People who call themselves emetaphobes - are they for real?

[haychee]

I hadnt even heard of this until a thread i started which mentioned the word puke produced an effect on some that they coudnt even come on to mn until that thread had died. They couldnt even bare to read a word?!

Another thread running now, is talking about how some are affected by this phobia. Some of them i can see it is a real big problem and for them i do have sympathy. But some, who like me, do not like to see others being sick but are classing themselves as emetaphobic - this im finding difficult to comprehend. I dont like it at all - i avoid being too close to someone (eg kissing dh or dc if they have been ill in the last few days) for fear of exposing myself to a possible bug. But im not emetaphobic - please tell me im not.

As i have already described, my only real experience with any type of phobic was needle phobics. Some couldnt look when injected, some were ill at the thought and shook with fear. I too cannot look when im having an injection or blood taken but i dont categorise myself as phobic. Those who had needle phobia all over their notes in hospital - but actually were only suffering the same as i would, did annoy me. They to ma are not true phobics.

about phobias, and obcessive compulsive behaviour...I found the movie "as good as it gets" with Jack Nicholson really good!

Yes I can possibly agree with you there.

(My last post was to haychee's last post.)

I hate spiders - i mean i freak out. But im not arachnophobic.

I want to run and hide if dc are s..k, and would rather someone else dealt with it. I avoid situations where i could become s..k and i wouldnt be kissing dh if he had recently had a bout of sickness. I gag when brushing my teeth. But im not emetophobic.

I can see what you are saying...you have as rational a fear of needles as I have of sick...so, no, don't think we are phobic, which means, if we have to, we just get on with it!
However, a true phobic has no control over it, have they....but yes, those that class themselfs as phobic if they areally just "normally adverse" to something annoy me, too...they are attention seekers, imo!

Thank god. 2 days ive been saying the same thing since i started this thread and finally someone (actually2) agrees with me. I can sleep well 2nite now, thankyou, thankyou, thankyou.
I actually want to kiss you both!

My gran would of called them a wet lettuce.

Haychee, I haven't misquoted you and I can't say being misquoted bothers me in the event of feeling it is an appropriate way to react, other than I feel the need to spell it out to you as you don't seem to read posts. I find that very very frustrating!

Lucky you.

I fret every day that my children might be sick.
I freak out if they don't eat their meals or don't eat them quickly enough.
I cry when my dh goes away on business trips as he does pretty much every week.
I avoid certain foods.
I obsess daily about when my children were last ill and how likely it is that they are due a bug again soon.
I dread September and the start of school because of the bugs my children might get.
I won't get on a boat.
I despise drunks because they vomit in public.
I never drink myself.
When my children get ill, I feel so oppressed and low I can only equate it to the feeling you would have if someone you loved had died. Indeed when my mother nearly died last year, I realised how silly I was to feel that way when the children are sick but I still feel it nonetheless.
I use public toilets with extreme care.

I could go on and on. If the worst happened and my children were sick and dh wasn't here, I would deal with them and cope. In fact, even when he is here, my job is cleaning up the mess and his is staying with the child. So you see, I can cope, I do cope, and I don't even gag when I do it (I couldn't gag - most emetophobes do anything rather than be sick themselves) The difference is all the other things that affect my daily life as indicated (briefly) above.

tut... in the event of you feeling...

Weinstein

I think we both must have misunderstood eachother somewhere along the line.

I do read the posts all of them. I do have sympathy and empathy for those who suffer with his to a life dominating level.
Those who just describe a dislike (like most of the general population) are the ones who annoy me.

Im sorry if ive made you mad somehow, but i think we have our wires crossed.

aww dumbledoor...it must be awful...I think any true phobia must be dreadful!
I think they are hard to understand...phobias...as they often are things that people may have that natural fear, dislike off anyway....so, people just think that those with a phobia are just creating, or phobias are about complete normal things (like Buttons) that to the ordinary person gives no real reason to be disliked in any way, never mind to be phobic about, and therefore people will just find it hard to understand...so, the real phobics do have a very difficult time as they will usually be misunderstood, and those that "hype" up their normal fears, pretnding to have phobias, I suppose make it even more difficult to those that really suffer!

Haychee, every time you start a thread, you create trouble.

You like it. You do it on purpose. But I've got a gripe with you, because you're not playing cricket. And I like cricket.

You go on other threads in support of other people who're having a hard time, (despite that you probably know fuck all about their situation), and bemoan the fact that they're being got at. Oh, yes, it happens to me all the time, you bewail

Are you hoping to raise a little sisterhood by these methods? Some posters get rounded on for no reason. That's for sure. But you get rounded on, generally speaking, because you're an insensitive prat.

If you don't like MN, then eff off. I'm all for controversial posters, but you take it one step too far, every time.

So well said 3andmore

Why didnt i just say that from the start? That is exactly what i wanted to say - and possibly, that those who "hype up" thier fears are indeed WEAK! and wet lettuces! I have a friend who does this all the time - with everything, simple colds turn into flu, nappy rash turns into a lifeong skin condition that will never get better etc etc.
grrr

Desiderata, your post is a bit harsh, I think!

Haychee...oh I know some of those people too, everything that is basically jsut normal will be a utter disaster...a spot is skincancer, etc...and I hate that sort of thinking....as, imo it belittles those that really do suffer with whatever it is...
Saying that, we are not always in control of how we feel, and sometimes, I suppose, it makes it harder to admit to "weakness" if you think this way, I know that I found it really difficult to cope with the Birth of ys, even though, really it wasn't the worsed of births, but for whatever reasons I found it very traumatic and it effected me a long time....and sometimes I really gave myself a hardtime for being this stupid, but eventually I had to accept that the way I feel is the way I feel, not because I want to feel that way, not because I was weak, but just because I did and that I needed time to heal...
obviouslyI do realise that a true phobia isn't something you just heal...just trying to make a personal example there...

whatever!

Yes i spend my time thinking up things to come onto mn to wind you all up - its what i live for

If you dont like what im saying then..go somewhere else? or cant you? are you forced to watch?

Imo, my advice is sound. My opinions are hard, strong and topical. So what?! Each to their own and all that!
If i advise/post/lodge an opinion and get no reaction then fine. If, i am attacked or feel i have been misunderstood i will stick up for myself. Its in my nature.

So what are you going to do, continue to allow yourself to become enraged with me or do something better with your time?

AAAAaaaaaaaaaaaargghhhh!

Fucking hell! Fuck me, I never swear on MN but this is really fucking getting to me!

Everyone knows someone like that though Haychee. EVERYONE. Most people don't turn round and start questioning people with genuine illnesses on the back of knowing someone like this though!

It's like you have Munchaussens by Vulture (whatever that is) or something.

I was trying to help you at the start of the thread. I was trying to say "I see what you are saying.... but" but you ignore everyone and everything until you get someone who agrees with you verbatim and you whoop the house up.

Right. Good luck. I give in.

last post was for desiderata

PLEASE tell me where and when i exactly question anyone with a genuine illness? ?

Snort

Ive since admitted that i now see and have learnt that a written word can produce even the worst of effects for a true emetophobe. Although i did find it hard to believe.

Just incase that is what you are going to throw at me next

Erm, how about the thread title?

Nope, i cant see whats wrong with the title and or OP

Open, honest, naive but not belittling or unfair.

haychee, me and you need to understand one another.

I don't have a phobia
I smoke
I drink
I'm never ill
I hate illness
I live it the south, but I'm a northerner.
I am a non-ponce of the highest credentials.
If you want a face off with me, you won't win.

There are billions of people on this planet who are wimps, who invent things, allergies, phobias, and fears. About six billion, in general. I guess it's called being human.

However, a handful of people in that number actually do suffer from crippling mental phobia. And they come on Mumsnet for some support.

Yes, occasionally I feel that the benefit of the doubt is in order. Occasionally I think that someone is just weak. But I don't post on those threads.

I will post when someone on MN that I know to have a phobia is in distress or trouble.