spellcheck goes out the window and i just try to get down what im thinking asap and click post message.

Its a shame when i make a very hard thought out post and its ignored and all i recieve in response to my comments is picking apart my english skills. I actually have Alevel in english language and english literature and i even get it wrong - especially late at night. But your right, there are those out there who arent so lucky to of had done so well in school or who may be using english as a 2nd language. It wouldnt be very nice to make retalitatory comments to such a person just because their english isnt as good. Its the underlying message that counts.

Sorry if I came across as unkind because I didn't want to be...it is just that even though you have apologised, your tone still seemed to be a bit defiant and contentious...in other words it didn't sound like you meant it.
That's what I was struggling to get my head around.
Perhaps you just have a different manner.
It just came across as a bit like 'so - ree' rather than being very genuine.

As I said I hope we can iron it out as you seem fairly intelligent and I'm sure would have a lot to offer with just a little bit of refinement to your posting style

Hope this doesn't sound tooo patronising...

Thanks flightattendant

I get a little defiant with my tone when i feel im either being taken out of context or belittled because of grammar/spelling issues. Which just makes me cross and thereofre my tone remains cross.

I didnt mean to cause anyone any upset.

I thankyou for your thoughts and apologies.X

I think, that is the problem with these sort of topics, that everyone seems to start to misunderstand or misread messages...as so much of how a message is received is down to personal experience, general personal mood, etc...and I suppose the way we write about things are just as influenced by those factors and more.
Also seeing something written down, it's not always easy to know how to take it...because we can't see/hear the other person's mimic, tone of voice, etc...!

oh and that whole grammar thing is the only thing that really annoys me on MN....I mean, the joking about it, is one thing...I can laugh at myself no problem, and gosh, sometimes after a drunken night (me...never...) when I get back the next day and re read my messages it sometimes surprises me, that otehr people seemingly were able to make any sense of it, lol!
But, when it is used in this sort of argument, I really can't see the relevance (sp?)to the argument, and it's just done in a spiteful way, which surely, doesn't help anyone. T'is not big and clever neither, really, is it now!

I like (or rather dislike) to think of myself as a pretty strong emetophobe and, re-reading this thread from the beginning, I don't think you were unreasonable in your comments haychee, as long as you are sincere in understanding that there are real people out there (not wet lettuces) who really do suffer, above and beyond what is normal.

As for the spelling and grammar, well as a bit of a grammar pedant, I do notice mistakes but I never comment on them. (Apart from teasing 3andnomore earlier).

Dumbledor...teasing is absolutely o.k...I just dislike it when people use it to "discredit" someones value of the posts, etc....!
Must sy, I have never been pulled up about my grammar in such way (but I would be peed off if anyone would do it, because english is my 2. language so, well, I think that all in all I do a reasonable good Job, lol), I have just noticed it going on, iykwim....

I'm sorry to have corrected you on your spelling of grammar, Haychee. It was a cheap shot. But I was very annoyed/wound up by you, your post and your posting tone of voice.